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If you’re like many of the amazing women I’ve coached…
Your man has been pulling away physically, emotionally and energetically.
Your gut knows something is wrong.
You’ve been trying to regain control of the relationship.
But he no longer:
You know…. Like he used to.
Look, I know this may not be your proudest moment.
But the thing, is I bet…
Aren’t I right?
He always made plans to see you and couldn’t get enough of you… Not just physically but emotionally and spiritually.
And why wouldn’t he?
You’re a beautiful and sophisticated woman.
(I know because I attract the best students in the world!)
And it wasn’t just his love that made you feel so blissful.
It was also the feeling of control over your life and knowing friends and family admired you (or were secretly jealous).
That amazing connection with him suddenly started slipping away.
I bet if you tried talking with him about it, he gave you excuses or acted like you were “nagging” him.
Did you know?
Hmm. Took them this long to figure that out?
But seriously, saying it’s “difficult” emotionally to handle a man like this is an understatement.
Especially when you’re left always guessing why he’s acting like a jerk or what to do about it.
Many women end up making excuses for men, like:
Does this sound familiar to you?
But.
I think if you’re really honest with yourself…
Beneath your strong exterior, you have a scared sinking feeling that comes from not knowing how to get the love from him you really want and deserve.
Even if he is acting like a jerk.
You’re worried your “energetic” emotional connection with him is fading.
Your gut knows something is wrong.
You’ve worked hard on this relationship making it “perfect”.
You tried helping him open up about his feelings… but he got defensive.
Now you’re left feeling lonely, hurt, confused…
And worried that your bond with him, and the bright, secure future he offered you is slipping away.
You’re frustrated that everything you try to bring back that special connection hasn’t really panned out.
Maybe your friends have said “you can do better” .
But no matter how frustrated you are…
Secretly, you’re worried you’re doing something to make him pull away.
Well, the reality is…
If you don’t do something to re-ignite his loving bond with you,
And know how to drive him wild with passionate desire for you and ONLY you…
He’ll likely grow more distant until he eventually leaves.
I’m not trying to scare you, but the reality most women don’t know how to keep a man deeply in love long into a relationship.
BUT (a big but[t]).
If you use this priceless secret I’m about to share with you about male psychology and “energy”, you can dramatically amplify your man’s level of commitment, love and ravenous desire for you.
This secret (most women don’t know) will immediately put YOU back into his focus and give you back the sexual confidence you may have felt you’ve been losing.
If you’re skeptical, good, You should be!
You must be your own “guru”.
But with that said, I think you’re about to learn something incredibly valuable.
The question I pose to you is this:
Without the games, headache or heartbreak?
The answer is…
If you could understand why he emotionally bonded with you in the first place…
And the inner mechanisms of his mind, heart and masculine soul…
I can virtually guarantee you will instantly shift your man’s “energy” into deep love, closeness and affection for you…And even get him “addicted” to you more than he’s ever been with any woman before.
If you have been blaming yourself for his distant energy, you don’t have to.
You deserve as many cuddles as you can handle (until you literally kick him off when you’ve had enough, like a cat).
This relationship “soup” you’re in is the result of many factors.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting a little love and to enjoy a deep heart connection with the man you love.
But the good news is this.
I’ve coached literally tens of thousands of women often in “can’t believe how bad that is” situations with men.
I have traveled the world teaching women these secrets to filled rooms.
And I’ve been showing women how to regain control of their love lives by getting their men more deeply in love, available, communicative and affection than even the start of a relationship.
I don’t mean to “toot my horn” (too much), but I’ve seen miracles many times.
Don’t believe me just yet. I want you to SEE it for yourself.
My name is Brandon.
I may look young (my secret is mangos. Lots of mangos).
But for the past 14 years I’ve taught women from housewives, surgeons to rockstars, how to get a man emotionally connected, affectionate, devoted and head-over-heels in love.
Even if he’s pulling away emotionally…
Or has gotten cold, distant or always “annoyed”…
Even if there’s another woman.
I’ve learned it’s possible for ANY woman, no matter her age, color or creed to get more love, energetic connection, and attention than they’ve ever known.
Even in messy situations where a man is pulling away, or falling out of love and there’s “no way” to bring him back…
With the right information.
I have seen unbelievable transformations.
I bet you’ve been thinking a lot about:
Many women blame themselves if a man pulls away, shuts down or gets distant.
That’s because they end up getting responses from men like:
Or worse – he’s meeting another woman.
You end up broken and feeling out of control repeating his words in your head for days, or even years.
But I believe your situation is about to take a dramatic shift for the better starting right now.
Let’s talk about that “secret” I mentioned before about re-igniting his love, openness and commitment for you and only you.
I’m going to reveal to you the secret energy that will instantly grab your man’s attention back.
When you show him this special energy, it will leave him no choice but to start giving you his love again, and you’ll feel loved to your core and in control of how men respond to you.
Most importantly, you’ll feel proud of yourself for getting the love you deserve.
After you consistently use it, you’ll draw more attention, affection, calls, texts and sparkling, loving glances from your man.
No matter your situation.
Many women think they need a magical, jealousy triggering “technique” that’ll make his jaw drop.
This is a classic mistake that ends up sparking more fights and less love and can even make a good man leave.
The truth is, I believe a holistic approach that fixes each relationship issue from the core will free you from this painful situation.
Goddess Energy is all about reclaiming your sexual power by showing him how things will now be because you fulfill the core reasons he longs for love in his heart.
What I call a “Goddess” fulfills a man on his biological, psychology, emotional and spiritual levels.
Most women have sprinkles of Goddess energy early on but eventually lose it.
They were unaware of what they were doing right!
Instead, they end up getting confused by all of his behaviors, and start over-analyzing everything he does asking:
This is where most women end up hurt, confused and start making mistakes.
Look, I believe your man still loves you no matter how it may seem.
I know what you’re thinking.
He’s stupid if that’s true…
But seriously, the reason why he hasn’t been giving you his full heart is because he’s keeping it hidden.
Men do this when they find themselves with a woman who stopped being the “goddess” he thought she was.
That’s why you deserve this guy’s intense love every day you’re together.
But to get that, you must make these specific changes to your approach to him or you never will.
Most women, unknowingly communicate to men they’re not “girlfriend material” by making subtle mistakes in the moments that shape a man’s feelings about a woman.
Many men end up seeing qualities in women that make them “run for the hills” (as my guy friend so delicately puts it).
But then there are extremely rare, “Goddess” qualities most women aren’t aware of that men are hypnotized by.
The secret to becoming a Goddess with your man is to create an ongoing positive emotional experience with him.
Many women think they already do this.
But without knowing it, they never do the things MEN are looking for energetically.
Instead, many women do what they think men want but that men don’t actually emotionally crave.
In fact, she may start displaying behaviors that give him a negative emotional experience.
There’s much more you must know about making your man fall deeply in love again, and long into the future.
What you really need to make this happen is a full education of male psychology, emotions and “energy” in relationships.
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“I cheated on my boyfriend… now what am I going to do?”
You’re likely reading this because you cheated on your boyfriend or husband and now you feel overwhelmed with guilt and want to tell him.
You want to tell him the truth, but you are scared shitless to lose him over it and have no idea what to do.
If you’re like many of the women I have coached, your relationship is in not good right now, and you don’t know how to find a way out of this mess. Well, today, I’m going to show you how to get out of it.
When you go to your boyfriend to tell him you have cheated on him, you have to do so very, very carefully!
The good news is, if you go about things in the right way, many men will be receptive to the truth (within reason), and will not leave you over it.
In fact, if you handle telling him the truth about cheating on him the right way, it can ultimately cause you two to become closer than ever before.
But let’s not be “fairytale” about it. Feelings will get hurt. Ego will get hurt.
But there is much you can do to mitigate the damage to your relationship with your boyfriend or husband and ensure a better outcome to the story, which I will be sharing with you in this article.
What are my qualifications?
Well, my name is Brandon Martin and I’ve been coaching women on the topics of men, dating and relationships for more than ten years at the time of this writing.
Aside from coaching women, I have been in two separate long-term relationships with women who ended up cheating… both I caught redhanded.
I’m not here to judge you about what you did. Just by you being here and reading, I respect that you are trying to fix the situation.
My disclaimer: this article is not to be take as “professional advice”. Think of this as for entertainment purposes only.
With that said, I know what works and what doesn’t with men if your goal is to KEEP your man after he finds out you cheated on him.
There are many mistakes that women make when they tell their boyfriend or husband the truth about their “extracurricular activities” and want to keep him.
In this article, I’m going to show you exactly how to tell your boyfriend or husband that you cheated to ensure the best outcome.
I’ve discovered that when women either tell that they have cheated or get “found out”, strangely many women rationalize WHY they cheated and either subtly or very overtly blame the guy for doing it.
I shouldn’t have to say this, but I will be clear.
Do not in any way blame him for cheating or rationalize why you did it (if your goal is to keep him in your life), no matter what he may have done to push you to cheat.
At the moment you confess, he may be overwhelmed with denial, upset feelings, anger and pain. The last thing you want to do is intensify these feelings and throw gasoline on the fire by rationalizing why he did or blaming him.
As a side note, it’s extremely important that you keep your cool and don’t take anything negative he says personally.
The bottom line is, when you tell him, you need to show remorse. One thing that I’ll never forget when I found out one of my girlfriends cheated on me is she said with tears in her eyes “I will spend the rest of my life making this up to you”.
This one line stuck with me and I recommend saying something along similar line when you make your confession.
As I have already mentioned, blaming him for cheating or rationalizing why you cheated is a big no no.
At a later date, it may be possible to talk about the reasons behind why you cheated, but at the initial confession, there will be too many emotions.
Even if he asks you why, your answers should be along the lines of “there is no excuse for what I did”.
Many women, not being able to cope with what they have done and the guilt of hurting someone they love, they uncontrollably start deflecting and blaming to make themselves feel better.
If you show too much remorse and you’re sobbing and crying and there’s snotting flying out of your nose, this is going take away from your attractiveness.
Before you tell your man you cheated, you absolutely must forgive yourself for doing it.
You must take time meditating on this until you can truly release at least most of the guilt you feel.
You must tell your man with calmness, strength, submission and a desire to do the right things.
You will sub-communicate all of these things when you have forgiven yourself and yet want to do the right thing and tell him the truth.
You’ll also have to do things like remind him that doing the right thing and telling the truth should be rewarded and not to punish you for coming forward.
You can only say such things if you have forgiven yourself to so extent.
At the moment you tell him that you cheated, he will have many question.
A part of him will want to know details that will hurt him a lot.
It’s as if he wants to hurt more by knowing too much.
You can answer his questions, but I recommend that any “Is he bigger than me?” or “Was he better than me?” type questions be answered with a firm “No”.
Remember, his ego will be shattered. This is just the reality that you must accept. So you need to take every measure to salvage his ego as best as possible without adding fuel to the fire.
All your answers should help tame the fire that is going to be unleashed.
This is the part that a lot of women hate hearing, but the sooner you tell him “I cheated” the better.
Even if you know that you got away with cheating and there is no way he will ever find out, there are important reasons why waiting is a bad idea if you want a happy ending… and you want this situation to actually be an event that helps you to grow closer together.
The reason why waiting too long is a bad idea is simply because the guilt of cheating eats most women alive.
This guilt causes women to lash out and become “emotional” and unpredictable in the relationship which leads to fights, bickering, finger pointing, paranoia that he’s cheating too etc. etc. the decline of the relationship.
I have seen this many, many times both in women’s relationships who I coach and in my own personal relationships with women.
If I’m a betting man, I think you already are seeing this happen in your relationship.
This has been a brief overview of how to tell your man that you cheated.
But the truth is there is MUCH MORE you must understand about men and relationships to both tell him the truth in this situation AND ensure that your relationship is a process of growth from here on in.
That is why you need to sign up for my free eLetter down below where I will send you emails every few days with the best relationship and men advice you can find.
I wish you luck in your situation and I will see you in the eLetter.
So you have a controlling boyfriend and you’ve read “Is He Controlling Me?” Signs of a Controlling Boyfriend and now you’re ready to learn how to get him to STOP controlling you.
How do you get a controlling man, so controlling that it boils your insides, to give you as much freedom as you want and STILL give you attention, love and respect?
I’m about to show you a simple 3 step process to help reverse a man’s possessiveness, but KEEP his love and attention… while helping to set him up to be the perfect MAN for you.
The question, how do you get a man to stop being so controlling and domineering?
Very carefully!
I’ve helped many women overcome this obstacle with men.
The first thing you must understand is that when a man is possessive, really he is very insecure and distrustful… let’s just say he’s been more “emotionally stable” in other times in his life.
I want you to take all of that anger, frustration and fear that you probably have towards him right now and be more COMPASSIONATE towards him and see things through HIS eyes.
You have every right to be angry and frustrated, but anger is not going give you a perfect relationship.
So, getting this man to stop controlling is like coaxing a wild bucking bull into calming down.
But the more you understand the bull and it’s motivations, the more successful you will be in getting that bull to trust you, respect you, and allow you to be free.
When you’re dealing with insecurity and a lack of trust in a man, you must approach him in a specific way.
So the first thing is…
What most women do when a man becomes controlling is become resent, frustrated, sad, and angry at him for controlling her… and I’m not saying women don’t have every right to be angry.
But the problem is this is the opposite of what will get him to become balanced, trust and respect you and ultimately give you freedom.
Most women don’t RESPECT themselves enough to not put up with a situation like this and will let it drag on for a long period of time.
What works that most women never think of because of the sheer amounts of emotion they are feeling is to love him unconditionally and give HIM his freedom. I know this isn’t what you were probably expecting or want to hear, so let me explain.
When a man is possessive and controlling, it can make a woman pissed off, get upset and bring a lot of pain and confusion to her.
But what happens when a women is in this negative emotional state, instead of a compassionate state, is she can often make themselves a target for being controlled.
Like attracts like, and just as his controlling has brought negative emotional energy out of you, you are at the same time helping him to distrust more and feel more insecure by your negative emotional state.
Why?
Because when a woman goes into a negative emotional state in a relationship, her actions mirror that emotional state.
What many women start doing when they are in a controlling situation is first go through a period of sadness and confusion but then get angry and try to make him feel the same things that she is feeling and make him feel hurt or guilty for what he is doing.
Men can be real assholes, especially when they become controlling jerks, but the problem is this simply is the wrong direction to take if you want to heal this situation.
Often times when I’m doing phone coaching sessions, women don’t believe me at first when I say their energy is helping to create the situation.
It’s hard for them to buy.
But their mind changes when I ask them to think about this: If you’re angry at a wild bull and start attacking it, do you think you’re going to calm him down or make him more angry?
Do you see what I mean?
Possessiveness in a man is a very primal reaction when he feels a loss of control.
It’s something men do when they feel insecure about their girlfriend staying loyal in a relationship.
So you must change your energy from anger to something else that will actually motivate him to loosen his grips.
If your energy is in anger, he will only want to control you more and will get more angry.
If instead you do the opposite: stop, take a deep breath, and start looking for solutions instead of reacting emotionally, you will already be halfway home to healing this control issue… and it can be healed easily if you make this your foundation.
And the solution is ultimately to have compassion for his insecurity and self-respect.
If you can start to put your energy into compassion instead of anger, it will make things much easier.
I’ve seen this one simple step change many men instantly.
And if you accept him fully, he will begin to make steps to accept YOU fully and your needs.
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Have you ever gotten with a man you met, maybe you even slept with him, and you thought he was going to be a great boyfriend…but then he said something like “I’m not interested in a relationship right now.”
You didn’t know what to do or exactly how to feel, but you found yourself calling him often and feeling needy… then what you feared most happen: he pulled away from you and cut communication with you, and you never heard from him again?
Why did this happen?
You may not have suspected what caused it, but what caused him to withdraw completely was your unacceptable of him not wanting a relationship.
When he said “I’m not interested in a relationship” you might have reacted negatively and your feeling were hurt.
And I’m guessing that when he felt you feel that fear and resistance, that was the moment he knew for sure you weren’t “girlfriend material”, because men want a girl who can be cool with his needs and desires.
Chances are that same man was with another woman very shortly afterward, but this time he was asking her for a relationship…and it had nothing to do with age, physical attractiveness or even life circumstances.
What did she do that you didn’t?
And what does this have to do with a controlling man?
Because there’s an exact correlation to draw.
Simple fact: the more you resist a man you’re in a relationship with the more he’s going to act negatively towards you. It doesn’t matter if he’s controlling or not…. this is the bottom line.
And remember I’m not saying you don’t have a good reason, but there is no reason in the world good enough to allow you to feel negative and get what you want at the same time, because those negative emotions are going to keep you from getting what you want.
How your feelings affect the control situation is he’s going to feel like you’re slipping out of his grasp and begin making more attempts to control you.
Not good.
What to do?
I have a solution for you, but it’s going to take a lot of trust on your part to pull off, trust in me, trust in your boyfriend and mostly trust in yourself.
The answer is to go WITH the flow instead of against it. Don’t try to swim upstream because you will only get more exhausted, disheartened and get NOWHERE.
When you are AGAINST something, you often STRENGTHEN it.
For instance, have you ever been in a fight with a man where he was resisting your point of view vehemently, and you were resisting his and the fight elevated?
If one person were to bring compassion and understand into the fight and see it from the other’s perspective, the whole fight would immediately vanish… not only that, but then he would be 100 times more receptive to actually listening to YOUR perspective.
And by going with it, you’re NOT “giving in” to his control.
In fact, once again you’re making another step to prepare the ground for change.
In love, usually if we move in the OPPOSITE direction of what we think will work to actually get what we want.
One of the greatest minds the world has ever seen, Albert Einstein, once said “Any fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius – and a lot of courage – to move in the opposite direction”.
You will be surprised how quickly he will begin to trust you and lets go and starts to become “Mr. Right”.
By the way, this isn’t just a useful perspective for a controlling situation… this is a “holistic” perspective and should be at the foundation of all of your relationship engagements.
Most men control because they subconsciously don’t trust their girlfriends.
So he will try to control you because he doesn’t TRUST you.
Sometimes his mistrust is based on his current relationship but also can have been created from past relationships, or even his mother.
More often it’s a combination of all three of these. One thing most women overlook is to earn his trust.
Yes, it’s that simple!
Most women think that when they get into a relationship with a man, they are entitled to his trust.
I’m not saying you aren’t trustworthy – only you know that for sure – but controlling men need trust.
Instead, many women actually break down the trust more by playing games and being dishonest because they feel afraid or upset at the situation.
Unfortunately this makes the situation far worse.
The thing is, on a subconscious level we KNOW when someones is being dishonest even if consciously we appear to not.
Trust and respect are an unconscious phenomenon. The more a person deceives another, the more that person’s trust will be broken.
If you don’t take active steps to earn and establish trust, he won’t let up. And if he IS being controlling, you haven’t earned his trust and respect enough for him to let you make your own decisions, and you are possibly doing things to AMPLIFY the situation.
How you build respect is by respecting YOURSELF.
Now listen, this isn’t your fault.
He’s grown up under different circumstances than you and has had different experiences with love and relationships. But if you want this relationship and you love him, it’s up to you to make things change, because he’s not going to.
It’s unpredictable to rely on him to change things right now without you getting the ball rolling.
Look, when he starts to trusts and respect you, he WILL let off. Not only will he let off…but he will find it a lot easier to get truly INTIMATE with you rather than holding back like he might be doing right now.
If you follow this basic three step process and use it on a daily basis, you WILL see things start to improve.
I’m not going to get into tips and “techniques” today because they’re probably going to trip you up and get in your way and I want to keep things simple.
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If you want men to be magnetically attracted to you, you must create what I call “polarity”.
Polarity is the magnetism, the passion, the “spark”, the attraction that happens between a man and a woman.
My article 12 Things a Woman Does That Men Find Irresistible caused a lot of commotion.
But there was something thing tons of women were missing that I noticed from many discussions, blogs and boards.
Most women don’t understand essentially WHAT attracts men to women.
And it doesn’t really surprise me, but this is one of the main reasons why many relationships today fail.
The answer is the energy that is created from two polar energy coming into contact… the same way that when positive and negative ions come together in the atmosphere, the result is lightning.
Polarity is when a woman assumes her yin femininity in a relationship and a man assumes his yang masculinity.
The deeper the polarity, the more opposite the energies, the more intense the attraction.
The more “Yin” feminine a woman is, the more high quality attractive men will be MAGNETICALLY attracted to you.
Another was: “This stuff is common sense!”
Common sense is dangerous because once it’s “common sense”, you can become less critical of that idea, which could turn out to be completely wrong.
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Then times change and new information becomes available but you don’t change with it.
You become stale and stiff like a corpse.
That force is polarity.
Opposite energies attract.
Instead of accepting and embracing this idea, many women become jealous, disguised and anger when they see a couple with polarity. But all the negativity makes it impossible to see past the cloud of anger to see what is really going on.
Polarity is more important than having common interests. It’s odd but true in my experience with coaching many women around the world.
A man and woman can have NOTHING in common, but if they have strong polarity, they can’t resist each other, even if everything else isn’t working.
I just recently heard about Ryan Reynolds and Alanis Morissette divorcing and thought “How were they even together in the first place?”
It seems like they have nothing in common.
Ryan is the Frat Boy preppy type and Alanis is the man hating rebel with an attitude, yet still they managed to have a relationship for some time.
If you have the frame of polarity and masculine feminine energy, you can see the secret.
When you are laughing, you are vulnerable. You are feminine for a second and not masculine.
When you a focused, you are unemotional and masculine in that second. For a man, the feminine qualities come AFTER he gets all his “manly man” stuff taken care of, other
wise he’ll be out of whack.
In my article The History of the Sexual World, Part 1, I explain that the sexes are in a phase of revenge conscious against each other.
Instead, most women live their love lives in FEAR, not love. And the first item of “non-common sense” I’d like to bring to you is that a woman living in fear makes men lose polarity with her.
I wouldn’t call it common sense, but I would say it’s supposed to be natural and effortless.
You know, It’s crazy what people can get away with saying on the internet. A 759 pound balding hermit physically glued to his chair with no authority on a subject can give his opinion on weight loss and hair growth.
IMPORTANT: The core of the masculine is fundamentally OPPOSITE from the core of the feminine.
While femininity rides on play, fun, love, feeling, and emotion, relationships, masculinity runs on confidence, meditativeness, strength, direction, purpose, understanding.
And everyone has their own balance of masculine/feminine inside, but you are either more masculine or more feminine.
If you want to see polarity in action, visit a high school football game.
The dainty cheerleader and the macho quarterback just can’t resist each other. It’s like some force “hypnotizes” them to pull towards each other. That force is so undeniably powerful.
In today’s world, more and more women are taking up the “masculine role”.
Women have become more dominant and men become more submissive (more on this in my post The History of the Sexual World, Part Deux! for more on this). Women have been repressed for centuries, and now post second wave feminist movement, post sexual revolution, they have become more free… and more pissed off.
Watch an average TV sitcom today and you’ll see that men mess up everything.
50 plus years ago it was women who were “screwing up” everything in Hollywood.
Just take a look at the classic sitcom “I Love Lucy”.
The times have moved on from men repressing women to a post sexual revolution world… one that involves revenge against men.
The “polar roles”, instead of macho men being dominant to their submissive housewife, have become more equal.
Perfect, finally everybody is finally happy… aren’t they?
On the surface it’s a great thing, but look deeper and you will see that relationships are DYING.
There’s endless arguing, bickering, cheating, lying, hatred etc. etc.
Today’s relationships are a worse disaster than Hurricane Katrina, no joke.
In an episode of Sex and the City, Samantha ends up in a lesbian relationship which fails… Maria: You call this a relationship?
Samantha: Well, it’s tedious and the sex is dwindling, so from what I’ve heard, YES!
Most dead relationships are rooted in dead polarity, and dead polarity causes relationships to become tedious… and… well… dead.
Polarity is what you need to cause the spark of passion.
Did you ever use to play with those little circle magnets the size of coins? What happens when you have two of those little circle magnets with an equal charge? They would just sit there. They wouldn’t do anything like push away from each other or suck together. There’s no MAGNETISM.
And when you have the same charge, + and + for instance? They push away from each other. Two leaders together are repelled by each other. Two followers do a little better but there’s still something missing.
When you flip one over to -, and the other is still + they suction together.
Positive wants negative, masculine wants feminine.
But on the other hand, most men have never been so terrified of women!
Women should just loosen up and relax with their Yin nature instead of always trying to accomplish what comes unnatural to them. And men should find their confidence and find their yang nature.
The polarity, the attraction, the passion, the absolute magic comes rushing in when the polarity is right. If you’ve hear of the Law of Attraction, this is it at work.
Now if we want polarity, one person in the relationship has to be the leader and the other the follower, otherwise you will find endless power struggle.
Now listen, I’m not saying we go back to the 1950’s. The 50’s are long over. The relationships of the 50’s were totally unconscious. The relationships of today are unconscious. So, we move forward.
We move relationships into CONSCIOUSNESS.
We take what we’ve learned from history and move out of domination, revenge, possessiveness and move towards that thing that relationships are supposed to be about…
Relationships are mostly about two things, love and growth. Everything else comes second.
Even polarity is just a stepping stone along the way to love.
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Let’s start off with a quote:
“Out of freedom you have come to me, so out of freedom you should be able to go. And, if you want to remain with me, out of freedom you should remain with me.”
We all know most relationships start out with a bang…and later end up getting filled with past emotional baggage, guilt and general distrust, especially when a man becomes emotionally unavailable and you feel you have no say with him.
It’s irritating, frustrating and very painful… especially when he’s being a jerk.
When we feel insecure in a relationship we feel this overwhelming need to control the situation, and that’s a perfectly natural instinct.
I’d like you to do something.
Read the quote at the top again…
Here’s an important thing to look at.
