A Man "Ghosted" You? Here's What To Do Next

When a man “ghosts” you after leading you to believe that he likes or even loves you, it’s an extremely confusing situation.

 

Sometimes men make it clear that he is very interested, and then poof… he’s gone.

He doesn’t reply to your messages, he doesn’t call, he doesn’t send anything at all.

 

The first thought that runs through many women’s head is, is he ok? Is his phone broken?

 

Did he DIE?

 

After these initial thoughts wear off and she gets a bit more clear headed (or sees his active status on social media), she may start wondering if there is another woman involved, or what possible reason he has to ghost her.

This is usually when the woman comes out of denial and anger sets in.


“How could he do this to me?” some women think. “How could he lead me on like this and then disappear?”

This is usually when the woman comes out of denial and anger sets in.

 

“How could he do this to me?” some women think. “How could he lead me on like this and then disappear?”

 

This is the hurt ego.

 

Most women in this situation can’t comprehend why a man would ghost out. It seems to make no sense at all, especially if he was showing a lot of interest or wanting to be together beforehand.

 

Well, after years of researching relationships between men and women and coaching thousands of women around the world, I’ve found that there are three foundational reasons we must consider why a man will “ghost” a woman.

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Possibility 1: He's Ghosting You Because He Has Life Issues

He may have issues in his life blocking him from wanting to a relationship with you.

 

It could be family, work or life related… and it’s all about how HE is processing those events.

 

Not everyone is as mature as the Dalai Lama, and many men often handle relationships and life in immature or inefficient ways.

 

 

People are not perfect and often handle life in ineffective ways.

 

This is just something we must accept.

 

While you may feel that if you were in his life, you could make his life easier, he may not see it that way… and that’s just something we have to respect.

 

Why?

 

Because the harder you push a man to open up to you, the more likely he will dig his heals in and resist you.

 

Why?

 

Because men often need time and space to deal with issues. When they are forced to do something they’re not comfortable with (whatever the reason), it often makes men feel not understood and isolated. Not good if you want to get closer to him.

Possibility 2: You're Doing Something To Cause Him To Ghost You

The second more likely reason why a man will ghost a woman is because of MISTAKES IN HER APPROACH to him.

 

Yes, even though he might have said sweet nothing to you before he ghosted, the fact is that he DID ghost you after all…. as much as the that might sting to hear.

 

One of the BIGGEST reasons why men are affectionate and then ghost out is when a woman interacts in a way with a guy that makes him feel TRAPPED.

 

Yes.

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Even though he was showing interest, many women don’t know how their energy and words truly affect men.

Men are not very open (even with themselves) about their honest feelings.

 

While he might THINK that he wants you, he THINK things like you are attractive, you would make a good girlfriend, mother of his children etc. his HEART is not FEELING the correct feeling… namely the insatiable desire to be with you and only you.

 

This is a dangerous position for a man because this can spur a little something called “commitment phobia”.

It’s this insatiable, highly emotional desire to be with a woman that I focus on teaching women how to make men feel.

 

This combined with how many women inadvertently come off as overly needy, talk about the future, this will push a man away fast.

 

Different men handle it differently. Some men will tell you to your face, other men will ghost because they don’t want to or don’t know how to deal with the situation.

 

It’s not that he’s a bad guy, it’s just that he doesn’t know any better and perhaps no one ever taught him how to deal with a situation like this.

 

The third reason is he has another woman in the picture.

 

In this situation, the only thing you can do is look like the BEST option for him.

 

This means becoming the woman who effortlessly creates an emotional bond in any man she choses.

 

This is something that ANY woman can learn to do if she so chooses and has the motivation to do so.

 

Often, the most powerful motivation for becoming our most attractive self is experiencing a situation in which we feel paralyzed emotionally and rejected by the object of our affection, perhaps the feeling you currently have.

Possibility 3: Another Woman Is In The Picture

In this situation, what you must do is look like the BEST choice for him.

 

Most women in this situation make the same mistakes that all the other woman make, making them look like every other woman and not special.

 

This means engaging in behaviors that lower a man’s attraction rather than increasing his attraction.

 

 

This means becoming the woman who effortlessly creates an emotional bond in any man she choses.

 

 

This is something that ANY woman can learn to do if she so chooses and has the motivation to do so.

 

 

Often, the most powerful motivation for becoming our most attractive self is experiencing a situation in which we feel paralyzed emotionally and rejected by the object of our affection, perhaps the feeling you currently have.

What To Do Now

When a man ghosts you, the best thing you can possibly do is GIVE HIM AND THE SITUATION SPACE.

 

Most women who are ghosted, out of the fear of losing the guy, blow up a man’s phone asking him what he’s doing, where he is and what’s going on.

 

All this usually does is push the guy further away by demonstrating more of the behavior that were already pushing him away.

 

Many women either don’t get a response back or get a very excuse ridden, unsatisfying response that makes them feel even worse than before.

You need to start learning what men TRULY want from women… not just what society says men “should” want.

 

 

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