When your man - your "one" - won't come back after a breakup, there is one thing that never seems more important and more impossible to do: get him back.
And not just get him back, but get him in love with you with that deep glimmer when he looks at you that says you are the only one for him, and he wouldn't rather be with anyone else.
The good news it's NOT impossible to get your ex-boyfriend back... actually far from it.
I'd like to ask you a few questions, and as I ask them try to answer them with an open, rational mind as best you can.
- Did the man you deeply love break up with you leaving you completely alone, gut-wrenched and heart-shattered ... you don't want the relationship to be over or him to walk out of your life... but you feel like everything you've tried to get him back does nothing to change his mind, and it feels like there's nothing you can do to stop it?
The very LAST thing you want is for things to be over - perhaps you even imagined yourself spending the rest of your life with him - but it seems like now there's nothing you can do.
And everything you have tried like:
- Telling him you'll always love him.
- Letting him know you'll always be there for him.
- Promising you'll change and that things will be different from now on.
- Telling him you'll always be his friend.
- Sending him heart warming letters, cards or emails.
- Using clever strategies, tricks or even "games".
- Calling or emailing him to let him know you're thinking about him and that you still care so he won't forget about you...
Doesn't seems to get through to him to love you and be with you again.
He's shut down from you completely and isn't open at all like he used to be before he left and everything that led up to it, and you're more confused about how he feels than ever.
You can't figure out whether he thinks about you or doesn't care.
And every time you try to get closer and it doesn't lead somewhere, you feel that deep sinking feeling in your stomach of hopelessness.
Here's another important question:
- Is your ex-boyfriend cold, aloof and shut down from you after he broke up with you for seemingly no reason... and the more you try to talk with him about the relationship and hopefully work something out to be together again, the more he pulls away... you're left guessing what's happening, what to do and why he left because he won't tell you why he broke up with you?
You try staying friends and assuring him you'll always be there for him and that he's the only man for you... or you told him that things would be different and tried talking about the different way that you could "patch up" the relationship?
I'm guessing that everyone around you told you things like "there's plenty of fish in the sea" or "you deserve better, he was just a jerk."
But the more you hear this, the more it only makes you feel the pain of losing the man you really want to be with.
He just doesn't open up to the possibility at all and keeps drifting further and further away and even started doing things that deeply upset you like hanging out the guys more, or even hanging around other women.
You felt completely out of control.
- Do you feel that your relationship ended with him because of something you did wrong to make him fall out of love with you... or something you didn't do right to make him happy and love you more?
You felt the relationship ended because of things you shouldn't have done or didn't do well enough.
You felt that there was more you could have done... and many things you could have stopped doing that would have kept him from leaving, but your emotions overtook you and made you do things you later regretted.
You thought too much about how much your needs weren't being met instead of what he needed from you, and then you later paid the price.
If you're like the many women I've coached through breakups, you've experienced this.
And what's the most painful part of going through all of this?
Well if you ask me, the most PAINFUL part of all of this is having to go through the most agonizing experience of your life ALONE.
Your friends don't get it.
Your family doesn't get it.
And the only person who can help you is no longer there for you.
The most FRUSTRATING part is not getting any positive response out of him that LASTS no matter how hard you try and no matter what you do, and that's the part that really makes you pull your hair out (or cut it off).
And the SCARIEST part of all is thinking about whether he's going to meet someone new - or that he already has - and if he will be happier than he was with you.
There's one thing you must understand if you're to get your man back...
If you don't radically change your approach and learn the subtle secrets of how to make your man feel that "special feeling" for you again and quickly - and instead rely on the hope that he will eventually come back if you keep doing what you're doing - your chances are very slim that you'll ever get him back.
BUT, no matter how "bad", unique or messed up you're situation is right now, and no matter how lot or little hope you have left in the tank, if you go about handling your situation the RIGHT way, there IS hope that you will get you man back.
Understanding His Resistance To Coming Back
The billion dollar question is: Why did he really leave, what's going on in his head and why is he so resistant to coming back to you?
This is one of the most confusing and insanity driving things about a breakup, because you've probably found he won't give you very straight answers. Not to mention he's being very cold, distant and acts almost like he was never in love with you at all.
He's almost like a completely different person now.
From all of the women I've helped in breakups, what most can't help but do in a situation like this is simply eat all of the ice cream in the fridge... or stop eating all together and stay in bed for days, or even weeks or months.
Some women end up obsessing and over-analyzing every little thing that happened with him sometimes for years over trying to answer what happened.
What's more confusing is in some cases he's even telling you "I love you".
And what more disheartening than anything else is when he tells you coldly that "it's over" and "you should move on".
It got me thinking... why? What the hell is going on here?
As a guy myself, I've said and done things like this in the past. But if you asked me at the time, I wouldn't have been able to explain what was happening.
The best I would have been able to say is "a switch went off", and after talking with a lot of guys on the subject, that's the experience that most guys have... and it's NOT for the reasons that you think.
It's hard enough going through an excruciating breakup where everything you've grown attached to and love has been torn away from you, but the fact that now he's pushing you further and further away makes things ten times worse...
Well, before we go on any further there's something you should know.
None of this is your fault or really has anything to do with you... no matter how "to blame" you feel or how badly you messed up... and more importantly I've seen many couples get back together even when a guy coldly says he has no desire to get back with a certain woman and that it's over for him.
What's more is after many years of researching breakups (sometimes seriously screwed up situations) I have found the underlying root causes of why men leave and stay away from women... and what to do about it so that instead of moving away from you, he's running back to you.
The answers that I found were that most women completely overlook or don't understand, even the so-called "experts" out there, and I believe that these secrets will help YOU in your situation right now.
7 Mistakes That Most Women Make During A Breakup That Keep A Man From Coming Back
There ARE reasons why he is pushing you away, why he doesn't care anymore, and why you can't get him to come back no matter how hard you try.
After spending years helping thousands of women get their man back, I started seeing consistent patterns in most breakups.
What I found was a pattern of easily avoidable mistakes women were making after a breakup that was pushing the man far away and preventing him from ever coming back.
What is more interesting, most women are completely unaware they're making these mistakes and are under the believe that doing these thing actually help their situation...
When I show women to stop making these mistakes, their man's reaction changes almost instantly.
It's actually shocking how easy it is, like twinkle dust.
I'm about to share with you the seven most common mistakes that women make with their boyfriends during a breakup that pushes a man further away and actually prevents him from coming back.
If you understand how YOU are making these mistakes and then STOP doing them, you can avoid pushing your man away for good.
By the way, if you see any that you have been doing for a long period of time and it worries you, it's nothing to worry about just so long as you stop doing them immediately... there is always hope no matter how bad the situation is.
1. Calling Too Often
What most women do after a breakup is call, text, email or hang out with their now ex-boyfriend even more.
Logically, it makes "sense" to keep in contact with him so that he doesn't "forget" about you. You think if you call enough times maybe he will realize the mistake he made and take you back... not to mention that the feelings of wanting to be with him and around him now are overwhelming.
As much as I'd love to say that increasing your contact with him will bring your man back to you, the reality is this is based in an emotionalized fantasy created by the immense pain and rejection you are going through. In reality, this is basically illogical wishful thinking.
The truth is this.
He has broken up with you, which is another way of him saying that he wants his space. The reason for that is because of mistakes you may were making with him throughout the relationship when you were still together.
But the more you start calling, texting emailing or hanging out with him, the more annoyed he's going to become and the more he'll want to pull away and not come back.
Sadly, I've seen many women ignore this and give the man almost NO space after a breakup, and they continue calling, emailing, faxing etc. more and more until he can't take it anymore and makes the break for good.
I'm NOT saying to not contact him at all (and depending on your situation if you stop contacting him it could be a disastrous move). But if you continue to listen to and act on your irrational, fear-based, painful emotions instead of following a logical, planned out map for your situation that has been proven to work to get men back many, many times, you can move this breakup into far more dangerous waters.
When you stop this mistake, and you lay off a bit on calling or messaging him, you're setting yourself up correctly to take the power back in this situation, which is exactly what we want.
2. Talking About The Breakup With Him
A mistake that most women tend to make in a breakup (and it's another one that seems "logical" when you're doing it) is talking to him about your feelings about the breakup.
Why is this a mistake?
Because in 99% of cases, when you're having a conversation about the breakup, you have an another motive: to try to convince him to be with you again.
In a more understanding world where men were more sensitive, this would be a great thing to get him to open up about his repressed feelings towards you.
But sadly, this is NOT the situation... no matter how "sensitive" your man is, and he's not going to open up in a situation like this, especially if he feels pressured.
It saddens me when I coach women through breakups and they blatantly go into denial about their man being "different" and believes that her "intuition" is accurate in this very painful and confusing life event.
I've got news for you.
He left you and doesn't want to talk about the relationship anymore.
I know it's hard to hear, but the more you talk about your feelings with him, the more he's going to want to get away from you and never come back, EVEN IF HE SAYS HE WANTS TO TALK.
Because the more you fall into his "version" of reality, which is that you two are over, the more he wins and the more defeated you will feel.
If you haven't been making the RIGHT changes, then his version of a "talk" is not going to help you get what you want.
You must first learn what rebuilds your desirability and attractiveness in his eyes after this breakup where you've lost these things, and talking about the breakup is not going to build any desire or attraction.
This is one of those things that I've seen many "relationship experts" and books out there say to do, but I can assure you after seeing thousands of women do this unsuccessfully with men, it just doesn't work this way.
And the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
You must think less "logically" and think more "emotionally".
Attraction is an emotional phenomenon.
A man never says "Hmm, this woman is a good communicators, has the proper hips to waste ratio, and has all these other qualities, so I'm going to decide to be attracted now."
But you always hear men say "I don't know what it is about this girl, but I can't stop thinking about her. I've been up all night telling myself this is going to end up bad, but who am I kidding, I can't stop thinking about her".
Bingo. Think gut level.
And if you understand what ATTRACTS your man on a biological and psychological level after this breakup, that woman can and WILL be YOU.
3. Dating Other Men
There's one common thing that all women share when they are in a breakup.
Immense FEAR of him dating another woman and moving on.
What does this cause most women to do?
They want to go out and find someone BEFORE he does.
So she can feel more in control, and hopefully to make him feel jealous and want her again.
I'll admit, in SOME cases this might work, but you really have to be fully aware of the situation... and in most cases there are so many emotions happening that it's nearly impossible to see the situation clearly without outside help.
But the fact is in MOST cases dating another man after a breakup will cause a man to pull away completely.
But that's not a "death sentence" if you've already done this.
If you know how to steer the situation correctly, you CAN bounce back, and still win his heart.
4. Being Too Prideful
One huge reason why this breakup are so hard is because of one thing: ego... from one or both sides.
Many women, often women who have been broken up with many times before, go into a mode of pride and ego with a man they've been broken up by, and often insist "I was going to breakup with him anyway".
The underlying truth is they are trying to avoid being vulnerable and feeling REJECTED once again, and they tell the man that getting broken up with doesn't hurt.
She's afraid to be honest about her true feelings and that she actually is really hurt because she doesn't want to give her power away.
What she's really doing is trying to communicate to him that she doesn't need him.
The problem is this is NOT what will get him to come back.
If he doesn't want you, then he's not going to care whether or not you want him... that only works when you already have his interest.
And if he does want you, you can actually end up pushing him away for good without even realizing that you are hurting him.
There are three reasons why this is a big mistake.
One, if he's already fallen out of love with you and wants to move on, this won't cause any kind of reaction in him to want you again... and chances are he will know on some level what you are doing.
Secondly, pretending not to care may actually STOP him from thinking about being with you again even if he was thinking about it, because you will trigger HIS prideful side.
The last is depending on WHY he broke up with you, you are PROVING his decision to breakup with you.
You must give him an easy pathway to come back to you... and with getting your boyfriend to come back, it's all about paving the way so he can easily come back to you.
The good news is it's not too late to fix things.
You must learn to spark attraction and trust again.
If you truly want him back, and you learn to put aside your ego and do not what you want or think should work, but what truly works to make him attracted on a gut level, you can get him approaching YOU for a relationship again.
5. Acting Needy And Emotional With Him
When you're overly sensitive and emotionally raw, you haven't accepted the breakup as reality and you're also asking him to do things like:
- Not "go out with the guys."
- Not hang out with other women.
- Not do anything that involves him having fun without you.
And then you get deeply upset when he does, you're not just preventing him from wanting you again, but you're killing his attraction, trust and respect for you.
When you are needy, overly emotional, and are trying analyze everything about him and the situation, you're at the same time losing his attraction for you.
When you lose his attraction and desire, you have nothing to motivate him to come back to you.
You want him to still be your boyfriend, but after this breakup you are emotionally raw and you just want to be with him, and you can't almost stand to be around him when he's just your friend.
I agree with you, he shouldn't be doing these things out of respect for your feelings.
The problem is by acting this way, you're not commanding the respect you deserve, and you're actually leading him to walk all over you and your feelings.
Acting needy and emotional with him is a big TURNOFF to him right now, and that's why you've probably found he's pushing you away aggressively, and may even be downright rude.
What he's going to find attractive instead of repellent are things like unpredictability, femininity, light-heartedness and VALUE.
It may seem difficult right now, but with the right tools at hand it becomes a lot easier.
These are things that men find attractive UNIVERSALLY, and a breakup doesn't change that, in fact a breakup will only amplify his attraction for these things.
If you learn what he truly needs from you to be attracted and DESIRE you again, why he broke up with you, and what he wants and needs from you to want a relationship again, you'll put HIM in the place of wanting you as badly as you want him right now.
6. False Optimism
This is probably the most painful mistake to admit to doing, because it involves seeing through a "fantasy" you may have set up in your situation to make yourself feel better.
But once you see the REALITY of this breakup situation, that's your only chance of getting him to truly desire you.
Here's what I'm talking about.
Many women go into deep depression after a breakup... and incidentally, they get excited any time he makes any step towards her and think that him making contact with her is a positive sign that he still wants her and is thinking about coming back.
I hate to say this, and the last thing I want to do is hurt your feelings, but this is simply not true.
The truth is your negative emotions right now are creating many optical illusions.
An optical illusion is when one thing looks like something else.
Have you ever seen those 3D pictures you have to cross your eyes to see? When you just look at the picture normally, it doesn't look like much more than squiggly lines and bright colors... But once you cross your eyes, all of a sudden the whole picture appears... you can see a dog flying through the air chasing a hot dog with wings...
But seriously, the first time you look at the picture, you have to learn and practice seeing it differently so you can see past the surface illusions and see what is really going on beneath what appears to be happening on the surface.
If you think he's coming back, but there's even the slightest change you're misinterpreting his behaviors and are "talking" with him on the wrong level, you're going to, in essence, "rat yourself out" and show him that you don't "get" it and wind up pushing him away.
That's because in order for him to want you, you must be what he wants... and if he has left you that's a clear sign that from the beginning of the relationship to the end, you became something he didn't want.
And what's worse is if you allow this breakup to toy with your emotions and drive you crazy, you can actually become even LESS of what he wants even after he broke up with you.
But there is good news.
If you stop living this fantasy, or trying to pretend everything is "okay" when you actually really don't know what is going on, you open yourself up to the possibility of learning what he is truly thinking and taking the right actions towards him and then that's your chance to change how he is thinking about you... and get him thinking about being with you again.
Learning how he feels is scary at first, but it soon turns into more HOPE because now you know what you need to do.
When you truly KNOW the reality of your situation, why he left you, what his behaviors REALLY mean, then you open yourself up to the only possibility you have of making your relationship with him once again warm, loving, secure and most of all happy... and becoming the woman that he truly can't stop thinking about in REAL LIFE.
7. Demonstrating "Low Value"
One of the most COMMON mistake most women make when a man has left them is demonstrating LOW VALUE... and then hoping that he will "save" her because of it.
Let me explain.
Do you remember when Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt broke up a few years ago?
From what went on after the breakup, it was very obvious that Brad left Jenn.
Is this true?
Before, Jenn was living the high life as an A-list celebrity. But when Brad and her broke up, it was visibly obvious that she was shaken, her movie roles decreased, her value as a celebrity fell and she became the "butt" of many celebrity jokes from comedians.
She was considered "B-List" by most of the magazines for a long time, and is just now starting to make a come back.
Now whether it was intentional or not makes no difference. But, did Brad feel bad and sorry for her, pity her and decide that it was time to save her and get back together?
They never got back together, and Brad got with the younger, more attractive Angelina Jolie.
Men are attracted to women with HIGH value... but you don't need to be attractive, young or famous.
All you need to know is exactly what your man truly finds valuable, and then do those things... and there is a long list of things you can start doing to easily raise your value.
One thing is simply to STOP demonstrating that you are of lower value.
The biggest thing that most women do that is a CLEAR indicator of low value to a man is when they start going out with their friends frequently after a breakup hoping that he will find out about it and get jealous.
This triggers alarm bells to go off inside his head because he knows that: you're desperate, you don't know what you're doing without him and you're trying to manipulate him.
I'm not saying not to go out and have fun, but don't do it for all the wrong reasons.
Don't make the same mistake that Jennifer Aniston made.
If you hope that he will come back because he feels sorry for you because of how much pain you are in and how life isn't going the way you want, you're not going to get what you want.
He's not going to "save" you, and the more you demonstrate lower value, the more resistant he'll be to ever seeing you again.
Your man wants to be with a woman is has higher value and higher status, and these things don't come in the form of youth, attractiveness or fame... they come in the form of your ATTITUDE about yourself.
The truth is he is looking for something of HIGHER value than what he had before with you... but if you know what he is looking for, that higher value something can be YOU.
The problem is it can feel like we feel "stuck" in a negative way of acting in emotionally tough situations.
But there is good news.
Who Is Brandon, And How Can He Help You Get Your Man Back?
If you learn and understand him as a man, his psychology, why he left the relationship and the right way to approach and handle this "breakup" with him, that's enough to get you feeling 100% CONFIDENT that you CAN turn everything around and take back the power and make him fall in love with you again quickly and easily... no matter how bad or "different" your situation seems.
I've spent the last five years teaching women all over the world how to create and enjoy a better relationship where men are easily attracted, open, communicative and in love LONG-TERM, in my books, seminars and programs.
It's been my personal goal (and privilege) to help correct many of the travesties and easily avoidable heartbreaks of love and relationships that so many women face, simply because of a lack of understanding of men, a lack of understanding of their own psychology, and a lack of understanding of the true dynamics of how to make a man love you even after a breakup.
After helping women with their relationships for year (when they still had their man around), I found that most women were coming to me in the worst possible relationship issue there is: a breakup.
And it made perfect sense to me. A breakup with a man is the the most painful and confusing situation to be in.
So I decided that I wanted to do something about it.
The big problem I found was that what many so-called "experts" on breakups had to say did really make much sense and didn't really work very well, and what they had to teach was often dishonest, manipulative and actually pushed men away more.
I myself have never been broken up with by a man...
BUT (and you may not be very happy with me about this) in the past I have been the one who has broken up with women.
And to tell you the truth, I have also experienced the unbearable agony of being broken up with (by women)many times in the past, and for me, those time were the WORST times I can remember in my life. Perhaps these are two of the reasons I became a teacher of relationships years later.
For me personally as a teacher of relationships with men, the worst part of breaking up with a woman was knowing how much she was hurting simply because of a lack of knowledge.
It affected me deeply.
So after all of this, I wanted to do something about it, because contrary to popular believe, in the mind of all men is the desire to be with one special woman who fulfills him.
And the truth is, it doesn't matter if he's been with that woman before and failed with her or not. If you know how to trigger his attraction right, NONE OF YOUR PAST WITH HIM MATTERS AT ALL. All that matter is if you trigger specifics part of your man's mind to respond to you.
And this is something that all men WANT very badly, but rarely get.
Look I know, it can be embarrassing asking for help.
But the truth is asking for help is the first step to getting what you want, otherwise you're going to continue doing the same things over and over with no new information entering into your life, and remember, the definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting a different outcome.
The REAL REASON Why Most Women Will Always Fail To Get Their Boyfriend Back -- And What To Do About It
There are just two simple reasons that literally STOP 99.9% of women from getting their boyfriends back.
And this is something that I've seen every woman who does get their boyfriend back avoid like the plague.
And if you want your boyfriend back, you're going to have to avoid these two things like the plague.
The first mistake is allowing yourself to feel hopeless and sulk about your situation and doing nothing about it.
Thinking that your situation is so bad that you can't do anything anymore to earn his trust, respect and get him to desire a relationship with you... and that your man doesn't want you anymore so all hope is lost.
When you think fear-based, emotionally negative thoughts (which is one reason that caused this breakup with your man in the first place) the simple fact is you're not living in line with reality.
Actually, you're living quite far from the reality.
The REALITY is I've seen some pretty MESSED UP situations where if the woman kept even a droplet of hope alive, she was actually far more likely to get her man back.
When you think negatively, pessimistic, cynical thoughts about your situation, not only are you hurting yourself and your self-esteem and INSPIRATION to get your man back, but you're also hurting his psychological attraction for you.
Most women completely miss this point and thus never get their man back.
Now, the second more dangerous mistake is acting out of desperation.
When you are in a mode of emotion, fear, anger and pain, any action that comes out of it will be the WRONG action. Period. Because despair speaks louder than any action that comes from it.
It's just like in that old romantic comedy Breakfast at Tiffany's.
Remember when Audrey Hepburn is paid a lot of money to have these hour long conversations with that incarcerated moss boss and then deliver his messages to the someone on the outside?
What she doesn't realize is that these conversations are NOT INNOCENT. She's actually delivering secret coded messages WITHOUT EVEN KNOWING IT.
She ends up paying the price later by getting arrest and going to jail, even though she had no idea what she had done.
So why am I going on about this movie?
Because this is EXACTLY what most women are doing after a breakup.
They think that acting out of desperation is innocent, and they might as well do something rather than nothing, but they only know what what they are doing and saying means on the SURFACE. They don't understand what they are ACTUALLY communicating has another meaning that is being closely paid attention to by him.
In fact, it's the only thing that's being paid attention to.
When you act out of desperation, you send so many negative signals to your man that you would be incredibly bored listening to me list them off for hours and hours...
If you're doing this, then in reality you are "breaking the law" and "landing yourself in jail" of another kind far more painful.
It's like saying you didn't eat the cookies from the cookie jar, but the smudged chocolate all over your face tells the REAL story... no matter how hard you try to convince everyone that you didn't eat those cookies, the proof is blindly obvious to everyone EXCEPT YOU.
The lesson here is to STOP acting out of hopeless confused desperation and START acting out of FOCUSED INSPIRATION.
It's time to start thinking more RATIONALLY about your situation, and leave all of those bad feelings behind and start working with your man and this breakup situation in a way that has been proven to work time and again.
Turning The Table And Making Him Want You As Badly As You Want Him
Something DRASTIC needs to change for you in order to bring you out of the dark confusion of not knowing what to do to get your man back in your arms and put you back "in the know" of exactly what you need to do to bring him back to you as quickly as possible and understand everything that is happening in his head... and in yours.
You need somebody with CLARITY who can help take you by the hand through this confusing and painful situation and show to you the REALITY of what is happening (not what your fear-based thoughts may THINK is happening) and then show you what needs to happen to get your man back for good.
What you need more than anything else right now is somebody who UNDERSTANDS those "coded messages" your boyfriend is sending YOU and can show you what they mean and what to do about them.
You need awareness of your seemingly "innocent" actions that are actually making the situation worse and stopping you from getting your ex-boyfriend back.
And then, you need to know EXACTLY WHAT TO DO to get him back, and keep him back.
And if you allow me and trust me, I can be that person for you, just like I've done for thousands of other women around the world just like yourself in bad, unique or messy breakup situations where getting him back almost seems impossible.
They have seen their men come back after seemingly impossible odds and go on to form wonderful, fulfilling, loving relationships with the man they love in their lives again... and now for the first time YOU can too.
Taking Back The POWER From Him...
If you are truly ready to get your ex-boyfriend back and get back the love and happiness that not only do you deserve but rightfully BELONGS to you, and you're done living out the heartbreak of him not being in your life anymore, I'm about to share some really good news with you.
I've just finished creating a program that I've literally been researching and working on for years with all the answers you need to know to get your ex-boyfriend to come back to you and stay in love with you for good.
What I've found is that not only do most women not know how to handle a breakup with a man properly in a way that will bring him back, but they also don't know WHY he left and the role she played in it and the role she's continuing to play in her inability to get him back.
There are two aspects to getting your man to come back that you must very closely pay attention to.
The first is becoming the woman he wants to come back to. And THEN the second is using a proven strategy that will pave the way for his return.
You must learn what triggers your man PSYCHOLOGICALLY on a GUT level - below his conscious ability to "reason" about his feelings - that causes an emotional chain-reaction inside of him to want to come back to you and love you, and then you must learn the right way to demonstrate it to him in a way that avoids you looking like you're playing games and having him pull away for good, and instead that will cause him to come running back to you.
You must know what will make HIM see it in his own best interest to come back to you without forcing him to.
Most women get the process backwards.
Most women think they need a strategy first to show their undying love for him, for instance calling all the time or acting prideful, and then when they have him back, THEN she will be the woman he wants.
When you put it this way, obviously this can never work because you're not allowing him to see it in his own benefit to be with you.
Love or strategy alone won't bring him back.
I've had too many friends do this in breakup situation, and I've seen what happens... and what happens is NOTHING.
You must understand strategy, psychology and what MOTIVATES him on a gut emotional level - beyond his conscious control - to come back after a breakup.
Ending Your Breakup And Getting Him Back For Good
If you know how to stimulate a man in this way, getting him back is a SURE THING.
Over the last few years of helping women all over the world heal their relationships, I had a huge number of women coming to me wanting to know how to get their boyfriend back after a breakup, which was actually quite surprising to me at first.
But it slowly started to make sense.
I realized that it was the one area I had neglected with my programs.
A breakup is the MOST serious relationship issue there is.
So I decided to create a full length program that shows you EVERYTHING you need to know about getting your man back, getting him more in love with you that ever, and exactly how to do it for your specific situation.
My brand new audio program is called "Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back".
In this one of a kind program, I'm going to get DEEP into the psychology of breakups.
You'll learn exactly why he left, how to motivate him to come running back to you, and how to change your entire approach from the ground up so that he's litterally begging to be with you and ONLY you forever.
With the powerful information in this informative and easy to follow program, it's easier than you think.
You'll learn how to take a breakup and spin it upside-down, and use it as POSITIVE leverage to getting him back and more in love with you than ever.
Going through this program is like going from a pitch black room to having the lights suddenly turn ON... Suddenly knowing exactly what to do is GLARINGLY OBVIOUS.
You're going to find out EXACTLY what he's thinking, what he really wants and needs from you, and best of all you're going to feel INSPIRED knowing EXACTLY what steps to take to get your man in love with you again once and for all.
You're also going to find out how to earn his trust to where he's openly communicating with you and respect so that he never walks on your feelings or hurts you. And most importantly you're going to learn how to create a more fulfilling relationship.
This is the program I wish many of my ex-girlfriends had, but sadly in the past nothing like this was available. Thankfully today, you don't have to live in the dark anymore about YOUR situation.
- How to immediately put an end to the agony, grief, paralysis and loss of a man breaking up with you and feel more confident, inspired and enthusiastic about your love life than you've been since being with him.
- The 9 methods for emotional renewal to overcome depression, anxiety, fear and guilt and feel surging power, freedom from trauma, feel ATTRACTIVE and on top of the world.
- How to jump out of the cycle of breaking up and getting back together with him and make him commit to being with you and have the relationship stay permanently.
- What to do if he's interested one minute, but the next he's not picking up your calls, he's ignoring you, is shut down and is distant and flaking.
- How to push a man over the line from just interested and thinking about it, to virtually begging for a relationship with you.
- The secret to sparking his magnetic attraction and DESIRE for you and a long-term relationship with you after a breakup.
- How to properly handle a breakup in a long distance relationship (handling a long distance breakup is a very unique situation that takes a lot of conscious care and awareness of the situation).
- The 5 things he wants and needs from you as a woman in order to desire both you and a relationship with you again and never want to leave.
- What stops men from ever coming back to a girlfriend they broke up with, even if she is desirable and attractive, and the "secret motivators" he doesn't even know about that stimulate his subconscious to crave a relationship with you again.
- The step-by-step precise method to get an ex-boyfriend back who YOU broke up with and he doesn't want to get back with you (this method is a MUCH different approach than if you were broken up with).
- How to get an ex-boyfriend back who broke up with you after a long-term relationship (this strategy is so powerful it will get him literally OBSESSING over you day and night... the best part is it's completely NATURAL and doesn't involve any "games").
- How to get an ex-boyfriend back who broke up with you short-term (1-3 months) and won't return your calls (honestly this strategy takes a little courage on your part, when you pull it off you have the best strategy at hand to getting him to date you again).
- How to make him respect and admire you again enough to stop what he's doing and come back to you (you know you have his deep respect and admiration when he treats you not just as a woman, but as a human being who he'll never lie to and always do what you want him to do).
- How to build his deep unshakable trust in you again to where he feels like he feels completely safe and comfortable thinking about being in a relationship with you... and what to STOP doing that is destroying his trust for you leading him to avoid you and a relationship with you.
- How to open up the lines of communication with him again so that he's talking to you again and enjoys talking with you (this is a very important part to opening the door again and using the other strategies to spark desire, trust and respect to where he's litterally RUNNING back into your arms).
- How to secure his respect for you and what to STOP doing that is destroying his respect for you.
- What to say to him over the phone that will instantly spark attraction in him again, and what to avoid saying (and what words to avoid) that push him away.
- What to do if you only went out on a few dates with a man who has stopped talking to you to make him want to start dating you again (and this will usually even lead to a relationship with him).
- What to do to STOP the cycle of breaking up and getting back together.
- If you're in a relationship: How to AVOID a breakup that you sense is coming on.
- How to get a man who has lost all interest in you deeply in love with you again after a heart wrenching breakup to where he's litterally begging to be with you again and can't stop thinking about you.
- The 8 simple (yet profound) techniques for getting your ex-boyfriend back in a relationship and in love with you that work in every situation imaginable (these techniques have even been proven to work in the most messed up situations I've personally ever seen).
- How to get your boyfriend back and insatiably in love with you in a way that will correct all the deep seated problems that caused the breakup in the first place.
- The details about what is going through his mind "post-breakup", and how you can use this knowledge to make him fall madly in love with you again and end any hesitation he has about deciding to be with you again.
- His "secret motives" of why he left you and what you can do to change his mind and motivate him to come running back to you.
- Why he keeps rejecting you no matter how hard you try to get him back and what you can do to welcome you back with open arms.
- What to do after you get him back and how to start the new relationship with him the RIGHT way so that he's so deeply in love with you that another breakup will never happen.
- How to release the self-blame of the relationship failing... and feel back in control of the situation and hopeful and CONFIDENT in getting him back
- Exactly what to SAY AND DO with him after the breakup that will make him come closer to you.
- Relationship Basics: How to take the breakup with in him a way that creates an even DEEPER bond with him than you've ever had before (if you miss this opportunity...).
As you can see, this priceless and powerful program will show you EXACTLY what you need to do in ANY breakup situation imaginable, no matter how complicated, "messed up" or beyond repair your situation seems.
This is something that I wish was around a long time ago, but this is the first time a product like this has ever been offered.
And trust me, I've seen some pretty messed up circumstances!
What I've come to learn is that no matter how specific, "different" or beyond repair the circumstances of a breakup are, there are ALWAYS fundamental core issues at the root of the problem that can be fixed.
If you want to get rid of a weed in your garden, you always go to the roots of the weed. If you continue ripping the weed out, but the roots stay in the soil, you'll never get rid of the problem.
Undeniable PROOF That
"Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back" Works Better Than Anything You've Ever Seen
The question that must be on your mind by now is "Where's the proof?"
To be honest, the amount of proof backing this program would take me days to talk about with you.
So instead I'm going to share several stories with you with women who got their man back and more in love than ever using the powerful material contained in this program.
I asked them to send in their stories and here's what they had to say...
Firstly I need to tell you my quite odd and seriously disturbing story, which I know I already told you but just in case you forgot I'll tell it again. Me and my boyfriend were together for two years and I loved him to death. We were like batman and robin together. but you see he had this ex who was always in the picture, and at the time i thought nothing of it and just decided to let it slide.
Then there came a time nearing the end of our relationship at the time, that we started fighting like crazy. I'll admit, I was the one fighting, and thats because I could just FEEL something wrong. I'm one to really trust my intuition, and I kept having these spells of feeling like I was going to through up out of nowhere. and then the day came wehn it all become clear to me the day he left. He was having an affair with his ex and one day i can home and all his stuff was gone. he had left with his ex to fly to new york and moved there. I was the most shocked, hurt person on the face of the planet. I've been broken up with before, but there was nothing that compared to this.
As it turned out, I had messed up REALLY bad and had it coming. Yes I did. First I pretended like he wasn't cheating on me and was too afraid to say anything about it, secondly, I was way to possessive and obviously was making this girl look like a goddess. And then of course I sent him some pretty nasty emails and just basically made myself look more like an idiot 🙁 oh well.
A few months went by before I contact you and some of the things that you said man, they didn't make any sense to me at first, but I went along with it anyway. You told me that my situtation was bleak and I only had a few option. So after putting the main strategy we talked about into action, he wouldn't even talk to me. Well to cut to the chase as you guys say in LA, a year passes by. I had pretty much gotten over him by now (pretty much anyhow) so I decided to try the reconnecting strategy you recomended. I heard nothing for almost a month after sending htat email, and then all of a sudden out of NOWHERE an email in my inbox saying "I'm in town for a few days, if you're free we should get together for coffee or something".
At first I rejected the bastards request!! And then he sent me back saying something like "ok then maybe the next time around". He was obviously just hurt cuz I said no. So i sent him bakc saying "no need to be coy! I know you're nervous to see me, I'm nervous to see you too" and some other stuff, so we eventually get together and we just reconnect like bam, instantly and he wants to talk about the relationship so we do, and by the end of the night we're holding eachother watching the moon light. That was about two years ago and we've been back together ever since and stronger than ever.
And I'm so glad that YOU are offering an exboyfriend product like this, because I know how valuable your help is first hand.
So I just want to tell all you ladies out there that this guy is the REAL DEAL. He's worked miracles for me and he knows *exactly* what the f*ck he's talking about. He's not one of these other people who obviously don't know what they're talking about. Brandon is a genius ladies (and gorgeous too teehee).
Las Vegas, Nevada U.S.A.
I got your program and the first thing I need to tell you before anything else it is has worked wonders you don't even know...Ok, a little background. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 1/2 years. During the last half or so of the relationship, he started to totally bail on me. It was like a light switch turned off in him and he just stopped caring. Then the inevitable happened.......he broke up the hell up with me.
To say the least, I was pretty out of commission for a few months (what a bleeping understatement), and oh my god was i doing everything you said not to do like calling him all the time and being really emotional with him and I was even sending him cards in the mail at one point......ouch! Then I finally ran into your program (thank GOD) after trying a few of those other "ex-boyfriend" books (peee yeww), and I started using the strategy for long-term relationships like you say in the program, and honestly I was super freaked out about it (but you were so confident about it saying that I couldn't not try it!)
I was at it for more than a month and honestly I was moving on and then amazing just like you said the call came! And then for the call I did exactly what you said to remain cool and let him lead the conversation, and then we got together for tea the next day and one thing led to another and we were kissing and then he told me he made a mistake in leaving me and he wanted to be with me again!
I feel like I'm dreaming, it seems so unreal I'm on cloud 9 right now. The only thing I have to say to you sir is THANK YOU THANK YOU!!! I can't even put into words how greatful I am to you.
Anyway I don't want to bore you too much by going on and on, so thank you for everything and I will keep you posted!
"Brandon really nails how to get back your boyfriend in this program. The program is very detailed, well formatted and easy to listen to and understand. He teaches in a way that is very clear and inspiring at the same time. After just a few weeks of using the program, me and my guy got back together after months of trying to get him back on my own!! Thank you Brandon so, so much for you hard work putting this program together. It has saved my life!"
I just wanted to email you after buying your program a couple weeks ago to let you know that you were 100% right about everything. To make a really long story short, I broke up with my man a few weeks ago and realized I had made a horrific mistake and knew I had to be back with him, but when I went back to him he wouldn't take me! : ( Honestly I thought I could just get him back so I was reallyyyy confused. But with the your help and gyebb, it was so simple what I was missing. I wasn't trying hard enough and he could feel it! Then when I started trying harder he budged more and more until he eventually trusted me again. Today we are together again and i am just so relieved that everything worked out. I wish I hadn't made the stupid mistake to begin with, but a lesson learned indeedy.
Thank you for all of your hard work, time and this wonderful program. I hope every woman out there goes out and gets a copy right now!"
I just wanted to say that after my man left I was shattered. I know that it was only because he left me and to be really honest, I didn't really want to get him back, but I did want to get back what he took from me, which was my dignity...thankfully I did get him back crawling back to me, but by then I realized that I didn't want to be with him anymore. I met a new man!! And we are so happy together. I'll update you about it.
But I just wanted to thank you for this program. It really put me back in the driver's seat of my love life and with boys. I conquered this by myself!! I feel so confident now taking on this new relationship ahead of me.
Thank you soooo, soooo, much Brandon!
With love love loveeee,"
As you can see, the proof is firm.
By the way this is just the tip of the iceberg. I get emails, SUCCESS emails, every day from women who have tried out "Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back" and have used the material to get their boyfriend running back and falling in love all over again.
I chose these particular stories to demonstrate both the flexibility of this program and the power of it in both pretty bad and unique situations.
It's sad to know that most women will never know this information and will go through heartbreak after heartbreak.
But luckily, it doesn't have to be that way for you.
But by now, of course, there's one question that might be screaming out in your head.
"This Sounds Great, But How Do I Know This Is For Me And My Personal Situation?"
And you'd be right to ask that question.
The only way for you to truly know if for you to try my program and find out how great it is for yourself.
And that's why I've first offered you a sample audio clip of the program, and secondly I'm going to offer you a guarantee that you can't refused with all of the risk on me...
How Can You Know If This Program Is For You?
I want you to know for sure without any doubt that this program is for you and your personal situation, so I'm going to get detailed here.
Firstly, if you don't fit into anyone of these categories, than this program probably isn't for you:
- He broke up with you after a long-term relationship (3 months - 7 years+)
- He broke up to you after a short-term relationship (up to 2 months)
- You broke up with him and want him back
- You're in a relationship and are headed for a breakup
- You're in a marriage and are headed for a separation/divorce
- You've had no contact with with for a long period of time (3 months+)
- You're having sex with him after a breakup
- He broke up with you but said he wants to be together in the future
- He broke up with you but you have obligations together
If your man is keeping constant contact with you and is telling you directly that he wants to work things out with you, then this program may help you a little, but probably isn't completely for you.
If he is saying things like "I don't know why I left, I love you", then this program is probably not for you.
If your man has come back to you and has STAYED back with you with no indication that he wants other things... and you're not going through a cycle of breaking up and getting back together, this program probably isn't for you.
However, there are certain situation in breakups that seem to feel like gut wrenching agony over the loss of control with someone you deeply love and care about.
Read through the list below, and if you find yourself agreeing with any of one these, then I highly recommend you download this program now.
However, if while you're reading you find yourself agreeing with more than one of these, this program will save your life.
- If your man has broken up with you and he is becoming more and more distant and is pushing you away... every time you try to contact him things just get worse and you don't know what to do about it or how to get him back.
- If your emotions are making it impossible for you to be yourself and act appropriately in the situation with him and you know you're pushing him away.
- If you are trying to get him back with no clear set path or strategy, and you feel like you are "shooting in the dark" and are lost and have no clear idea what you are doing.
- If you feel completely out of control with him and everything you have been saying or doing seems to have little to no affect on him wanting to be with you again... and it feels like he's drifting further and further away.
- If you're constantly breaking up and getting back together with him... or you feel that he may just be in it for the sex.
- If you broke up with him and you want him back, but every time you go to talk to him, he shuts down from you and it seems like there's no way of getting through to him that you truly love him.
The bottom line is if you need this program, you just know it.
Once you learn how to first become the woman he can't stand to be without, and then understand the right way to DEMONSTRATE that to him, he almost won't have any choice BUT to come running back to you.
He WANTS to be with you, you just need to demonstrate to him that you've change and do it the right way before time runs out.
Why This Program Is Very Different From Everything Else Out There
Before you decide whether this program is for you or not, I want to show you why this program is different than everything else you've seen on this topic.
Reason #1: It's the first time an audio program has been created SPECIFICALLY to help women get their boyfriend back.
Sure there's a lot of "breakup" or "get your ex back" books and programs out there, but almost NONE of them are design to help a WOMAN naturally get a man back, and none of them are in audio format either.
Most of these books and programs are made by "generalists" and not made specifically for women.
They're made as "get your ex" rather than "get your ex-boyfriend", and what's extremely important to understand is male psychology is very different from female, and those broad unspecific programs can land you in a lot of trouble if you're not addressing his thoughts and concerns as a man, and I've seen it happen before.
I personally guarantee you that you will not even come CLOSE to finding anything available like this program.
Reason #2: This program shows you how to get your man back NATURALLY and ETHICALLY WITHOUT "TRICKS" OR MANIPULATION.
Let's face it, we've all wanted to use the shortcut "trick" to get someone we love to do what we want (and I'm not saying there's nothing like this lined up in this program).
The problem is, "dirty tricks" alone never truly get us what we want, because they never go to the ROOT of the problem.
It's the very same thing with weeds.
A great "trick" to get rid of a weed is just to rip it out of the ground. The only problem is in a few short days the problem weed is going to sprout up again.
That's because the root of the problem was left completely untouched, and it's exactly the same with a breakup.
You may get a man back using tricks, MAYBE, but even when you get him back, you're not going keep him around for very long, even if you think you just want the trick to get him back so you can fix the problem.
I've seen this happen many times.
You MUST address the roots to get what you really want.
That's why this program addresses the ROOTS and uproots the problems you're going through with this man at the very core.
Reason #3: This program was created by a MAN who specializes in helping women with relationship problems.
I always say that if you want something, go to someone who has what you want.
If you want to get a man back, you need to go to man for help. Period.
You wouldn't necessarily want to learn from a makeup artist how to smog your car...
I am a MAN and I've had tons of experience working with women, coaching women, and especially dating women.
This program is design with one outcome in mind, to get you back into a loving long-term relationship with the man you love. That's it.
And when you use the tools in this program, that will be your outcome too.
Reason #4: This is an AUDIO module, which mean all you have to do is sit back, relax and listen, and you'll use it more.
One thing I've learned over the years is it's hard to learn with words alone.
When you're listening to me teach my system, you'll instantly learn that it's easier to learn, you can hear the tonality of my voice and you make no effort at all. Listening is the easiest mode of learning because it's the most relaxed.
Reason #5: I'm going to show you how to be the woman your ex-boyfriend REALLY wants.
Here's a reality check for you. Most men are very frustrated with the women that they get into relationships with.
If you listen to a group of married guys, the conversation inevitably turns to their wives and how they're "in the dog house".
And they do NOT say it because they feel bad. They say it because they're frustrated with who the woman has TURNED INTO.
Here's something that's going to make or break your success with getting your man back: if you want him back, you must become the woman he wants. You must become a real woman. Tricks are *cute* at first, but they're not going to keep him around.
If you want to get him back and have things LAST, you must learn how to become an attractive woman from the inside out and then know how to DEMONSTRATE it without triggering his alarm bells.
Once you master the material in "Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back", you will understand exactly what he is looking for in a woman, and you will feel confident and self-assured knowing that he's thinking about YOU instead of other women and wants to be with only you.