How To Tell Your Boyfriend That You Cheated On Him

You’re likely reading this because you cheated on your boyfriend or husband and now you feel overwhelmed with guilt and want to tell him.

 

 

You want to tell him the truth, but you are scared shitless to lose him over it and have no idea what to do.

 

If you’re like many of the women I have coached, your relationship is in not good right now, and you don’t know how to find a way out of this mess. Well, today, I’m going to show you how to get out of it.

 

 

When you go to your boyfriend to tell him you have cheated on him, you have to do so very, very carefully!

 

The good news is, if you go about things in the right way, many men will be receptive to the truth (within reason), and will not leave you over it.

 

In fact, if you handle telling him the truth about cheating on him the right way, it can ultimately cause you two to become closer than ever before.

 

But let’s not be “fairytale” about it. Feelings will get hurt. Ego will get hurt.

 

But there is much you can do to mitigate the damage to your relationship with your boyfriend or husband and ensure a better outcome to the story, which I will be sharing with you in this article.

 

What are my qualifications? 

 

Well, my name is Brandon Martin and I’ve been coaching women on the topics of men, dating and relationships for more than ten years at the time of this writing.

 

Aside from coaching women, I have been in two separate long-term relationships with women who ended up cheating… both I caught redhanded.

 

I’m not here to judge you about what you did. Just by you being here and reading, I respect that you are trying to fix the situation. 

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My disclaimer: this article is not to be take as “professional advice”. Think of this as for entertainment purposes only.

 

With that said, I know what works and what doesn’t with men if your goal is to KEEP your man after he finds out you cheated on him.

 

There are many mistakes that women make when they tell their boyfriend or husband the truth about their “extracurricular activities” and want to keep him.

 

In this article, I’m going to show you exactly how to tell your boyfriend or husband that you cheated to ensure the best outcome.

1. Not Showing Enough Remorse

I’ve discovered that when women either tell that they have cheated or get “found out”, strangely many women  rationalize WHY they cheated and either subtly or very overtly blame the guy for doing it.

I shouldn’t have to say this, but I will be clear.

 

Do not in any way blame him for cheating or rationalize why you did it (if your goal is to keep him in your life), no matter what he may have done to push you to cheat.

 

At the moment you confess, he may be overwhelmed with denial, upset feelings, anger and pain.  The last thing you want to do is intensify these feelings and throw gasoline on the fire by rationalizing why he did or blaming him.

 

As a side note, it’s extremely important that you keep your cool and don’t take anything negative he says personally.

 

The bottom line is, when you tell him, you need to show remorse. One thing that I’ll never forget when I found out one of my girlfriends cheated on me is she said with tears in her eyes “I will spend the rest of my life making this up to you”.

 

This one line stuck with me and I recommend saying something along similar line when you make your confession.

2. Blaming Him For Cheating

As I have already mentioned, blaming him for cheating or rationalizing why you cheated is a big no no.

 

At a later date, it may be possible to talk about the reasons behind why you cheated, but at the initial confession, there will be too many emotions.

 

Even if he asks you why, your answers should be along the lines of “there is no excuse for what I did”.

 

Many women, not being able to cope with what they have done and the guilt of hurting someone they love, they uncontrollably start deflecting and blaming to make themselves feel better.

3. Showing Too Much Remorse For Cheating

If you show too much remorse and you’re sobbing and crying and there’s snotting flying out of your nose, this is going take away from your attractiveness.

 

Before you tell your man you cheated, you absolutely must forgive yourself for doing it.

 

You must take time meditating on this until you can truly release at least most of the guilt you feel.

 

You must tell your man with calmness, strength, submission and a desire to do the right things.

 

You will sub-communicate all of these things when you have forgiven yourself and yet want to do the right thing and tell him the truth.

 

You’ll also have to do things like remind him that doing the right thing and telling the truth should be rewarded and not to punish you for coming forward.

 

You can only say such things if you have forgiven yourself to so extent.

5. Telling Him Too Many Details About The Affair

At the moment you tell him, he will have many question.

 

A part of him will want to know details that will hurt him a lot.

 

It’s as if he wants to hurt more by knowing too much.

 

You can answer his questions, but I recommend that any “Is he bigger than me?” or  “Was he better than me?” type questions be answered with a firm “No”.

 

Remember, his ego will be shattered. This is just the reality that you must accept. So you need to take every measure to salvage his ego as best as possible without adding fuel to the fire.

 

All your answers should help tame the fire that is going to be unleashed.

4. Waiting Too Long To Tell Him You Cheated

This is the part that a lot of women hate hearing, but the sooner you tell him the better.

 

Even if you know that you got away with cheating and there is no way he will ever find out, there are important reasons why waiting is a bad idea if you want a happy ending… and you want this situation to actually be an event that helps you to grow closer together.

 

The reason why waiting too long is a bad idea is simply because the guilt of cheating eats most women alive.

 

This guilt causes women to lash out and become “emotional” and unpredictable in the relationship which leads to fights, bickering, finger pointing, paranoia that he’s cheating too etc. etc. the decline of the relationship.

 

I have seen this many, many times both in women’s relationships who I coach and in my own personal relationships with women.

 

If I’m a betting man, I think you already are seeing this happen in your relationship.

Final Thoughts

This has been a brief overview of how to tell your man that you cheated.

 

But the truth is there is MUCH MORE you must understand about men and relationships to both tell him the truth in this situation AND ensure that your relationship is a process of growth from here on in.

That is why you need to sign up for my free eLetter down below where I will send you emails every few days with the best relationship and men advice you can find.

 

I wish you luck in your situation and I will see you in the eLetter.

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Brandon Martin's 4 Secrets To How To Save A Relationship Quickly...

I’m about to share with you four powerful secrets to save a relationship and get the love, respect and appreciation you deserve from a man.

I’ve shared my tips and secrets with thousands of women around the world. Secrets like how men think, why men do things like pull away or shut down… and what a woman can do to spark deep levels of love and affection, and commitment.

What I’ve learn after coaching everyone from students to surgeons is that no matter what walk of life you’re from, men can cause pain and frustration if you don’t handle them properly.

When you’re with a man who stops appreciating you and starts acting like a jackass…

That’s about the time that most women give up and lose at love and start asking the question “what am I doing so wrong? How do I save this relationship?”

If you’re like the many women I’ve coached over the years, you’ve experienced this.

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After years of investigating relationship dynamics and meeting with experts, I’ve found that 99% of bad situations with men can be turned around. You can get more love, affection and intimacy from your man than you thought possible and have your dream relationship if you know these secrets.

It’s actually quite simple to do just by making a few simple adjustments to the way you approach men and relationships. Unfortunately, most women will know how to save a relationship.

Men start acting stupid for specific reasons, and if you understand why, you’ll get the love and admiration you’ve always wanted.

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1. Men Experience Love & Relationships Differently Than Women

After spending years coaching different women, I noticed a mistake women commonly make that prevents them for saving a relationship.

It’s an innocent mistake…

This mistake leads men to feel misunderstood and frustrated, which causes men to pull away, lose attraction and even fall out of love… and start acting like a jackass.

I’m willing to bet you are doing it too.

If you stop doing this you can save your relationship, REVERSE damage with your man, and see instant positive changes in his energy towards you.

The mistake is most women tend to assume that men think about and experience love, attraction and relationships the same way they do as a woman.

Women tend to value things like openess, affection, intimacy, sharing, trust, commitment and security in a relationship.

These are all fantastic things. The problem is men tend to prioritize equally beautiful things that are different.

A few things that men tend to value (on a list of hundreds) are things like unpredictability, independence, respect and challenge.

This (helps) explains the male fascination with fast cars, football and video games…

Do you see a pattern here?

Men have different expectations for a relationship than women.

Men are secretly hoping for a girlfriend who is unpredictable, independent, who they respect and who will challenge them to grow to the next level of their personal evolution.

When men end up unfulfilled, things start unraveling.

Then you will see guys not returning your phone calls, not putting in effort or playing too many video games or being a jerk.

If you are make the wrong assumptions about how men “should” be… not how they actually are, chances are you’ll run into big problems.

If you aren’t fulfilling what men need at their core, you’re going to find that guys pull away, shut down and lose interest in you.

You just need to learn how to properly challenge men, be unpredictable, and learn what causes a man to RESPECT a woman.

2. Why Men Lose Attraction & Fall Out Of Love

I get asked all the time “Brandon, why do men get into relationship and then lose interest and fall out of love?”

The fact is, in almost every case, it’s 100% possible to stop a man from losing attraction, save a relationship and start making him feel deep love, respect and attraction for you.

One big challenge that causes many women to lose love and attraction with men is women simply don’t understand men’s love and attraction mechanisms.

This has a lot to do with what women are told as girls about how men are “supposed” to be.

Men are more complicated than most people realize… including men themselves.

The old notion that men “only want one thing” has been passed over, and today we know that men have a deep, widely misunderstood complexity.

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If you’re neglecting his needs and emotions as a man, you’re bound to see him lose attraction, act distant and even fall out of love.

The trick to saving a relationship is to understand what he truly needs, not what you think he needs.

Where the fog gets thicker is what men say they want and what men actually respond to emotionally are often completely different things.

A man may say he wants a big breasted skinny blonde… It’s hard to imagine that man has actually landed on the moon.

But the truth, is he may be far more happy and in love with a more or less “average” women if she pushes the right emotional buttons in him.

What are those women doing that most others aren’t?

Men can be insensitive assholes… but if you learn what men universally need at their emotional core to feel satisfied by a woman, you can save a relationship situation.

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3. Most Of What You've Been Taught About Men Is Wrong

Television, romance novels, gossip magazines, and other women have done a fantastic job at royally confusing most women on how to save a relationship.

Why don’t boyfriends act the way everyone says they are supposed to?

Women are more confused about men and love than ever, and more than ever women are asking “what the hell do men want?”

Men don’t behave, think or respond to the things that most people SAY they do.

What I’ve found after years of sifting through misinformation on men is that most “advice” out there is either outdated or inaccurate.

How do men really feel about love and relationships?

After years of talking with guys on the subject, I’ve come to some answers.

Men LOVE love and relationships.

In fact, most men want to find one woman who they can spend their life with and be in love with forever.

The problem is… many men aren’t finding the type of woman that truly inspire them.

How you save a relationship is by bringing forth those qualities that initially inspired your man to be with you in the first place.

4. When You Have A Problem In Your Love Life, Ask For Help

I’ve seen too many good women do this… 

Go on for too long in terrible circumstances in their relationships without getting real help.

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