There is a long standing unspoken rule for women: “I must be pretty or I don't stand a chance being attractive to him.”

How much truth is there really in this statement? We all know that most men are become dumb as a stump in the presence of an attractive woman, but is this all they pay attention to?

Men understand that they want a beautiful woman. Men ARE attracted to physical beauty.

Yeah that is true, but there are also other things a woman posses that men don't necessarily understand “why” they want.  (more…)

Yes and no.

In the traditional sense, no.

A woman who does not meditate lets her emotions run her entire life. If she does not meditate, her life in in complete flux, 24/7, even while she is fast asleep!

She's angry, upset, excited, elated, paranoid, jealous, afraid and loving all before the hat even hits the floor. She is so emotional that she doesn't even have time to think about how emotional she is.

This is NOT what a man likes.

(NOTE: This is part two of the in this series. Read the previous post here Getting a Guy to Commit.)

Here's a little story.

A feminine woman walks into a pet shop looking to buy a brand new puppy.

She takes a look around the litter and they're all cute, but she sees EXACTLY the one that she wants immediately.

She takes it home, names it “Fluffball” and falls in love with the puppy.

Now, a man walks in to the same puppy store and looks at the litter of puppies…but there's something different about the way he approaches the puppies, he's not really sure which one he wants.

In fact, he wants to take ALL of the puppies home with him and “try” them all out.

He's unsure about committing to one particular puppy so quickly.

Why is it so hard for a man just to want one woman, where as it's so easy for a woman to want just one man?

Here's a sobering fact: you will generally want love more than a man will if you don't know how to get him to “learn” to love you.

And men generally want to have more sexual partners than women.

The reason for this?


It's a well known fact that men think about sex all the time.

It has become an obsession.


Because sex is not something they shouldn't think about. It's something that's suppose to happen naturally, WITHOUT any thinking involved.

In the animal kingdom, animals mate and there is no thinking, there is only “doing” (each other).

In the human world, we have religion, society, parents and TV all condemning sex.

The absolutely natural, spontaneous event of sex has become an obsession because it has been REJECTED.

Surprisingly the world has looked down upon men enjoying sex.

You and I know that sexual energy is a very powerful energy and if it's pushed down, it has to go SOMEWHERE.

So that energy goes from the crotch to the CRANIUM.

When we reject sex as natural, we begin to think about it all the time rather than experiencing it naturally.

Sex is EVERYWHERE: advertisements, TV, Britney Spears etc. and it has such a profound effect on people because it is a condemned “taboo”.

Thing is, there is a lot guilt around sex.

It's almost unbelievable.

The point is, men are especially swamped in sexual obsession.


In general, it's more difficult for a man to get sexual partners than a woman.

Psychologists say that men throughout their lifetime will have 7 sexual partners on average and women 14.

No matter how you spin in, a girl simply has to be skinny and normal looking and she could walk down the street, ask any random guy to spend the night and nine times out of ten he will say “yes please!”

A man can't do this!

If a man were to walk down the street asking girls to spend the night, nine times out of ten he would be slapped!

We both know that women make it “difficult” for a man to get sex.

Most women have been taught all of their lives to do this from when they a little girl.

You don't know what he'll do once you say “yes”.

Once you say “yes”, you have given away all of your chips…HOPING that he will make a commitment afterwards.

And when a man doesn't need it so badly, it makes a woman crazy.

And you think by “holding out” from him it will make him want you even more too…but it never works out in the long run.

Sure it gets a man immediately interested, but as you something is missing.

It does something interesting to a man's psychology.

He becomes obsessed with “conquests”…and the problem is many women encourage it!

Women become teases.

I don't say that you are a tease, but many women are.

A woman will dress and act sexually without any intention of actually following through on it just to get a man to want her.

This drives men even deeper into their madness of their sexual obsession…which causes them to get the “wandering eye” later in a relationship.

Then when you finally DO have sex with a man, he is quick to leave…


Because he has “conquered” you.

You must approach this situation in an entirely NEW way if you would like men to stop using you for sex.

For a man to commit, you must learn how to calm his feverish obsession.

You ALLOW him to fall in love with you by becoming the woman he WANTS and WILL WANT for a long time.

A good start is by learning the 12 things that make a woman irresistible.

By the way, I'd love to hear your comments or questions, so if you have any, leave them below (make sure you read our Comments Policy beforehand).

I'll talk to you again soon.

With honor,


Have you ever been with a man who you really enjoyed and who enjoyed you, but when the time came to take things to the “next level”, you were willing move up, but he wasn’t?

Maybe he even gave you nice excuses like “I’m not ready for a committed relationship.”


“I need my freedom.”

But somehow, you knew that there was something else going on?

Why is getting a guy to COMMIT to one woman an insurmountable task?

Why are so many guys commitment phobes?

I’m about to expose to you IN DETAIL everything you’ve ever wanted to know about getting a man to commit…sound good?

Honestly, this is not a subject that needs addressing.

This is an insignificant challenge if you follow me on all of the other things I go on blathering about.

But, there’s too much pandemonium around this topic, so much that I absolutely must give you the straight facts on this situation.


The Key Difference Between Men And Women…

  • Women Worry About The Long-Term
  • Men Worry About The Short-Term
Many women I teach are very comfortable with the “now” moment. They love living in the present, with all of the emotions, excitement, rush and sometimes drama that happens.

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But women worry about their future.

Here’s a fact.

The most future oriented woman doesn’t come close to the least future oriented man. Most women worry about their future, much more than men.

But men are the opposite.

Men are more comfortable with their future plans and ambitions and worry more about right now. The most “present” man is nowhere close to the least present focused woman. Men actually have a much harder time playing and enjoying, much more than women.

Women are natural partiers…men are natural planners. That’s what we feel most comfortable with.

Let me explain.

When a woman hears about a social event that she must go to, she doesn’t think twice about preparing herself, getting dressed and made up to go.

When a man hears about the same things, he stumbles around and “weighs his options”.

A girl feels more uncomfortable with their future while guys end up more uncomfortable with the celebration of right now.

Women celebrate constantly. Compared to guys, girls celebrate ALL OF THE TIME. Make no mistake.

It may not seem like it, but a man’s world is entirely different.

A woman can look at her entire life as a celebration, she can look at everything with “serendipity”. Everything is occurring as a long celebration.

Men only celebrate when invited to celebrate. And even then, many men find it hard to open up to it. They only manage to get a few minutes of celebration in before they feel uncomfortable. Even while celebrating he is somehow looking for a goal!

This is among the reasons why men like women and women like men. Men bring women a future and women bring men celebration.

Point to be learned?

Women Worry About The Long-Term While Men Worry About The Short-Term

Girls have the impending fear of growing older. It seems to always be lurking there in the back of her mind.

Because of the fear, she makes the most of right NOW. She’s young, vibrant and wants to celebrate it. The future, to her is some far off thing. And she is respected the most by society when she is YOUNG.

Feminine youth is celebrated to an incredible extent.

Men are not at all respected when they are young. Men are seen as sex addicted punks. Men only become respected when they mature and age and BECOME respectable.

Men ripen with age. Women decay with age.

By the time a woman hits a certain age, she is thrown out, rejected by society. She is no longer valued.

If you’ve ever wondered where the feverish restlessness comes from for needing so badly to get married and needing to secure her future before it falls out from under her, this is where it comes from.

Even from the beginning, girls are already thinking about marriage at the age of five!

They have their barbies and fantasize about marrying prince charming…which doesn’t happen as easily as she hoped for.

This is the whole “polarity” of men and women. A woman wants a man to be able to secure her future a man wants a woman to help him enjoy his life right now.

Women enjoy love, men enjoy freedom.

So the question is, how do you get a guy to want love?

This all leads to a fear of commitment in the long term for a man.

His “youthfulness” is rejected and he begins to obsess about, in the same way a woman’s “oldness” is rejected and she obsesses about it.

Make sense?

To handle ANY kind of commitment objections, take your relationships and dating experiences with him as a TODAY EVENT ONLY. You simply tell him “Our relationship/dating/whatever is a today event only, and if we should be together again tomorrow, then that is how it will be. But as long as we are together right now, I want to be with you completely.”

It’s not hard to do this!

A man wants freedom, so you simply give him what he thinks he wants! We love the people we love because they give us what we need, so give him what he needs.

The words aren’t as important as the energy behind the words. If you can be calm and playful with this, he’ll think you are the coolest woman alive.

You must let go of the fear of losing him. This is a basic pillar of relationships that needs to be taken care of immediately. In my world, it goes without saying!

Let me say it again.

*You must let go of the fear of losing him*

The fear of losing him only pushes him away, so drop the idea.

The thought of saying something like the above quote automatically strikes fear into the heart of many women I teach.


Because they’re “needy” for the man. They want to possess him and make sure he will never leave her.

I’m all for making miracles happen, I’ve seen MANY CRAZY things happen in relationships that are almost unbelievable, but this is not something that can make a miracle happen.

90% of women fear their man leaving them…and you know what?

90% of these women are left by the man…and they start wondering “What did I do wrong?”

The fear actually makes him pull away.

Most relationships today are VERY possessive.

Here, I teach you to allow him to be free.

Remember, he has come to you out of his own freewill because he felt GOOD around you and wanted to stick around you to continue the good feelings. If he wishes to stay, he should do so out of that same freedom.

Here’s the twist.

Allowing his freedom causes him to STAY.

Would YOU want someone around who wants to possess you?

Probably in most circumstances you’ve been in with men who became needy, you began to need more and more “space”. It might have even repulsed you.

It’s the same thing for a guy too.

And when you begin to look at relationships in this way, the relationship itself is able to BREATH. It gets a shot of adrenaline and is resuscitated.

Just like having all of the windows in your house open and allowing a fresh breeze to come in.

But you enjoy that breeze so much that you shut all of the windows to close it in. But soon, very soon, that air turns sour.

But, you didn’t realize your joy of it came from it’s freedom!

The freedom of that breeze to pass in and out of your house is what made it so cool, gentle, relaxing as it moved freely across your face.

Once you tried to possess it by closing all of the windows, it turned warm, stale and smelly.

See what I mean?

We can always plan for tomorrow, but we really never know what it will bring until it’s here. People get into marriage prepared to commit their entire lives together, and do you know what happens? More than 50% fail and the other 50% are miserable. They are absolutely miserable, don’t fool yourself into believing otherwise.

There are only a few exceptions, and they are the ones who get and follow what I’m saying here.

Most marriages are unhappy, angry, fight, bicker, cheat, lie all the way until death do they part.

But, love thrives on this moment only!

You can’t say for certain that you will love someone in 40 years time

All you know is that right NOW you feel like you can spend the rest of your life with this person. Right NOW. And let that be as beautiful as it wants to be.

There’s something else that needs to be said.

This thing psychologists go on about waiting two years before you getting hitched because that’s when the hormones die  and you can think more clearly about your decision is a CROCK. Whether its two hours, a day or five years, the future is STILL uncertain.

I’ve had many couple come to me after being together for a day who have the same problems as a couple that has been together 16 years.

Some are together for a week, get married and live happily ever after. Some are together 14 years, get married and regret it the 15th year.

From the many women I’ve coached in relationships, the happiest, most successful couples have dropped the idea that they will be with someone forever.

They come to me with an illusion of how they want things to be like that even THEY know is hollow.

That’s when it becomes a possibility. But it is not a possibility as long as you hold onto the belief. You give your relationship it’s best source of nourishment, freedom and love only when you become free yourself.

True love eludes most women because the second it comes into their life, they try too hard to keep it from leaving, but the very effort kills the love. Love is very fragile, and just like the guy himself, love must be given its freedom.

The same possessiveness that destroys the feeling of love is the same feeling of possessiveness that drives men away.

The “Paradox” Of Relationships With Men

But, this fear of insecurity causes many problems. Love is insecure. Love comes and goes as it pleases, and we try to hold onto it for as long as possible, until our tight grip squeezes it slowly to death.

Love, relationships, dating is a very gentle thing. It’s just like a flower. Even the slightest bit too much pressure on a flower can crush it and make the beautiful petals start to fall off until it looks more like a weed. A marriage puts massive amounts of pressure on both lovers to hold up to impossibilities that can’t be attained by the heart, by love.

Marriage wants commitment, but love is a free thing. marriage is cold, but love is warm. Marriage becomes boring, but love is always entertaining.

One with too much commitment of the unknown future will cause not death to the relationship, but death to the happiness of the individuals that make up the relationship.

Do you want a relationship to avoid loneliness to actually be happy and in love?

Somedays you will be unloyal to your lover and will want to do things a different way than he does. Some days you will not love. Some days you will love. There is no telling, but marriage does not account for that.

If you want a man to marry you and commit to the long term, you simply give him the option of making that choice. You want the man to commit, it has to be his choice to do so.

There is a need for room to breath, gentleness and no possessiveness. This is a very subtle mechanism that MUST be understood.

And the absolute irony is when we begin to look at it this way, the relationship THRIVES. And when the relationship thrives, it goes down the most ideal direction: a relationship filled to the brim with love and happiness. What more could you want?

When the pressure is taken off, all of a sudden, instead of feeling backed into a corner, he suddenly feels a freedom to choose. The pressure on both of your shoulders is suddenly lifted. And if the love is there, the choice will be absolutely clearly for love.

But you are afraid of giving him his freedom and finding out that the love is not there. The fact is, if you follow what I tell you – non-possessiveness, freedom, love, vibrancy, relaxation etc. etc. – you will automatically know why he is with you, out of love.

And these are not things that can be faked, games that can be played. No. They must come straight out of your authenticity. Only then will you know he is there for love out of YOU, not the game playing mask you put on. You mustn’t be afraid to shine your cryptic Dracula-like innards out into the light.

The relationship is allowed to breath and grow. We begin to accept this lover for exactly who they are, and it becomes a sheer delight.

Worry disappears. It just disappears like morning overcast in the sun.

But, the second you trick yourself into possessing him, you’re heart becomes broken. He cannot be possessed, and you know it. He is just as free as you are.

To get a guy to commit to you, you simply stop asking commitment of him!

Very risky indeed… but there are two possibilities:

  • Allow him and yourself to be free
  • Possess him and strike the fear of commitment into him

Men adore a laid back woman who doesn’t ask the impossible of him, who doesn’t pressure him. Drop female competition. Some is cute, too much is a nightmare for a guy.

Men love a woman who is relaxed and vibrant, not restless.

And then when you get rid of the possessiveness, and it’s as simple as unplugging a power cord, and become relaxed about your future and confidently believe and expect things to workout for you in it’s due time, all of the crisis falls away.

You can be in a committed relationship, but remember that each and every day it is a relationship, not by the years down into the untold future.

Whether you believe it or not, this is the reality.

When you live out of line with that truth, that’s when all of the pressure begins to build and the commitment problems arise like a typhoon.

When you live in line with this truth, all of the anxiety in the relationship turns into gratitude for having such a wonderful lover in your life today.

With honor,


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Make Him Fall In Love Forever

Brandon Martin
Author of "Relationship Goddess"

Follow Brandon's 12 Heart-Centered Tips To Being Irresistible To Men

What makes men feel a woman is psychologically and emotionally irresistible?

Why do many women today experience men suddenly becoming disinterested, pulling away or shutting down… and what can you do about it?

After more than 10 years coaching thousands of women...

And years researching relationship dynamics, I’ve discovered “secrets” about what makes a woman desirable and what men find irresistible, which most experts aren’t talking about.

Secrets that cause a psychic-spiritual “spark” that make men feel irresistibly attracted to a woman.

Thing is, being irresistible is not what most women think it is: youth, beauty, success or being an independent woman.

What men find irresistible is the ongoing emotional & psychic-spiritual experience a man has with you.

If you’ve had trouble keeping a guy interested, you’re likely either making one or more common mistakes that take from his emotional experience, or you’re not doing enough of the right things to create it.

It’s important that you learn how to be irresistible to men in today’s competitive dating world.

Being in the top 5% of women will change your love life and make men effortless to deal with.

Unless you understand how to be irresistible to men, you’ll likely deal with men losing interest, falling out of love or avoiding commitment. Learn about how to be irresistible to men by reading on!

Being irresistible to men has to do with the ongoing emotional & psychic-spiritual experience a man has with you.

If you’ve had trouble keeping a guy interested, you’re likely either making one or more common mistakes take from his emotional experience, or you’re not doing enough of the right things to create it.

It’s important that you learn how to be irresistible to men in today’s competitive dating world.

Being in the top 5% of women will change your love life and make men effortless to deal with.

Unless you understand how to be irresistible to men, you’ll likely deal with men losing interest, falling out of love or avoiding commitment.

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How To Be Irresistible To Men Secret 12:

The "Energy" All Men Find Irresistible

I've observed this interesting little trap many women fall into...

Many women already believe they know what men find irresistible and what makes a woman desirable.

For example, most women believe men want a young, beautiful girlfriend.

But if this is true, why do we find so many decent guys end up with “average” looking women? Why do men find these women irresistible and not others?

I’ve discovered that most women don’t truly understand male psychology or emotions and what men find irresistible… even when they think they do.

This can lead to frustration and not getting love or interest from men because a woman is attached to an idea of what you think he wants.

Who could blame women? Men aren’t exactly “open books” about their inner world.

After years talking to guys about women, love and what men find irresistible, I discovered an odd quality that most men instantly respond to…

Men universally find child-like energy irresistibly attractive.


Most women get “burnt out” from their bad past experiences with men.

It’s tough for women in today’s dating climate, and this can cause stress, heartbreak and fear towards men.

Problem is, no matter how much you and I know this, men tend to lack feelings of interest for a woman who is afraid, stressed, or cynical.

Listen carefully.

What makes a woman attractive is childlike, playful, innocent energy. This is of the reasons why men will choose one woman over another.

A girl playing on the playground hasn’t been used, betrayed or burdened by stress yet.

She simply plays in the sand, swings on the swings and counts the grains of sand she can hold in her hand. She is alive and living in the now. That’s what men find to be irresistible in women.

I’m always amazed when I see 18-year-old girls who seem like they’re 48, and then when I see 48-year-old women who feel 18.

It’s a matter of learning what “energy” men respond to in a woman and how to make a man feel emotional attraction.

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How To Be Irresistible To Men Secret 11:

How To Handle His Cold Attitude To Create Trust

What I’ve found after observing thousands of women interact with men is that when men do stupid things like not call/text back or not give attention, many women react emotionally.

Men often do hurtful and brainless things.

Reprimanding them out of spite and hurt can cause men to pull away suddenly, act distant and cold.

Then many women find themselves in frustrating situations where they are:

  • Trying to logically "convince" a guy to feel love
  • Giving him a "taste of his own medicine"
  • Trying to control his behaviors through emotional manipulation

Most men are dense don’t realize when they have hurt you, so these things often cause men to feel like they can’t make that woman happy.

But most men will simply see an emotional woman who they don’t know how to handle, and that scares them.

Men universally crave light-heartedness, humor and relaxation in women … ESPECIALLY when things get rough.

That’s what makes a woman desirable. Unfortunately, this is rare for men to find. Unfortunately, this is rare for men to find.

The combination of humor and light-heartedness is like a billboard mounted to a woman’s forehead that says, “I’m the one”. The combination is what makes a woman desirable to men. If you lead with a sense of humor when things don’t go well, it can instantly turn a situation around and spark emotional, irresistible attraction in men.

If you’re in a situation with a man like this, you need to learn how to reverse this and become irresistible to him before things get worse.

If you’re in a situation with a man like this, you need to  learn how to reverse this and become irresistible to him before things gets worse.

How To Be Irresistible To Men Secret 10:

Inspiring Trust & Respect

When men do stupid things like getting distant, not call/text back or other hurtful things, most women let their emotions build up and lash out.

You and I know many women don’t mean to do this. But something as simple as this makes men start to lose trust, respect and attraction and distance themselves emotionally.

It took me a long time to understand that that emotions scare men and cause them to close up out of fear.

Expressing positive emotions in the right way has the power to get a man literally addicted to you.

has the power to get a man literally addicted to you. Emotional strength and independence are what men find irresistible.

Ultimately, what makes a woman desirable is emotional independence. All men secretly hope to meet a woman who adds emotional value to his life.

It just takes a meaningful readjustment of the way you approach men and relationships to be irresistible to men.

How To Be Irresistible To Men Secret 9:

How to Create Irresistible Comfort With Men With Men

Let’s face it, many of today’s women have an A.D.D. situation going on…

But seriously, that can be cute to some guys at first. I find it hilarious and love to make light-hearted fun of women like this. But impatience can turn into unnecessary frustration and emotional aggression when things don’t happen fast enough.

What I’m talking about is relaxing more and being more open to going with the flow with him. This is the same attitude that rockstars have, and rockstars male or female are some of the most irresistible people on the planet.

What makes patience an important quality for a woman to be desirable? Because it’s RARE and sub-communicates confidence and desirability.

Here’s a clue to being irresistible to men that most women will never know.

Men are purpose and goal-oriented. Men value the vision they want to create in life above all else. It could be that he wants to start a family, travel the world, build a business… it could be anything.

The point is when a man meets a woman, he secretly hopes that she will relax with his path. If she does he will literally feel that she completes him.

How To Be Irresistible To Men Secret 8:

Irresistible Body Language Secrets

Behavioral psychologists recently found this…

Body language accounts for 55% of all communication between people, while vocal tonality accounts for 38%.

If this is true, it means… words are only 7% of all communication.

It’s possible that 93% of the signals we give socially are based on body language and vocal tonality alone.

Many women ask me “what do I say to him to make him want me?”

Instead of focusing on just 7% of communication, I’d like to suggest that you can get more leverage with men by focusing on the other 93%.

Body language is a fascinating subject to me, and I’d like to give you what I consider to be a “magic formula” for body language that subconsciously tells men you’re irresistible and you know it. Learn about body language and how to be irresistible to men:

a. The first part of the puzzle is to lead your body with your hips.

You may have mixed feelings about her (I’m not her biggest fan), but Paris Hilton is a master of this and has irresistible body language.

Walking this way conveys sexuality, confidence and feminine swagger. Simply walking like this can instantly get a respectable guy’s attention.

b. Next, consider arching your lower back to allow tension off your upper-back and shoulders. 

Your shoulders can be sub-communicate many things to men. When you use them correctly, you can emulate what men find irresistible.

Hunching sub-communicates low self-confidence, which is not what many high-quality men look for.

Shoulders should be rolled back a bit as to not hide your chest (no matter the size) and to avoid hunching. 

c. Raise your chin.

A chin up in the air conveys self-confidence instantly.

This will also help focus your body to stand straight up, as if you’re laying vertically on a bed.

d. Most importantly, smile!

What makes a woman desirable is a winning smile. A woman who smiles tells men on a gut level that you’re open, confident and feminine while no smile makes him wonder if you’ll be difficult to please.

This body language is irresistible to men on a subconscious level… beyond their conscious control.

When you have powerful body language, it’s as close to “magic” as it gets to seeing men respond instantly with irresistible attraction.

How To Be Irresistible To Men Secret 7:

Sparking Irresistible Physical Attraction

Are most high-quality guys really looking for “supermodel” good looks?

I’ve learned that most guys are not looking for a supermodel.

Physical attraction is created simply by a man seeing that you care about your presentation.

If a man is “talking” to you, it means he’s physically attracted enough to you to be in a relationship with you.

Beauty, healthy hair, good-looking skin, well-done makeup, healthy weight; these are the superficial things men adore.

Where many women get tripped up is believing that external beauty is everything… it is not.

Have you ever stopped to think… what is beauty?

It’s a question I like thinking about.

I believe beauty is the outward expression of femininity. men are attracted to like NOTHING else.

But it’s against femininity to be obsessed with looks, or you become an insecure rollercoaster seeking approval from men. When you chase after validation, you can’t be irresistible.

Here’s what I believe makes a woman desirable:


The fact is inner is just as important as outer.

There is a way to spark internally beautiful to men in a way that makes men respond like crazy.

How To Be Irresistible To Men Secret 6:

Create Irresistibly Attractive "Energy" With Him

I know something about you...

You are a goal driven, intelligent woman. 

I know because you’re seeking answers to this essential area of life called “love”.

However, many smart women get tripped up thinking too much… usually about the past or worrying about the future. 

The problem is, getting stuck in your head kills attraction with men.

A woman who is “here now” is sharp, responsive, alive, witty and keeps a man on his toes.

Men can look into her eyes and see that she is with him here and now and not over-thinking and allow him to fall in love.

A woman who is in the “now” is completely attractive and irresistible to men.

Most men never find this woman, so when she does come, well let’s just say, have you ever heard of those stories about guys proposing after dating for three months?

There is a way to cultivate this aspect of yourself, and I believe you have this ability inside you… you just have to learn how.

How To Be Irresistible To Men Secret 5:

Stop Being "Needy" & Get Passionate Instead

Many smart women fall into this tricky trap….

Confusing neediness for love.

I’ve come to discover that neediness can disguise itself as “love”.

Let me explain…

I think we can agree that true love is when we think about the other person’s happiness before our own.

Neediness is a fixation on how our own needs are not being met.

Love is courageous and feels blissful… while neediness is fear-based and feels painful.

Many guys sense neediness the more time they spend with a girl, which can cause them to slowly pull away.

When a woman starts to get emotionally attached to a guy and hopes that he gives her more love and attention, men often pull away because this is not what men want in a girlfriend. It is far from what makes a woman desirable in their eyes.

What most men find irresistible and want is a woman who LOVES them rather than needs them.

Need is not being able to live without a man, while love is wanting him to be an addition to your life.

A woman who has the confidence to love and desire gets the love from the man she wants. Women who are overly-attached, on the other hand, will find it difficult to acquire the love they want.

It is possible to develop high levels confidence with men – this is what men find irresistible.

If you deal with neediness everyday and want to become confident and free of fear, anxiety, neediness, self-doubt or jealousy, then check out my emotional balancing tips.

How To Be Irresistible To Men Secret 4:

Nurture Him

Most men enjoy independence, but I’ve found that men secretly want to feel taken care of as well.

To many women this comes naturally. The problem is when men do hurtful things, many women pull back this quality out of fear, insecurity or anger.

The Indian mystic Osho once said “a man’s life is a journey to find the happiness he once felt inside the womb of his mother.” Profound stuff.

Could you imagine what would happen if you were able to make him feel the happiness he once felt in his mother’s womb?

Is it even possible?

There are ways to make him feel this way that I don’t have time to get into now (you can learn more in my products and programs).

It’s a basic female, motherly instinct to nurture.

Most guys do want a tiny bit of mommy in the woman they’re spending their time with.

But because of society, “responsibilities” and the resentment many women subconsciously feel towards men, many women end up losing touch with this part of themselves. Instead, they reprimand their man for not being able to wear the pants in the relationship.

If you’re not nurturing to a man, there’s a good chance that he will feel a level of distrust in your ability to fulfill him emotionally.

How To Be Irresistible To Men Secret 3:

How To Be Irresistible To Men In The Bedroom

There's no denying it...

Sex is a powerful, emotionally bonding event.

And mastering the bedroom can trigger a man’s heart to open up to you and massively change how a man feels about you.

Many magazines come out with “tricks” for the bedroom.

But there’s something simpler and more effective you can do to be irresistible to men in the bedroom.

It comes down to this…

You must know how to create a relaxed environment in the bedroom. Most women create tensed environment in the bedroom by worrying about how they look or if they’re “pleasing” him.

That all you need to start making men feel irresistibly in love and attracted to you in the bedroom.

This simple shift can cause a man to feel that you are different from other girlsIt’s easier than you might think to master the bedroom with men, you just have to know how and then act.

How To Be Irresistible To Men Secret 2:

Be An Expression Of Love

There are women who live in fear, and women who live in love.

In my experience, most women live in fear.

Many women:

  • Fear being left
  • Fear not being loved
  • Fear pain
  • Fear being cheated on/used
  • Live with bitterness/regret over the past
  • Worry about the future

The list goes on.

Fear can kill a man’s attraction because men are universally drawn to women who live in love, positivity, joy, creativity.

Unfortunately, most women live in constant worry, self-judgment, guilt or anxiety due to not knowing how to get what they want from men.

On the other hand, what makes a woman desirable is choosing to love over fear. When you base your actions with men off of love-based thoughts, you act in ways that attract love from men.

A woman who sees dance, celebration and music wherever she goes is one of the most desirable qualities a woman can have.

Love is, in fact, the most powerful energy in the universe.

How To Be Irresistible To Men Secret 1:

Be Irresistible to Men by Having Integrity

I’d like to ask you an obvious yet powerful question…

Why do so many women fail to make men irresistibly attracted to them?

Some women would say a lack of confidence or not being pretty enough.

Well, the truth I’ve found after coaching women around the world for over 10 years is most women aren’t irresistible to guys because they lack integrity.

Unfortunately, many women simply do whatever they think will get them the results they want… even if that means dishonest behavior or games.

Ironically, this is exactly what robs women of their power with men.

Some women feel “entitled” to act this way because of how they have been badly and unfairly treated by men in the past.

What makes a woman desirable is having admirable love-centered values.

When a man knows a woman can be swayed to dishonesty to get what she wants, he will lose trust and may leave because he knows one day, it may be him at the business end of her sword.

A woman who stands up for love and won’t play games is a beacon of light to men.

This can and often does inspire men out of their own B.S.

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