Why Most Women Struggle to Keep Men Devoted…
Here’s How to Make Men Insatiably in Love, Forget About Other Women, and Commit Forever
Read on to learn how to get your man head-over-heels and lovesick for you, creating an unbreakable bond he’ll want forever.
Dear Lovely New Friend,
Being with a man who has stopped giving love is not just frustrating; it’s truly painful. I feel the raw emotion from my students who share their experiences of men becoming cold, distant, or simply pulling away.
Many women come to me with the same burning question:
“Brandon, how can I be irresistible to men long-term?”
“How can I make men love me and to give me all of their the attention and connection I need without feeling like I’m forcing him?”
To address these important questions, let’s take a moment for some honest reflection.
- Do you ever feel like you’re putting in more effort than he is, but aren’t getting the same energy back?
You’re the one initiating dates, planning thoughtful surprises, and checking in on his day, but he’s just coasting. You find yourself constantly reaching out first, organizing times to meet, or sending little “good morning” texts. Yet he seems okay with letting you carry the relationship, giving just enough to keep things “okay” but not enough to make you feel valued. Deep down, you hope he’ll start putting in the same energy you are, but it feels like he never will. - Have you ever felt like a man “changed”. It left you confused or worried about where the relationship was going?
He’s not as attentive as he used to be, the “I miss you” texts have faded, and you’re the one initiating intimacy. Where he used to seem excited to see you, now he seems distracted, leaving you to wonder “what the hell is going on?”. It’s like there’s a “wall”, and you’re constantly second-guessing whether it’s something you did or if his feelings have changed.
Have you ever had a man suddenly get distant?
He stopped showing clear interest in you, and the attention and affection you need in a relationship seemed to vanish. That feeling of panic can be overwhelming, especially when no matter how hard you try, nothing seems to bring him closer. His calls and texts dwindle to infrequent, two-word replies, leaving you in the dark about what he’s thinking or how to change the situation. You started fearing the worst, that he didn’t love you anymore.
Have you ever gotten overly emotional with a man?
He stopped giving you the attention and security you wanted. After obsessing about his cold behavior for a while, you finally voiced your problem. Instead of reassuring you, he got defensive or acted like you were a “nag.” You ended up “lashing out” emotionally, causing him to pull away. You felt let down, as if the love you desired wasn’t possible.
Did you feel instant love with a guy who got “hot & cold” after sleeping together?
He initially showered you with love and attention… but soon, what you feared might happen did happen: he became distant. You wouldn’t hear from him for days or weeks, then he’d reappear and act like nothing happened. You felt lonely and powerless over what was happening. You loved him, but whenever you got close, he pulled away and said, “I’m not looking for anything serious.” You couldn’t figure out how to make him want to be exclusive.
Have you ever dated a man who began acting “hot & cold”?
One minute, you’d be in bed together sharing amazing love, and the next, you wouldn’t hear from him for several days or weeks. Then he’d reappear and talk as if nothing had changed. This left you feeling torn. You liked him (or even loved him), but when you tried to express your desire to see him regularly, he seemed uncomfortable. You couldn’t understand him or how to make him want to be exclusive with you.
Have you ever wanted to move to the next level with a man, but he was resistant?
You wanted to become more exclusive: post photos together on social media, move in together, or even get engaged, but he never brought up these conversations… or even avoided discussing them when you did. When he finally did say something, he used phrases like “I need more time” or “I’m just not ready.” You were left feeling stuck in no man’s land, unsure of your future.
Have you ever tried making a man jealous to get his attention?
You were always told that guys respond to looks and that playing “hard to get” is the way to go when he’s pursuing you. You also heard that making him jealous was the best strategy to keep his interest. But in those instances when you tried that, you received weird, angry, or even violent reactions from him, which sometimes caused him to walk away. You were left wondering, “Why does everything that ‘should’ work on men not work?”
Has a man ever lost the “spark” in his eyes when he looks at you?
When you started dating him, you’d catch him gazing at you with smiling eyes, like he was proud of you. But at some point, he stopped giving you the love you truly wanted. You felt unattractive to him. The amazing sex became less frequent, and you worried he was growing “bored.” You tried to reignite that “spark” of love, but things only seemed to get worse. You felt alone.
To create a lasting, powerful connection, it’s essential to understand the ongoing emotional experience men secretly long for.
Just as important, though, is avoiding common mistakes that can break a bond with a man. Without knowing it, many women push men away.
I don’t say this to scare you, but awareness is half the cure.
Many women unknowingly press the wrong emotional buttons that lead men to get cold, distant, or even disrespectful.
Men may:
- Become distant or disappear
- Shut down emotionally or become non-communicative
- Check out of the relationship, flirt with others, or cheat
- Withhold love, attention, or affection
- Leave suddenly with little explanation
When this happens, many women wonder why their efforts aren’t being appreciated, why they feel taken for granted despite trying everything.
It’s exhausting—especially when he won’t open up or admit his own role in the issues.
But here’s the good news: what I’m about to share will help you create a bond so strong he’ll be unable to imagine life without you.
You’ll get the kind of love, affection, and devotion that lasts.
I’m not here to waste your time. I believe this approach works for any woman who’s willing to learn.
So, the real question is: How can a “regular gal” get the head-over-heels love, endless attention, and “forever” commitment she deserves?
The answer lies in understanding what men think, feel, and want—and discovering the kind of “energy” that resonates with men on a foundational, emotional level.
When you understand this, he’ll love only you, unconditionally, for life.
The Real Reason Women Struggle With Today’s Men
The million-dollar question is this: Why do so many women struggle to keep men in love? And why are men opting out of relationships more than ever?
The statistics are clear: in 1970, the marriage rate was 76.5%, while today, it’s just over 31% (according to our world in data) marriages are down SEVENTY PERCENT since 1970! even as the population has more than doubled.
So, what’s really going on?
Is it the conventional narrative that, men are just narcissistic jerks and women don’t want to marry them anymore?
Is it because women have financial freedom now and no longer need to get married to be happy?
Absolutely not.
These are all lies being pushed whole sale these days.
The real reason is, women (and men) are being fed MISINFORMATION about the opposite sex.
Women have been completely brainwashed by social media, female friends, books, magazines and even “relationship experts” about how to be successful in love that is completely and matter-of-factly wrong.
I say this based on my 17 years of experience turning around thousands and thousands of women’s love lives.
I have the authority to make such claims!
So, what’s really going on here?
Let me take you inside the hidden world of the male heart—a world most women never get to see. But first, we need to address one critical factor that causes so many women to struggle in love today.
Why Today’s Men Are More Difficult Than Ever
As I just said, today’s world is obsessed with misleading women about love and relationships with men.
Why? What reason would they have to mislead you?
It’s not that they are trying to.
It’s just that most people giving advice about men don’t actually understand men very well.
Most of the social media influencer, so-called “relationship experts” are not actually addressing how to actually get a man’s deep, unconditional love.
They’re more about playing inauthentic games to manipulate an outcome.
Secondly, most people out there giving advice are women, who naturally don’t understand men well.
Makes sense right?
Thirdly, you can’t understand what you fear or resent.
it’s just not possible, and many women claiming to understand men out there and give advice have a lot of “baggage” around men.
This goes for your (especially single) friends as well who are trying to convince you that the guy you’re dating is just a narcissist or a player.
Look, you’re not at fault here!
You’re caught in the perfect storm.
The dating world in 2024 is an extremely confused place to be in.
Just one scroll through TikTok and it’s easy to see that many women are very confused and frustrated around men and relationships.
One of the most damaging beliefs is that men only value women for their looks and will eventually leave when they get “bored”.
In the film Someone Like You (2001), Ashley Judd’s character develops a theory that taps into one of women’s biggest fears about men. She calls it the “New Cow Theory.”
Her theory is, just as bulls in the animal kingdom continuously seek out new cows to “spread their seed,” men also always move on to new women after they’ve “conquered” their current partner.
While this idea resonates with many women, it contributes to a common misconception about men in real life.
The truth is much different. Most men crave other specific things than novelty—most men really do want a genuine, long lasting connection.
So what’s the disconnect?
Some Men Act Like Heartless “Bulls” with Some Women…
But with the right woman who knows what she’s doing, men often feel a powerful, overwhelming emotional pull that makes them want to commit for life.
Listen, I’ve heard countless guys say they’ d rather be with a “7” who “gets it” rather than a smoking hot “10” who doesn’t.
Now I’m not trying to objectify women, but it’s just to point out a critical point:
Most men would trade physical beauty for a woman who knows how to give them the type of emotional connection they’re looking for.
So what is this type of woman who is universally, emotionally attractive to men?
Well, it’s something that ANY woman can learn to do and adapt into their interactions with men that will make men feel a deep emotional connection, attraction and lasting commitment with a woman.
Many women feel so frustrated and lonely simply because they haven’t discovered how to evoke this level of connection in a man.
Most women rely on “hope”—hoping that, eventually, a great man will come to feel that way about them.
But here’s the amazing thing…
Any Woman Can Learn How To Inspire Intense Love in A Man—And Gain Control Over Her Love Life
I’ve seen it time and again with my students.
Many women try to win a man’s love by constantly accommodating his needs, putting his happiness above their own, or sacrificing their desires to avoid conflict.
But this always leads to resentment and feeling like you’re just giving and giving and not getting anything back.
But when you fail to communicate with a man the right way that guys understand, frustration can explode.
They set high expectations, treat him like he’s there to meet her every need, and demand too much without realizing what actually makes men WANT to do these things…
This pushes men away.
They fear the outcome will always be the same: men will get bored, take them for granted, or leave.
But after talking to hundreds of men, I’ve discovered that the truth is far different.
Most Men Are Dying to Be with One Special Woman…
Who knows how to spark a deep, emotional, and energetic bond with him.
But most women are frustrated because they don’t know how to do that.
They feel like they’re already trying so hard.
To make matters worse, men are increasingly staying single.
Sure, men’s instincts might have them acting a certain way on the surface, but deep down, most men do want that one woman who makes them feel that “soulmate” connection.
But I’ll be blunt with you… 98% of women have no clue how to make men feel this way, and they unknowingly make missteps that cause men to lose interest and walk away.
This actually works in your favor, because if you can learn these secrets that cause men to open up, fall deeply in love and actually WANT to commit, you set yourself apart from 98% women out there.
Here’s a revelation that will change everything:
How most women engage with men today actually pushes men away from commitment and love.
The problem?
It’s happening because of misinformation.
Today’s women are being taught negative ideas about men and manipulative tactics that don’t work.
For example, when a woman feels a man isn’t calling or texting enough, she might say something like, “If you’re too busy for me, maybe we should just stop.”
She secretly hopes he’ll beg her to stay, but instead, he just says, “Okay, if that’s what you want.”
Sound familiar?
Many women are taught these tactics by social media, friends, and other advice.
The problem is, these tactics are rooted in the belief that men are heartless or just after sex.
This is a lie. Men want love as much as women do... no matter how much they show otherwise.
So if you learn how to “speak his male language,” you’ll never worry about him losing interest.
You’ll know how to connect with him on a level he’s never known before.
And it’s possible to unlock any man’s powerful, passionate, and thoughtful side—even if he has emotional walls.
I truly believe any woman can do this. I’ve seen women, who may not be considered “conventionally attractive,” win the hearts of down-to-earth, high value guys.
You just have to know how.
And that’s exactly what my eBook “Become His Goddess” will show you how to do, step-by-step.