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3 Ways To Know If You’re High Maintenance In A Relationship

How To Know If You Are Too "High Maintenance" For A Guy In A Relationship & What To Do About It...

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Many women  secretly ask themselves the question “Am I too high maintenance in relationships?”

 

When a man calls a woman “high maintenance” it carries a pretty negative connotation, doesn’t it?

 

But what does it really mean when a man calls a woman high maintenance in dating and relationships? Is it important to pay attention to?

 

The answer, quite simply, is yes.

 

Why?

 

Because most men avoid relationships with “high maintenance” women at all costs.

And they will even pull away from a woman right in the middle of a relationship once he realizes she is high maintenance…. even if he was initially very attracted to that woman!

 

For most men, “high maintenance” often describes a woman who men feel stressed about making happy.

 

The raw truth is, most men prefer to meet and stay with women who are low maintenance.

 

Today, I’m going to show you if you are too high maintenance in relationships, how and why men avoid high maintenance women and what you can do about it.

 

So, if you want the very most love, attention and affection from the man you love, then you absolutely must pay attention to what I’m about to say.

1. Men Can’t Relax & Be Themselves In A Relationship With A High Maintenance Woman

Many “high maintenance” women feel never truly satisfied with the amount love, attention, and affection a particular man gives.

 

So, how do you know if it’s you or him who is really at fault?

 

The answer is in how you act on those feelings.

 

A high maintenance woman has little problem thinking that the guy is the problem.

From there, she will likely:

  • Demand that he give more of his time, love and energy
  • Withdraw or becoming "aloof"
  • Give him the cold shoulder
  • Play emotional games (usually) knowing that she shouldn't
  • Try to make him jealous
  • Talk, flirt or even cheat with other men
  • etc. etc. Doing anything she thinks he probably wouldn't like to get his attention

Basically, this allows high maintenance women to blame him for her bad feelings.

Relationships can be tough, especially when a guy isn’t giving you the love, attention or appreciation that you really want.

 

But if you allow yourself to do these things, you will eventually push the guy out of your life.

 

All of this allows a high maintenance woman to blame the guy for her feelings… regardless if she’s actually right or not.

 

The problem is, this causes men to never feel like they can truly relax around you in the relationship.

 

They feel like they’re walking on eggshells. They’re always prepared for what you will next be upset at him for…. regardless of whether he actually screwed up or not.

 

So, you’ll find yourself “forcing” him to give you love, attention, appreciation etc. as if he doesn’t really want to.

 

Fact is, most women blame guys believing he “must not care enough” without realizing the pressure she is putting on him.

 

Look, men CAN be very inconsiderate idiots at times. I get that.

 

But, when you put pressure on a man to give you love and attention, you’re setting yourself up for a failed relationship.

 

This will lead him to feel like he doesn’t “match” with you and pull away… or even leave.

 

And he will start to think things like “I don’t know if I can make her happy.” or “She might be better off with someone else.”

 

So, if you ever hear a guy say things like this, watch out because it’s “code” for “I’m checking out of this relationship”.

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2. “High Maintenance” Is Neediness Disguise, Which Is Unattractive To Men

At the core of a high maintenance woman is neediness for attention and insecurity.

 

Hear me out before jumping on me for saying that!

 

How high maintenance women tend to cover up their fears is by focusing on getting the attention of a man. Basically, she hopes he gives her unconditional love and attention.

 

If she doesn’t get that attention, she may blame him… for not loving her enough and take out her frustration on the relationship.

 

This is actually a sign of neediness.

 

But the problem is, most men find neediness emotionally and psychologically unattractive.

 

Look. Many women appreciate their own beauty, success or status. But *very few* love themselves unconditionally regardless of appearance or accomplishments.

 

It’s okay to want approval from your man. But the problem is overly-needy women often blame or antagonize their boyfriends for not caring enough about her.

 

I get it. Men can often act aloof or distant in relationships.

 

But I’ve actually heard men say they will “run for the hills” when they see neediness.

 

So the point is, you must understand how to deal with your insecurities with men or you could end up pushing him away without even knowing what happened.

 

That is, if you want to make men really crave a relationship with you, you must learn to let go the neediness that many high maintenance women have.

 

Thing is, it’s not as difficult as it may seem if you go about it in the right way. 

3. Why Most Men Prefer Low Maintenance Women In Dating & Relationships

Here is a psychological fact about most men versus most women.

 

Many women are willing to sacrifice their time, money and energy to have something amazing… like a beautiful new dress, new car or a specular romance with a man who adores her.

 

But this is not necessarily true about most of today’s men.

 

On the contrary, many men prefer something that works smoothly, is “cost effective” and takes little time, energy or money to maintain.

 

This is why many women are attracted to a new Mercedes while many men are happy with a truck.

 

Or some guys are quite content put-putting around in a junker they’ve had for 20 years!

 

This logic very much applies to how men feel about relationships and women as well.

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Most men are looking for a low maintenance woman who doesn’t require excessive energy to make happy.

The reality is, if a man feels that a woman takes too much time, energy or money to make happy, he will likely feel “tired” from the relationship and grow distance.

 

He may even start “shopping” for a new girlfriend at that point.

 

And this is where you will hear some guys say things like “I don’t know if I can make her happy.”

 

If you have ever heard a man says this, he felt that you were too “high maintenance” for him and was feeling more stress than love from the relationship.

 

So, it would behoove you to learn how to be a “low maintenance” woman.

 

The truth is, ANY woman can learn how to do this even if she’s been high maintenance for her entire life.

 

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“I Cheated On My Boyfriend”: Here’s What To Do To Stay Sane

You're About To Learn What To Do To Keep Your Sanity And Relationship If You Cheated On Your Boyfriend

i cheated on my boyfriend or husband

“I cheated on my boyfriend… now what am I going to do?”

 

You’re likely reading this because you cheated on your boyfriend or husband and now you feel overwhelmed with guilt and want to tell him.

 

You want to tell him the truth, but you are scared shitless to lose him over it and have no idea what to do.

If you’re like many of the women I have coached, your relationship is in not good right now, and you don’t know how to find a way out of this mess. Well, today, I’m going to show you how to get out of it.

When you go to your boyfriend to tell him you have cheated on him, you have to do so very, very carefully!

The good news is, if you go about things in the right way, many men will be receptive to the truth (within reason), and will not leave you over it.

 

In fact, if you handle telling him the truth about cheating on him the right way, it can ultimately cause you two to become closer than ever before.

 

But let’s not be “fairytale” about it. Feelings will get hurt. Ego will get hurt.

 

But there is much you can do to mitigate the damage to your relationship with your boyfriend or husband and ensure a better outcome to the story, which I will be sharing with you in this article.

 

What are my qualifications? 

 

Well, my name is Brandon Martin and I’ve been coaching women on the topics of men, dating and relationships for more than ten years at the time of this writing.

 

Aside from coaching women, I have been in two separate long-term relationships with women who ended up cheating… both I caught redhanded.

 

I’m not here to judge you about what you did. Just by you being here and reading, I respect that you are trying to fix the situation. 

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My disclaimer: this article is not to be take as “professional advice”. Think of this as for entertainment purposes only.

 

With that said, I know what works and what doesn’t with men if your goal is to KEEP your man after he finds out you cheated on him.

 

There are many mistakes that women make when they tell their boyfriend or husband the truth about their “extracurricular activities” and want to keep him.

 

In this article, I’m going to show you exactly how to tell your boyfriend or husband that you cheated to ensure the best outcome.

1. Not Showing Enough Remorse

I’ve discovered that when women either tell that they have cheated or get “found out”, strangely many women  rationalize WHY they cheated and either subtly or very overtly blame the guy for doing it.

I shouldn’t have to say this, but I will be clear.

 

Do not in any way blame him for cheating or rationalize why you did it (if your goal is to keep him in your life), no matter what he may have done to push you to cheat.

 

At the moment you confess, he may be overwhelmed with denial, upset feelings, anger and pain.  The last thing you want to do is intensify these feelings and throw gasoline on the fire by rationalizing why he did or blaming him.

 

As a side note, it’s extremely important that you keep your cool and don’t take anything negative he says personally.

 

The bottom line is, when you tell him, you need to show remorse. One thing that I’ll never forget when I found out one of my girlfriends cheated on me is she said with tears in her eyes “I will spend the rest of my life making this up to you”.

 

This one line stuck with me and I recommend saying something along similar line when you make your confession.

2. Blaming Him For Cheating

As I have already mentioned, blaming him for cheating or rationalizing why you cheated is a big no no.

 

At a later date, it may be possible to talk about the reasons behind why you cheated, but at the initial confession, there will be too many emotions.

 

Even if he asks you why, your answers should be along the lines of “there is no excuse for what I did”.

 

Many women, not being able to cope with what they have done and the guilt of hurting someone they love, they uncontrollably start deflecting and blaming to make themselves feel better.

3. Showing Too Much Remorse For Cheating

If you show too much remorse and you’re sobbing and crying and there’s snotting flying out of your nose, this is going take away from your attractiveness.

 

Before you tell your man you cheated, you absolutely must forgive yourself for doing it.

 

You must take time meditating on this until you can truly release at least most of the guilt you feel.

 

You must tell your man with calmness, strength, submission and a desire to do the right things.

 

You will sub-communicate all of these things when you have forgiven yourself and yet want to do the right thing and tell him the truth.

 

You’ll also have to do things like remind him that doing the right thing and telling the truth should be rewarded and not to punish you for coming forward.

 

You can only say such things if you have forgiven yourself to so extent.

5. Telling Him Too Many Details About The Affair

At the moment you tell him that you cheated, he will have many question.

 

A part of him will want to know details that will hurt him a lot.

 

It’s as if he wants to hurt more by knowing too much.

 

You can answer his questions, but I recommend that any “Is he bigger than me?” or  “Was he better than me?” type questions be answered with a firm “No”.

 

Remember, his ego will be shattered. This is just the reality that you must accept. So you need to take every measure to salvage his ego as best as possible without adding fuel to the fire.

 

All your answers should help tame the fire that is going to be unleashed.

4. Waiting Too Long To Tell Him You Cheated On Him

This is the part that a lot of women hate hearing, but the sooner you tell him “I cheated” the better.

 

Even if you know that you got away with cheating and there is no way he will ever find out, there are important reasons why waiting is a bad idea if you want a happy ending… and you want this situation to actually be an event that helps you to grow closer together.

 

The reason why waiting too long is a bad idea is simply because the guilt of cheating eats most women alive.

 

This guilt causes women to lash out and become “emotional” and unpredictable in the relationship which leads to fights, bickering, finger pointing, paranoia that he’s cheating too etc. etc. the decline of the relationship.

 

I have seen this many, many times both in women’s relationships who I coach and in my own personal relationships with women.

 

If I’m a betting man, I think you already are seeing this happen in your relationship.

Final Thoughts

This has been a brief overview of how to tell your man that you cheated.

 

But the truth is there is MUCH MORE you must understand about men and relationships to both tell him the truth in this situation AND ensure that your relationship is a process of growth from here on in.

That is why you need to sign up for my free eLetter down below where I will send you emails every few days with the best relationship and men advice you can find.

 

I wish you luck in your situation and I will see you in the eLetter.

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The “Great Wall of China” has nothing on the wall a man can surround himself with when it comes to communication in relationships.

 

Why is it so difficult to communicate with a man in a relationship… on a psychological, emotional and even physical level?

 

How do you get him to listen to your feelings? And get him telling you his feelings and connect on a deeper, spiritual, “us against the world” level?

 

Are most men just broken in this department?

The answer is… not most.

But seriously…

Most men are perfectly capable of communicating, opening up and sharing an emotional connection in a relationship… they just end up not wanting to.


Confused yet?


One reason why relationship communication stops (or never starts) has a lot to do with a man’s past relationship experiences.

But there’s another special thing most women fail to make happen when creating communication lines with a man. We’ll talk about that in a second.

 

Here’s the reality if your man is not communicating in your relationship. 

 

If he is not communicating and opening up with you, you could lose him.

 

It has little to do with something going on outside of the relationship.  

 

It’s not because of his job or his friends or family or anything else going on in his life.

Limited or no communication in a relationship is a symptom of a deeper problem.

Usually when a man is not open or communicating in a relationship, it’s a sign of something going on inside the relationship.

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Nine times out of ten it has to with this special ingredient that most women don’t know how to create in a relationship.

That ingredient is emotional trust.

 

When I say “trust”, I don’t mean your fidelity.

 

The literal translation of the word trust is reliance on the integrity, strength, ability of a person or thing (pulled from dictionary.com).

 

Now, let me ask you a few questions, and try to be really honest with yourself.

 

Do you ever get overly-emotional, upset or needy with him?

 

Have you ever demanded things of him?

 

Do you feel the desire to control your relationship… that things will fall apart if you don’t?

 

Can you truly say that your man feels a deep sense of reliability in your integrity, strength and ability to handle him?

 

Does he honestly believe that he could reveal his deepest darkest secrets to you and nothing would happen to the relationship except that a deeper connection would form with you?

 

These are tough questions to answers.

 

We both know that you would absolutely, without thought, be his “rock”, but does he know that?

 

Communication in relationships goes both way.

 

Chances are, if he’s not communicating with you in the relationship, then the answer is “no”.

 

Where most women go wrong is assuming that he “should” just know that because she loves him.

 

But more often than not, men are not what you would call “mind readers”.

 

And they’re usually not relationship communication experts either…

In fact, most men can be a pretty dense.

 

Truth is, most women never learn HOW to communicate in relationships or demonstrate their trustworthiness to a man in a way that he understands and opens up.

 

The way MEN understand communication in relationships is much different than woman.

 

You have to talk to a man like a man, or he won’t get your messages.

You do that by understanding male psychology, emotions and heart.

 

If your man isn’t communicating openly in the relationship with you, then it’s time to start building trust with your man (before it’s too late) by understanding his PSYCHOLOGY.

 

A distant, non-communicative boyfriend is a sign that a relationship is in danger and quick actions is needed.

 

The question is, how do you make a man trust you so much so that he WANTS to communicate in the relationship openly, and even allowing himself to unleash his “inner dork” with you?

 

The “trick” is to create an atmosphere of trust with him so that he feels absolutely SAFE being around you.

 

When your man has a DEEP level of for trust for you, he will open up to you on his own.

When he starts communicating with you, you have to be ready to talk with him the right way so that he continues to open up and even deeper.

If you handle a man’s truth in the wrong way like most women do, you risk slamming the door shut on his communication for good.

 

No matter how much both you and I know that you’re a trustworthy person deep down, it’s more about communicating this to him in the right way so that he understands.

 

You must learn how to bridge your “female world” with his male world.

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A Man "Ghosted" You? Here's What To Do Next

When a man “ghosts” you after leading you to believe that he likes or even loves you, it’s an extremely confusing situation.

 

Sometimes men make it clear that he is very interested, and then poof… he’s gone.

He doesn’t reply to your messages, he doesn’t call, he doesn’t send anything at all.

 

The first thought that runs through many women’s head is, is he ok? Is his phone broken?

 

Did he DIE?

 

After these initial thoughts wear off and she gets a bit more clear headed (or sees his active status on social media), she may start wondering if there is another woman involved, or what possible reason he has to ghost her.

This is usually when the woman comes out of denial and anger sets in.


“How could he do this to me?” some women think. “How could he lead me on like this and then disappear?”

This is usually when the woman comes out of denial and anger sets in.

 

“How could he do this to me?” some women think. “How could he lead me on like this and then disappear?”

 

This is the hurt ego.

 

Most women in this situation can’t comprehend why a man would ghost out. It seems to make no sense at all, especially if he was showing a lot of interest or wanting to be together beforehand.

 

Well, after years of researching relationships between men and women and coaching thousands of women around the world, I’ve found that there are three foundational reasons we must consider why a man will “ghost” a woman.

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Possibility 1: He's Ghosting You Because He Has Life Issues

He may have issues in his life blocking him from wanting to a relationship with you.

 

It could be family, work or life related… and it’s all about how HE is processing those events.

 

Not everyone is as mature as the Dalai Lama, and many men often handle relationships and life in immature or inefficient ways.

 

 

People are not perfect and often handle life in ineffective ways.

 

This is just something we must accept.

 

While you may feel that if you were in his life, you could make his life easier, he may not see it that way… and that’s just something we have to respect.

 

Why?

 

Because the harder you push a man to open up to you, the more likely he will dig his heals in and resist you.

 

Why?

 

Because men often need time and space to deal with issues. When they are forced to do something they’re not comfortable with (whatever the reason), it often makes men feel not understood and isolated. Not good if you want to get closer to him.

Possibility 2: You're Doing Something To Cause Him To Ghost You

The second more likely reason why a man will ghost a woman is because of MISTAKES IN HER APPROACH to him.

 

Yes, even though he might have said sweet nothing to you before he ghosted, the fact is that he DID ghost you after all…. as much as the that might sting to hear.

 

One of the BIGGEST reasons why men are affectionate and then ghost out is when a woman interacts in a way with a guy that makes him feel TRAPPED.

 

Yes.

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Even though he was showing interest, many women don’t know how their energy and words truly affect men.

Men are not very open (even with themselves) about their honest feelings.

 

While he might THINK that he wants you, he THINK things like you are attractive, you would make a good girlfriend, mother of his children etc. his HEART is not FEELING the correct feeling… namely the insatiable desire to be with you and only you.

 

This is a dangerous position for a man because this can spur a little something called “commitment phobia”.

It’s this insatiable, highly emotional desire to be with a woman that I focus on teaching women how to make men feel.

 

This combined with how many women inadvertently come off as overly needy, talk about the future, this will push a man away fast.

 

Different men handle it differently. Some men will tell you to your face, other men will ghost because they don’t want to or don’t know how to deal with the situation.

 

It’s not that he’s a bad guy, it’s just that he doesn’t know any better and perhaps no one ever taught him how to deal with a situation like this.

 

The third reason is he has another woman in the picture.

 

In this situation, the only thing you can do is look like the BEST option for him.

 

This means becoming the woman who effortlessly creates an emotional bond in any man she choses.

 

This is something that ANY woman can learn to do if she so chooses and has the motivation to do so.

 

Often, the most powerful motivation for becoming our most attractive self is experiencing a situation in which we feel paralyzed emotionally and rejected by the object of our affection, perhaps the feeling you currently have.

Possibility 3: Another Woman Is In The Picture

In this situation, what you must do is look like the BEST choice for him.

 

Most women in this situation make the same mistakes that all the other woman make, making them look like every other woman and not special.

 

This means engaging in behaviors that lower a man’s attraction rather than increasing his attraction.

 

 

This means becoming the woman who effortlessly creates an emotional bond in any man she choses.

 

 

This is something that ANY woman can learn to do if she so chooses and has the motivation to do so.

 

 

Often, the most powerful motivation for becoming our most attractive self is experiencing a situation in which we feel paralyzed emotionally and rejected by the object of our affection, perhaps the feeling you currently have.

What To Do Now

When a man ghosts you, the best thing you can possibly do is GIVE HIM AND THE SITUATION SPACE.

 

Most women who are ghosted, out of the fear of losing the guy, blow up a man’s phone asking him what he’s doing, where he is and what’s going on.

 

All this usually does is push the guy further away by demonstrating more of the behavior that were already pushing him away.

 

Many women either don’t get a response back or get a very excuse ridden, unsatisfying response that makes them feel even worse than before.

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I’m about to share with you four powerful secrets about how save a relationship with your boyfriend even if he wants out.

I’m going to show you how to get the love, respect, trust and appreciation you deserve from your boyfriend or husband.

I’ve shared my tips and secrets with thousands of women around the world. Secrets about how men think and feel, why men do things like pull away or shut down… and what a woman can do to spark deep levels of love and affection, and commitment in her boyfriend.

What I’ve learn after coaching students from students to surgeons is that no matter what walk of life you’re from, men can cause pain and frustration if you don’t handle them properly.

When you’re with a man who stops appreciating you and starts acting like a jackass…

That’s about the time that most women give up and lose at love and start asking the question “what am I doing so wrong? How do I save this relationship?”

If you’re like the many women I’ve coached over the years, you’ve experienced this.

But fortunately I have good news for you today.

After years of investigating relationship dynamics and meeting with many experts about saving relationships, I’ve found that 99% of bad situations with men can be turned around even when your man wants out.

You can get more love, affection and intimacy from your boyfriend or husband than you thought possible… and have your dream relationship if you know these secrets and apply them.

It’s actually simple to do just by making a few adjustments to the way you approach your boyfriend and the relationship.

Unfortunately, most women will never know how to save their relationships.

Look. Men start acting stupid for specific reasons. 

And if you understand why men fall out of love, lose interest or become cold, you can learn how to get the love, attention, connection and admiration back that you’re currently not getting.

1. Men Experience Love & Relationships Differently Than Women

After years coaching many different women, I discovered a mistake most women make that stops them cold from even starting to know how to save a relationship.

It’s an innocent mistake…

But this mistake leads men to feel misunderstood and frustrated… which causes them to pull away, lose attraction and even fall out of love and start acting like jackasses.

I’m willing to bet you are doing it too.

If you stop doing this you can then learn how to save your relationship and REVERSE the damage with in your relationship with your boyfriend or husband. You will see instant positive changes in his energy towards you.

The mistake is most women tend to assume that men think about and experience love, attraction and relationships the same way they do as women.

Most women value things like openness, affection, intimacy, sharing, connection, commitment and security in relationships.

These are all fantastic things. The problem is men tend to prioritize differently in relationships.

Somethings most men value are things like unpredictability, independence, respect and challenge.

This (helps) explains the caveman fascination with fast cars, football and video games…

Do you see a pattern here?

Men have different expectations for a relationship than women.

Most men secretly hope to have a girlfriend who is unpredictable, independent, who they respect and who will challenge them to grow to the next level of their personal evolution.

The take away? Most guys  hope to have a girlfriend who understands him.

When men end up unfulfilled because of a simple misunderstanding, things can unravel quickly.

Then you will see your boyfriend:

  • Not returning your texts quickly
  • Not "trying" for the relationship
  • playing too many video games/watching too much TV
  • Being irritable and starting fights
  • Checking out other women
  • Not being chivalrus or showing he's about you
  • Any other jerk, jackass or caveman behavior

Really, you deserve much, much better than this!

If you are make the wrong assumptions about how men “should” be… not how they actually are, chances are you’ll run into big problems.

If you aren’t fulfilling what men need at their core, you’re going to find that guys pull away, shut down and lose interest in you.

You just need to learn how to properly challenge men, be unpredictable, and learn what causes a man to RESPECT a woman.

2. Why Men Lose Attraction & Fall Out Of Love In Relationships Or Marriages

I get asked all the time by women wanting to know how to save their relationships and marriages this question:

“Brandon, why do men get into relationship and then lose interest and fall out of love?”

In almost every case, it’s 100% possible to stop a man from losing attraction, save the relationship and make him feel deep love, respect and attraction for you again.

One huge challenge that causes many women to lose love, attraction and a strong bond with men is they simply don’t understand men’s love and attraction mechanisms.

This has a lot to do with what women are told as girls about how men are “supposed” to be.

Men are more complicated than most people realize… including men themselves.

The old notion that men “only want one thing” has been passed over, and today we know that men have a deep, widely misunderstood complexity.

If you’re neglecting his needs and emotions as a man, you’re bound to see him lose attraction, act distant and even fall out of love.

The trick to saving a relationship is to understand what he truly needs, not what you think he needs.

Where the fog gets thicker is what men say they want and what men actually respond to emotionally are often completely different things.

A man may say he wants a big breasted skinny blonde… It’s hard to imagine that man has actually landed on the moon.

But the truth, is he may be far more happy and in love with a more or less “average” women if she pushes the right emotional buttons in him.

What are those women doing that most others aren’t?

Men can be insensitive assholes… but if you learn what men universally need at their emotional core to feel satisfied by a woman, you can save a relationship situation.

At the end of this article, I’ll explain how you can get my detailed secrets on male psychology for free.

3. Most Of What You've Been Taught About Men In Relationships Is Wrong

Television, romance novels, gossip magazines, and other women have done a fantastic job at royally confusing most women on how to save a relationship.

Why don’t boyfriends act the way everyone says they are supposed to?

Women are more confused about men and love than ever, and more than ever women are asking “what the hell do men want?”

Men don’t behave, think or respond to the things that most people SAY they do.

What I’ve found after years of sifting through misinformation on men is that most “advice” out there is either outdated or inaccurate.

How do men really feel about love and relationships?

After years of talking with guys on the subject, I’ve come to some answers.

Men LOVE love and relationships.

In fact, most men want to find one woman who they can spend their life with and be in love with forever.

The problem is… many men aren’t finding the type of woman that truly inspire them.

How you save a relationship is by bringing forth those qualities that initially inspired your man to be with you in the first place.

4. When You Need To Know How To Save A Relationship, Ask For Help

I’ve seen too many good women do this… 

Go on for too long in terrible circumstances in their relationships without getting real help.

They’re not getting the love, affection, connection, intimacy and romance they DESERVE and are going through a very painful, dark, confusing nightmare alone.

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The “Great Wall of China” has nothing on the wall a man can surround himself with when it comes to communication in relationships.

 

Why is it so difficult to communicate with a man in a relationship… on a psychological, emotional and even physical level?

 

How do you get him to listen to your feelings? And get him telling you his feelings and connect on a deeper, spiritual, “us against the world” level?

 

Are most men just broken in this department?

The answer is… not most.

But seriously…

Most men are perfectly capable of communicating in a relationship…they just decide not to.

One reason why relationship communication stops (or never starts) has a lot to do with a man’s past relationship experiences.

But there’s another special thing most women fail to make happen when creating communication lines with a man. 

 

We’ll talk about that in a second.

 

Here’s the reality if your man is not communicating in your relationship. 

 

If he is not communicating and opening up with you, you could lose him.

 

It has little to do with something going on outside of the relationship.  

 

It’s not because of his job or his friends or family or anything else going on in his life.

Limited or no communication in a relationship is a symptom of a deeper problem.

Usually when a man is not open or communicating in a relationship, it’s a sign of something going on inside the relationship.

 

Nine times out of ten it has to with this special ingredient that most women don’t know how to create in a relationship.

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That ingredient is emotional trust.

 

When I say “trust”, I don’t mean your fidelity.

 

The literal translation of the word trust is reliance on the integrity, strength, ability of a person or thing (pulled from dictionary.com).

 

Now, let me ask you a few questions, and try to be really honest with yourself.

 

Do you ever get overly-emotional, upset or needy with him?

 

Have you ever demanded things of him?

 

Do you feel the desire to control your relationship… that things will fall apart if you don’t?

 

Can you truly say that your man feels a deep sense of reliability in your integrity, strength and ability to handle him?

 

Does he honestly believe that he could reveal his deepest darkest secrets to you and nothing would happen to the relationship except that a deeper connection would form with you?

 

These are tough questions to answers.

 

We both know that you would absolutely, without thought, be his “rock”, but does he know that?

 

Communication in relationships goes both way.

 

Chances are, if he’s not communicating with you in the relationship, then the answer is “no”.

 

Where most women go wrong is assuming that he “should” just know that because she loves him.

 

But more often than not, men are not what you would call “mind readers”.

 

And they’re usually not relationship communication experts either…

In fact, most men can be a pretty dense.

 

Truth is, most women never learn HOW to communicate in relationships or demonstrate their trustworthiness to a man in a way that he understands and opens up.

 

The way MEN understand communication in relationships is much different than woman.

 

You have to talk to a man like a man, or he won’t get your messages.

You do that by understanding male psychology, emotions and heart.

 

If your man isn’t communicating openly in the relationship with you, then it’s time to start building trust with your man (before it’s too late) by understanding his PSYCHOLOGY.

 

A distant, non-communicative boyfriend is a sign that a relationship is in danger and quick actions is needed.

 

The question is, how do you make a man trust you so much so that he WANTS to communicate in the relationship openly, and even allowing himself to unleash his “inner dork” with you?

 

The “trick” is to create an atmosphere of trust with him so that he feels absolutely SAFE being around you.

 

When your man has a DEEP level of for trust for you, he will open up to you on his own.

When he starts communicating with you, you have to be ready to talk with him the right way so that he continues to open up and even deeper.

If you handle a man’s truth in the wrong way like most women do, you risk slamming the door shut on his communication for good.

 

No matter how much both you and I know that you’re a trustworthy person deep down, it’s more about communicating this to him in the right way so that he understands.

 

You must learn how to bridge your “female world” with his male world.

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How Important Is Physical Beauty To A Man?

There is a longstanding, unspoken rule for women: “I must be pretty or I don’t stand a chance being attractive to men.”

 

How much truth is there really that men only want women for their looks?

 

We all know that most men become dumb as a stump in the presence of an attractive woman, but is this all they pay attention to?

 

Men understand that they want a beautiful woman. Men ARE attracted to physical beauty.

 

Yeah, that is true… but there is also other specific criteria that if a woman posses, men will be attracted to, and men don’t necessarily understand “why”. 

And I don’t mean this in that faux “fairy-tale ending” I-don’t-care-what-you-look-like kind of way…

 

A man, just like many women, doesn’t truly know exactly what he wants. He knows he want certain things, physical beauty, perhaps a woman with a strong career for instance, but he also doesn’t realize that physical beauty is not the only criteria that triggers men’s attraction.

 

There are inner qualities that a woman can posses that will blow a high quality man right over with high levels of attraction.

 

Many women find it hard to believe what I’m about to say, but the truth is these specific inner qualities far outweigh physical beauty.

 

But women who posses these quality are rare.

I know many women who dream up an ideal “perfect man” in there head only to find themselves falling in love with a man who is completely different from that image. The same thing applies to men.

 

I know many, many men who set out looking for a hot bombshell woman, what we can call an “average looking” woman… and not often not because he’s “settling”.

 

That woman sparks something  special in him he has never felt from any other woman.

 

So, you might be wondering by now what these mysterious special qualities are that can take a man off the physical beauty conveyer belt.

 

These 12 things are a good start. If you haven’t read it, you gotta check it out right now.

 

But, there is something more to it.

 

What turns a man’s head to a woman even if she isn’t physically attractive to him? 

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What Makes Men Pay Attention To "Average Looking" Women?

What makes a man want a woman even if she isn’t his most physically attractive type (and when I say “not physically attractive”, I mean that she is at least keeping herself in shape as best as she can).  “There is no such thing as an unattractive woman, only a lazy one” to quote a past girlfriend.

 

So, what causes a light bulb to actually flicker in his head and say “hmm, there is something about this woman… I just can’t explain it”?

 

The truth is it would take me a while to explain what men truly want beyond what billion dollar makeup companies want you to believe.

 

But we can start with one thing: your own Yin femininity.

 Yin femininity is one of the most attractive quality a woman can have. 

 

Yes, your very own natural femininity. If you think about it, physical beauty is just an extension of femininity. Femininity is the whole tree.

 

Personally, I have chosen to be with women who weren’t the most physically attractive to me in the past, but I could look past it because they shined, they emanated something from within.

 

There was a light in her eyes, and there was a specialness to her personality.

 

An “unattractive women” who see herself as such has lost that light. She has become hopeless and has lost touch with her femininity, her very silo of attractiveness.

 

She gets down on herself and worries constantly.  She has the femininity there, but it gets covered up by negative thoughts and emotions.

 

This can eventually lead a woman to become more and more masculine as a subconscious protection device.

 

Many men do not find masculinity in women attractive, and this is a core problem of relationships and dating today for women.

 

Many of today’s women are acting more and more masculine.

 

In other words, they are forfeiting their softness, trusting, sensitivity, creativity, peace, light and joy in favor of strength, independence, cynicism, hard headedness, being rigid, and coldness. 

 

I know from experience that a physically gorgeous woman with nothing else to offer can become exhausting and a burden.

 

Many men will break up or leave physically stunning women if this happens.

 

In other words, beauty alone isn’t enough to captures a man’s imagination.

 

I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve wanted to take this kind of woman by the hair and belt and toss her out a window (metaphorically speaking of course).  And I know a few women who have wanted to do that with the men they date!

 

Women with nothing more to offer than looks are not interesting to most high quality men with options.

 

A guy will instantly be attracted to a beautiful woman, sure, and maybe even spend an evening or two with her, but soon after he will be dying to press the “eject” button if there’s nothing else within her that’s intriguing to him.

 

I don’t mean to sound like “if you’re beautiful, you’re not good enough”, but I’m saying this if you have been focusing of physical beauty to try to get a man.

 

Being beautiful truly isn’t enough for a quality guy.

 

Physically beauty is a small piece of the “male attraction” puzzle.

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We gravitate to a woman who has that spark of pure Yin femininity in her eye and heart… This is what polar attraction for you means. This sparks a man’s interest.

 

He wants someone who is going to be strong to take on the world with him and someone soft enough to give him feminine life.

 

Physical beauty may seem like the “be all end all”, but who you are as energy is the real be all end all… and the good news is you have complete control over it.

 

When you come to your confident femininity, this causes men to respond to you in a completely new way than what you are used to. He opens up to you, and he takes you under his wing.

 

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Brandon

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Have you ever been with a man who you really enjoyed and who enjoyed you, but when the time came to take things to the “next level”, you were willing move up, but he wasn’t?

Maybe he even gave you nice excuses like “I’m not ready for a committed relationship.”

Or…

“I need my freedom.”

But somehow, you knew that there was something else going on?

Why is getting a guy to COMMIT to one woman an insurmountable task?

Why are so many guys commitment phobes?

I’m about to expose to you IN DETAIL everything you’ve ever wanted to know about getting a man to commit…sound good?

Honestly, this is not a subject that needs addressing.

This is an insignificant challenge if you follow me on all of the other things I go on blathering about.

But, there’s too much pandemonium around this topic, so much that I absolutely must give you the straight facts on this situation.

First…

The Key Difference Between Men And Women…

  • Women Worry About The Long-Term
  • Men Worry About The Short-Term
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But women worry about their future.

Here’s a fact.

The most future oriented woman doesn’t come close to the least future oriented man. Most women worry about their future, much more than men.

But men are the opposite.

Men are more comfortable with their future plans and ambitions and worry more about right now. The most “present” man is nowhere close to the least present focused woman. Men actually have a much harder time playing and enjoying, much more than women.

Women are natural partiers…men are natural planners. That’s what we feel most comfortable with.

Let me explain.

When a woman hears about a social event that she must go to, she doesn’t think twice about preparing herself, getting dressed and made up to go.

When a man hears about the same things, he stumbles around and “weighs his options”.

A girl feels more uncomfortable with their future while guys end up more uncomfortable with the celebration of right now.

Women celebrate constantly. Compared to guys, girls celebrate ALL OF THE TIME. Make no mistake.

It may not seem like it, but a man’s world is entirely different.

A woman can look at her entire life as a celebration, she can look at everything with “serendipity”. Everything is occurring as a long celebration.

Men only celebrate when invited to celebrate. And even then, many men find it hard to open up to it. They only manage to get a few minutes of celebration in before they feel uncomfortable. Even while celebrating he is somehow looking for a goal!

This is among the reasons why men like women and women like men. Men bring women a future and women bring men celebration.

Point to be learned?

Women Worry About The Long-Term While Men Worry About The Short-Term

Girls have the impending fear of growing older. It seems to always be lurking there in the back of her mind.

Because of the fear, she makes the most of right NOW. She’s young, vibrant and wants to celebrate it. The future, to her is some far off thing. And she is respected the most by society when she is YOUNG.

Feminine youth is celebrated to an incredible extent.

Men are not at all respected when they are young. Men are seen as sex addicted punks. Men only become respected when they mature and age and BECOME respectable.

Men ripen with age. Women decay with age.

By the time a woman hits a certain age, she is thrown out, rejected by society. She is no longer valued.

If you’ve ever wondered where the feverish restlessness comes from for needing so badly to get married and needing to secure her future before it falls out from under her, this is where it comes from.

Even from the beginning, girls are already thinking about marriage at the age of five!

They have their barbies and fantasize about marrying prince charming…which doesn’t happen as easily as she hoped for.

This is the whole “polarity” of men and women. A woman wants a man to be able to secure her future a man wants a woman to help him enjoy his life right now.

Women enjoy love, men enjoy freedom.

So the question is, how do you get a guy to want love?

This all leads to a fear of commitment in the long term for a man.

His “youthfulness” is rejected and he begins to obsess about, in the same way a woman’s “oldness” is rejected and she obsesses about it.

Make sense?

To handle ANY kind of commitment objections, take your relationships and dating experiences with him as a TODAY EVENT ONLY. You simply tell him “Our relationship/dating/whatever is a today event only, and if we should be together again tomorrow, then that is how it will be. But as long as we are together right now, I want to be with you completely.”

It’s not hard to do this!

A man wants freedom, so you simply give him what he thinks he wants! We love the people we love because they give us what we need, so give him what he needs.

The words aren’t as important as the energy behind the words. If you can be calm and playful with this, he’ll think you are the coolest woman alive.

You must let go of the fear of losing him. This is a basic pillar of relationships that needs to be taken care of immediately. In my world, it goes without saying!

Let me say it again.

*You must let go of the fear of losing him*

The fear of losing him only pushes him away, so drop the idea.

The thought of saying something like the above quote automatically strikes fear into the heart of many women I teach.

Why?

Because they’re “needy” for the man. They want to possess him and make sure he will never leave her.

I’m all for making miracles happen, I’ve seen MANY CRAZY things happen in relationships that are almost unbelievable, but this is not something that can make a miracle happen.

90% of women fear their man leaving them…and you know what?

90% of these women are left by the man…and they start wondering “What did I do wrong?”

The fear actually makes him pull away.

Most relationships today are VERY possessive.

Here, I teach you to allow him to be free.

Remember, he has come to you out of his own freewill because he felt GOOD around you and wanted to stick around you to continue the good feelings. If he wishes to stay, he should do so out of that same freedom.

Here’s the twist.

Allowing his freedom causes him to STAY.

Would YOU want someone around who wants to possess you?

Probably in most circumstances you’ve been in with men who became needy, you began to need more and more “space”. It might have even repulsed you.

It’s the same thing for a guy too.

And when you begin to look at relationships in this way, the relationship itself is able to BREATH. It gets a shot of adrenaline and is resuscitated.

Just like having all of the windows in your house open and allowing a fresh breeze to come in.

But you enjoy that breeze so much that you shut all of the windows to close it in. But soon, very soon, that air turns sour.

But, you didn’t realize your joy of it came from it’s freedom!

The freedom of that breeze to pass in and out of your house is what made it so cool, gentle, relaxing as it moved freely across your face.

Once you tried to possess it by closing all of the windows, it turned warm, stale and smelly.

See what I mean?

We can always plan for tomorrow, but we really never know what it will bring until it’s here. People get into marriage prepared to commit their entire lives together, and do you know what happens? More than 50% fail and the other 50% are miserable. They are absolutely miserable, don’t fool yourself into believing otherwise.

There are only a few exceptions, and they are the ones who get and follow what I’m saying here.

Most marriages are unhappy, angry, fight, bicker, cheat, lie all the way until death do they part.

But, love thrives on this moment only!

You can’t say for certain that you will love someone in 40 years time

All you know is that right NOW you feel like you can spend the rest of your life with this person. Right NOW. And let that be as beautiful as it wants to be.

There’s something else that needs to be said.

This thing psychologists go on about waiting two years before you getting hitched because that’s when the hormones die  and you can think more clearly about your decision is a CROCK. Whether its two hours, a day or five years, the future is STILL uncertain.

I’ve had many couple come to me after being together for a day who have the same problems as a couple that has been together 16 years.

Some are together for a week, get married and live happily ever after. Some are together 14 years, get married and regret it the 15th year.

From the many women I’ve coached in relationships, the happiest, most successful couples have dropped the idea that they will be with someone forever.

They come to me with an illusion of how they want things to be like that even THEY know is hollow.

That’s when it becomes a possibility. But it is not a possibility as long as you hold onto the belief. You give your relationship it’s best source of nourishment, freedom and love only when you become free yourself.

True love eludes most women because the second it comes into their life, they try too hard to keep it from leaving, but the very effort kills the love. Love is very fragile, and just like the guy himself, love must be given its freedom.

The same possessiveness that destroys the feeling of love is the same feeling of possessiveness that drives men away.

The “Paradox” Of Relationships With Men

But, this fear of insecurity causes many problems. Love is insecure. Love comes and goes as it pleases, and we try to hold onto it for as long as possible, until our tight grip squeezes it slowly to death.

Love, relationships, dating is a very gentle thing. It’s just like a flower. Even the slightest bit too much pressure on a flower can crush it and make the beautiful petals start to fall off until it looks more like a weed. A marriage puts massive amounts of pressure on both lovers to hold up to impossibilities that can’t be attained by the heart, by love.

Marriage wants commitment, but love is a free thing. marriage is cold, but love is warm. Marriage becomes boring, but love is always entertaining.

One with too much commitment of the unknown future will cause not death to the relationship, but death to the happiness of the individuals that make up the relationship.

Do you want a relationship to avoid loneliness to actually be happy and in love?

Somedays you will be unloyal to your lover and will want to do things a different way than he does. Some days you will not love. Some days you will love. There is no telling, but marriage does not account for that.

If you want a man to marry you and commit to the long term, you simply give him the option of making that choice. You want the man to commit, it has to be his choice to do so.

There is a need for room to breath, gentleness and no possessiveness. This is a very subtle mechanism that MUST be understood.

And the absolute irony is when we begin to look at it this way, the relationship THRIVES. And when the relationship thrives, it goes down the most ideal direction: a relationship filled to the brim with love and happiness. What more could you want?

When the pressure is taken off, all of a sudden, instead of feeling backed into a corner, he suddenly feels a freedom to choose. The pressure on both of your shoulders is suddenly lifted. And if the love is there, the choice will be absolutely clearly for love.

But you are afraid of giving him his freedom and finding out that the love is not there. The fact is, if you follow what I tell you – non-possessiveness, freedom, love, vibrancy, relaxation etc. etc. – you will automatically know why he is with you, out of love.

And these are not things that can be faked, games that can be played. No. They must come straight out of your authenticity. Only then will you know he is there for love out of YOU, not the game playing mask you put on. You mustn’t be afraid to shine your cryptic Dracula-like innards out into the light.

The relationship is allowed to breath and grow. We begin to accept this lover for exactly who they are, and it becomes a sheer delight.

Worry disappears. It just disappears like morning overcast in the sun.

But, the second you trick yourself into possessing him, you’re heart becomes broken. He cannot be possessed, and you know it. He is just as free as you are.

To get a guy to commit to you, you simply stop asking commitment of him!

Very risky indeed… but there are two possibilities:

  • Allow him and yourself to be free
  • Possess him and strike the fear of commitment into him

Men adore a laid back woman who doesn’t ask the impossible of him, who doesn’t pressure him. Drop female competition. Some is cute, too much is a nightmare for a guy.

Men love a woman who is relaxed and vibrant, not restless.

And then when you get rid of the possessiveness, and it’s as simple as unplugging a power cord, and become relaxed about your future and confidently believe and expect things to workout for you in it’s due time, all of the crisis falls away.

You can be in a committed relationship, but remember that each and every day it is a relationship, not by the years down into the untold future.

Whether you believe it or not, this is the reality.

When you live out of line with that truth, that’s when all of the pressure begins to build and the commitment problems arise like a typhoon.

When you live in line with this truth, all of the anxiety in the relationship turns into gratitude for having such a wonderful lover in your life today.

With honor,

Brandon

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What A Man Finds MAGNETICALLY Attractive

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Brandon Martin, Author of Relationship Goddess

How Can A Woman Make A Man Magnetically Attracted To Her?

If you want men to be magnetically attracted to you, you must create what I call “polarity”.

Polarity is the magnetism, the passion, the “spark”, the attraction that happens between a man and a woman.

My article 12 Things a Woman Does That Men Find Irresistible caused a lot of commotion.

But there was something thing tons of women were missing that I noticed from many discussions, blogs and boards.

Most women don’t understand essentially WHAT attracts men to women.

And it doesn’t really surprise me, but this is one of the main reasons why many relationships today fail.

The answer is the energy that is created from two polar energy coming into contact… the same way that when positive and negative ions come together in the atmosphere, the result is lightning.

Polarity is when a woman assumes her yin femininity in a relationship and a man assumes his yang masculinity.

The deeper the polarity, the more opposite the energies, the more intense the attraction. 

The more “Yin” feminine a woman is, the more high quality attractive men will be MAGNETICALLY attracted to you.

Another was: “This stuff is common sense!”

Common sense is dangerous  because once it’s “common sense”, you can become less critical of that idea, which  could turn out to be completely wrong.

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Then times change and new information becomes available but you don’t change with it.

You become stale and stiff like a corpse.

That force is polarity.

Opposite energies attract.

Instead of accepting and embracing this idea, many women become jealous, disguised and anger when they see a couple with polarity. But all the negativity makes it impossible to see past the cloud of anger to see what is really going on.

Polarity is more important than having common interests. It’s odd but true in my experience with coaching many women around the world.

A man and woman can have NOTHING in common, but if they have strong polarity, they can’t resist each other, even if everything else isn’t working.

I just recently heard about Ryan Reynolds and Alanis Morissette divorcing and thought “How were they even together in the first place?”

It seems like they have nothing in common.

Ryan is the Frat Boy preppy type and Alanis is the man hating rebel with an attitude, yet still they managed to have a relationship for some time.

If you have the frame of polarity and masculine feminine energy, you can see the secret.

When you are laughing, you are vulnerable. You are feminine for a second and not masculine.

When you a focused, you are unemotional and masculine in that second. For a man, the feminine qualities come AFTER he gets all his “manly man” stuff taken care of, other
wise he’ll be out of whack.

In my article The History of the Sexual World, Part 1, I explain that the sexes are in a phase of revenge conscious against each other.

Relationships with men would be easy if they were common sense!

Instead, most women live their love lives in FEAR, not love. And the first item of “non-common sense” I’d like to bring to you is that a woman living in fear makes men lose polarity with her.

I wouldn’t call it common sense, but I would say it’s supposed to be natural and effortless.

You know, It’s crazy what people can get away with saying on the internet. A 759 pound balding hermit physically glued to his chair with no authority on a subject can give his opinion on weight loss and hair growth.

IMPORTANT: The core of the masculine is fundamentally OPPOSITE from the core of the feminine.

While femininity rides on play, fun, love, feeling, and emotion, relationships, masculinity runs on confidence, meditativeness, strength, direction, purpose, understanding.

And everyone has their own balance of masculine/feminine inside, but you are either more masculine or more feminine.

If you want to see polarity in action, visit a high school football game.

The dainty cheerleader and the macho quarterback just can’t resist each other. It’s like some force “hypnotizes” them to pull towards each other. That force is so undeniably powerful.

In today's world, more and more women are taking up the "yang"... the masculine role

In today’s world, more and more women are taking up the “masculine role”.

Women have become more dominant and men become more submissive (more on this in my post The History of the Sexual World, Part Deux! for more on this). Women have been repressed for centuries, and now post second wave feminist movement, post sexual revolution, they have become more free… and more pissed off.

Watch an average TV sitcom today and you’ll see that men mess up everything.

50 plus years ago it was women who were “screwing up” everything in Hollywood.

Just take a look at the classic sitcom “I Love Lucy”.

The times have moved on from men repressing women to a post sexual revolution world… one that involves revenge against men.

The “polar roles”, instead of macho men being dominant to their submissive housewife, have become more equal.

Perfect, finally everybody is finally happy… aren’t they?

On the surface it’s a great thing, but look deeper and you will see that relationships are DYING.

There’s endless arguing, bickering, cheating, lying, hatred etc. etc.

Today’s relationships are a worse disaster than Hurricane Katrina, no joke.

In an episode of Sex and the City, Samantha ends up in a lesbian relationship which fails… Maria: You call this a relationship?

Samantha: Well, it’s tedious and the sex is dwindling, so from what I’ve heard, YES!

Most dead relationships are rooted in dead polarity, and dead polarity causes relationships to become tedious… and… well… dead.

Polarity is what you need to cause the spark of passion.

Did you ever use to play with those little circle magnets the size of coins? What happens when you have two of those little circle magnets with an equal charge? They would just sit there. They wouldn’t do anything like push away from each other or suck together. There’s no MAGNETISM.

And when you have the same charge, + and + for instance? They push away from each other. Two leaders together are repelled by each other. Two followers do a little better but there’s still something missing.

When you flip one over to -, and the other is still + they suction together.

Positive wants negative, masculine wants feminine.

But on the other hand, most men have never been so terrified of women!

Women should just loosen up and relax with their Yin nature instead of always trying to accomplish what comes unnatural to them. And men should find their confidence and find their yang nature.

The polarity, the attraction, the passion, the absolute magic comes rushing in when the polarity is right. If you’ve hear of the Law of Attraction, this is it at work.

Now if we want polarity, one person in the relationship has to be the leader and the other the follower, otherwise you will find endless power struggle.

Now listen, I’m not saying we go back to the 1950’s. The 50’s are long over. The relationships of the 50’s were totally unconscious. The relationships of today are unconscious. So, we move forward.

We move relationships into CONSCIOUSNESS.

We take what we’ve learned from history and move out of domination, revenge, possessiveness and move towards that thing that relationships are supposed to be about…

Relationships are mostly about two things, love and growth. Everything else comes second.

Even polarity is just a stepping stone along the way to love.

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