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I’ve just spend the last few hours reading many “how to make him chase you” guides on the internet… and my god.
My heart really goes out to you ladies having to sift through all of that “advice”!
Look, playing jealousy games, wearing red dresses, using male psychological to “trick” men and “focusing on you” won’t make him chase you. Period.
There IS a way to make him chase you, but tricking men ain’t it.
So, you might be wondering who the hell this guy is who thinks he knows everything about how to make men chase you…
Well, my name is Brandon (that’s my photo at the top) and I’ve been teaching women for the past 10 years how to get unlimited attention, intimacy, connection and make men stay in love for life.
I look young, but I’m 34. I eat mangos. My secret is mangos.
But seriously, how can I teach you to make men chase you.
Well, I’m the guy that women chase.
And please, I’m not boasting or even “proud” of that, because I’ve hurt many women in the past…. I was a jerk.
But, I’ve seen everything women do firsthand that makes men either pursue a woman or makes them stay casual, non-commital or even scare men away completely.
And now after having spent ten years coaching women from around the world with men and relationships, I’m in a unique position. I can show you the big mistakes you’re probably making with men and why you’re chasing men and not the other way around.
Today, I’m going to show you “secrets” of how to make men chase you most women will never know. By the end of reading this article in its entirety, you will know how to make men chase you.
I’m going to get REAL with you about making him chase you unlike others.
I’ll tell you this now: there is no “magic trick” to make a man chase you.
If you really want him chasing you…
The reality is, men can be quite stupid, dumb, cavemen idiots and have archaic ways of thinking. Many guys are flat out idiots!
Look. Men aren’t even honest with themselves about this topic. And they’re afraid to get attacked by women for saying the truth about male feelings.
But you’re here wanting to know how to make men chase you, so keep an open mind.
Deal? Okay. You’re onboard.
So without further ado, let’s get into how to make a man chase you!
Many suggest making men jealous by having other men in your life.
I’ve even heard someone say “men need to feel jealousy to chase and love you”. This person was a “relationship expert”. Go figure.
The truth is, you will LOSE men by doing this. Here’s why.
After years of interviewing countless men, I’ve discovered if a guy is already attracted enough to talk, sleep, and date you, he already knows other men want you.
The reality is, many men distrust women up front.
Many women have problem with guys opening up, chasing her and committing for this reason.
That may make men sound stupid, but men fear getting involved with someone who will potentially cheat, manipulate or hurt him.
Many women think, “I’m not a cheater, I just want to temporarily make him jealous to make him want a relationship”.
But you’ll never get a relationship if he doesn’t trust you.
You’ll stop getting messages from him, have fights or he will say something like “let’s just be friends” and not hear from him again.
Most good hearted women I’ve coached don’t want to play games anyway… and find the fact that “experts” advise it disheartening.
The good new is, there are far more powerful ways to make men chase you and give you the love, attention, affection and connection that you deserve.
Most men won’t chase a woman who they feel stressed to be around.
Look I get it. Men can be cold, rude and insensitive. I can go on and on about how ignorant men can be!
But a woman who creates drama and emotional conflict because she’s not getting the love she wants will eventually make men grow distant even if she’s a model.
When you get overly-emotional, start drama, or demand attention because you feel ignored, this can push men away fast and you’ll never get him chasing you.
In fact, you will start feeling like you are chasing him… because he will start withdrawing, looking “bored” and pulling away.
If you want to create the magic of emotional, psychological and spiritual attraction which is necessary to make men chase you, you must take a higher approach.
Keep reading to learn how.
When a man doesn’t give a woman the love, attention an affection she wants, it can create an obsession in her mind over making him chase her.
You obsess over every detail, every little thing he does and ask “what does it really mean when he did x/y/z?”
You must learn to let go of the obsession… because fixating on his behaviors will lead to you thinking that the negative things he does is only about you.
The truth is…
You need to focus on “farming” instead of “hunting”. You must take care of the soil, water and make sure your “plants” get enough sunlight. Allow the plants to grow on their own instead of stressing out trying force them to.
You must know how to grow your inner attractiveness and let men chase you.
Most women don’t how important “inner game” really is. They focus on being more beautiful, stylish, sexy etc. thinking that will make men chase them.
But let me ask you this. If you put a guy in a room with ten gorgeous women and tell him he can only have one, who will he choose to chase? The answer is, he will chase the woman who he connects with emotionally.
And there is a way to make men feel that YOU are the woman he wants to chase and emotionally connect with.
Gosh, haven’t you ever seen an episode of the Bachelor?
Something I’ve discovered about most women is that they are afraid to grow older alone and are driven to make men commit.
Men act like dumb animals sometimes, but women who are too thirsty for commitment turn men off emotionally.
Have you ever tried having “the talk” with a guy? You wanted to take your relationship to the next level only to have him say things like:
As if being “busy” precludes having a relationship! Give me a break.
But the truth is, when a man says these things, he doesn’t want his freedom taken away… and he feels that if he gets into a relationship with you that will happen.
Even if you’ve never had the “talk” with him, he will still sense your vibes of fear and desire for commitment.
If he’s not ready for a relationship, this will only push him away, and make him feel stressed being around you.
That can either be because of bad past experiences he’s had with other women that has nothing to do with you.
Or… it can be because you’re pressuring him for commitment and putting out vibes of frustration, fear and loneliness.
Men value freedom above all else… even above love.
Most women don’t understand this about men and make men feel pressured.
When you interact with men in a way that shows you understand he values freedom, you make him feel GOOD when around you, and open up the chance he falls in love with you.
You set yourself apart from all other women.
If you want to know how to make men chase you for real, you must learn what men find magnetically attractive, emotionally speaking.
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Let’s face the facts, many women are guilty of enjoying chasing men and when he’s distant.
Why?
Think about it…. What’s the alternative?
A guy who is all over you and you have no doubts about how he feels about you.
I have come to discover that while on the surface this seems desirable, most women get BORED with men who they know 100% their feelings.
Most women find mysterious, distant men much more appealing and interesting even though it’s bad for them.
What can you do about this mistake? Simply be aware of yourself and then men you tend to pursue.
It’s not “bad” to desire a distant man, but you must understand your role in the situation!
There is a special way to pursue mysterious, desirable men.
Most women women are guilty of trying to use sex as a way to advance their relationships with men.
Many women will give sex as a way to hopefully secure a connection with him.
The reality is, sex is a privilege to both parties. You are not “rewarding” him by spreading your legs. If that’s true, then he’s equally rewarding you with his little submarine with sea-men!
When you do this with the hopes it makes him fall for you and he doesn’t, it will make you feel used, resentful and like you’ve been pushed back on your heels and don’t know what to do.
That is the major problem, because if you act like that, you will never establish emotional and energetic attraction. You will never create the fire in his heart that makes him want to make you all his.
Many women get stuck in casual situations or “friends with benefits” precisely because of this reason.
Now that you know these mistakes, here’s how to…
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Many women secretly ask themselves the question “Am I too high maintenance in relationships?”
When a man calls a woman “high maintenance” it carries a pretty negative connotation, doesn’t it?
But what does it really mean when a man calls a woman high maintenance in dating and relationships? Is it important to pay attention to?
The answer, quite simply, is yes.
Why?
Because most men avoid relationships with “high maintenance” women at all costs.
And they will even pull away from a woman right in the middle of a relationship once he realizes she is high maintenance…. even if he was initially very attracted to that woman!
For most men, “high maintenance” often describes a woman who men feel stressed about making happy.
The raw truth is, most men prefer to meet and stay with women who are low maintenance.
Today, I’m going to show you if you are too high maintenance in relationships, how and why men avoid high maintenance women and what you can do about it.
So, if you want the very most love, attention and affection from the man you love, then you absolutely must pay attention to what I’m about to say.
Many “high maintenance” women feel never truly satisfied with the amount love, attention, and affection a particular man gives.
So, how do you know if it’s you or him who is really at fault?
The answer is in how you act on those feelings.
A high maintenance woman has little problem thinking that the guy is the problem.
From there, she will likely:
Relationships can be tough, especially when a guy isn’t giving you the love, attention or appreciation that you really want.
But if you allow yourself to do these things, you will eventually push the guy out of your life.
All of this allows a high maintenance woman to blame the guy for her feelings… regardless if she’s actually right or not.
The problem is, this causes men to never feel like they can truly relax around you in the relationship.
They feel like they’re walking on eggshells. They’re always prepared for what you will next be upset at him for…. regardless of whether he actually screwed up or not.
So, you’ll find yourself “forcing” him to give you love, attention, appreciation etc. as if he doesn’t really want to.
Fact is, most women blame guys believing he “must not care enough” without realizing the pressure she is putting on him.
Look, men CAN be very inconsiderate idiots at times. I get that.
But, when you put pressure on a man to give you love and attention, you’re setting yourself up for a failed relationship.
This will lead him to feel like he doesn’t “match” with you and pull away… or even leave.
And he will start to think things like “I don’t know if I can make her happy.” or “She might be better off with someone else.”
So, if you ever hear a guy say things like this, watch out because it’s “code” for “I’m checking out of this relationship”.
At the core of a high maintenance woman is neediness for attention and insecurity.
Hear me out before jumping on me for saying that!
How high maintenance women tend to cover up their fears is by focusing on getting the attention of a man. Basically, she hopes he gives her unconditional love and attention.
If she doesn’t get that attention, she may blame him… for not loving her enough and take out her frustration on the relationship.
This is actually a sign of neediness.
But the problem is, most men find neediness emotionally and psychologically unattractive.
Look. Many women appreciate their own beauty, success or status. But *very few* love themselves unconditionally regardless of appearance or accomplishments.
It’s okay to want approval from your man. But the problem is overly-needy women often blame or antagonize their boyfriends for not caring enough about her.
I get it. Men can often act aloof or distant in relationships.
But I’ve actually heard men say they will “run for the hills” when they see neediness.
So the point is, you must understand how to deal with your insecurities with men or you could end up pushing him away without even knowing what happened.
That is, if you want to make men really crave a relationship with you, you must learn to let go the neediness that many high maintenance women have.
Thing is, it’s not as difficult as it may seem if you go about it in the right way.
Here is a psychological fact about most men versus most women.
Many women are willing to sacrifice their time, money and energy to have something amazing… like a beautiful new dress, new car or a specular romance with a man who adores her.
But this is not necessarily true about most of today’s men.
On the contrary, many men prefer something that works smoothly, is “cost effective” and takes little time, energy or money to maintain.
This is why many women are attracted to a new Mercedes while many men are happy with a truck.
Or some guys are quite content put-putting around in a junker they’ve had for 20 years!
This logic very much applies to how men feel about relationships and women as well.
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The reality is, if a man feels that a woman takes too much time, energy or money to make happy, he will likely feel “tired” from the relationship and grow distance.
He may even start “shopping” for a new girlfriend at that point.
And this is where you will hear some guys say things like “I don’t know if I can make her happy.”
If you have ever heard a man says this, he felt that you were too “high maintenance” for him and was feeling more stress than love from the relationship.
So, it would behoove you to learn how to be a “low maintenance” woman.
The truth is, ANY woman can learn how to do this even if she’s been high maintenance for her entire life.
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I get far too many emails from women asking “Brandon, can you talk about male psychology in relationships and dating and what they really want?”
When it comes to relationships and love, The psychology of men’s mind and behavior baffles most women.
And I’m not just talking about men’s stupid, boneheaded behavior!
Meeting men? Most women wait for the right guy to enter her life and have no clue how to trigger an emotional connection with him.
Keeping a deep connection beyond sex or friend vibes?
Making him fall in love for your heart? STAY in love?
The lack of knowledge too many women unfortunately have around male psychology in relationships understandably makes them feel frustrated, lost and unloved.
Most women get lucky if a man wants to spend time with her (often initiated by physical attraction) and don’t know how she made him like her.
Before she knows it, he’s acting bored, distant and losing interest.
Most women understand very little about the psychology of men’s mind in dating, relationships and love… even though many women believe they know what men want!
They’re confused about why men do things like pull away, lose interest, get bored, stop giving attention or even fall out of love and leave.
They end up believing it’s men’s fault for not caring enough. And while men do a lot of dumbass, brainless, caveman crap, his emotions don’t lie.
So, we’re at a pivotal point where today’s women must know how to trigger a man’s psychological attraction and love so she can enjoy having a man completely in love and not worry about growing older alone.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting that!
Many women fail to both trigger an emotional connection (beyond sex or friendship) and keep that flame alive into the future.
Why?
Because many women are triggering the wrong things in a man’s psychology. When you understand how a man’s mind works in a relationship, you’ll never second guess yourself.
You will start to get the attention, affection and connection you deserve.
So today, I will share with you two powerful secrets about…
I will demystify men and make them EASY to interact with… But I ask something important from you: Keep an open mind!
The inner world of men is a closely guarded secret because of how the world rejects men’s true feelings.
Don’t believe me?
Just look at how men are continuously told to “be a man” and not be a “wussy”.
Men hide their deep emotions because they know society won’t understand.
Men are not even honest with themselves about their feelings!
It takes someone like me to expose what’s really going on because I dropped out of that system.
So today you’ll learn male mind hacks to the basics of male psychology in love – what drives men emotionally, how and why they fall in love, how to make them stay, and how to control interactions with a man.
If you’re like the thousands of women I’ve coached over the years, you want to know how to:
So, let’s jump right in.
Men fall in love for very different reasons than you do as a woman.
Male psychology about love and attraction differs greatly from female psychology.
I’ve discovered from coaching many different men and women that men fall in love for very different reasons than most women think.
Many women believe men fall in love primarily based on looks… and stay in a relationship for… well, many women aren’t sure why men stay.
They’re constantly worried he will meet a new woman and leave.
Most women lose attractiveness through a relationship and end up with a man who’s distant, cold and pulling away… and never learn how. They reduce him to being “heartless”. In reality, he’s distant because he’s not getting what his male essence craves from a woman.
So, what causes men to want to date and fall in love with certain women and avoid others when we’re talking about male/female attraction psychology?
And what causes men to initially be attracted to a woman and later “check out”?
The big difference between female and male psychology when it comes to dating and relationships is most women fall for a man’s Yang masculine essence.
Things like:
When men lack these qualities or loses them in a relationship, women typically lose attraction.
These qualities are so important for men to have that a woman’s essence has no choice but to be turned off by men who don’t.
Even though some women stay in relationships with men who lack Yang masculinity, it doesn’t mean she’s emotionally engaged by him.
So, does it follow that men want the same qualities in a woman? No!
Most men fall for a woman’s Yin feminine essence:
If a woman lacks these qualities or loses them through a relationship, a man’s essence has no choice but to lose attraction.
I think many women understand this at some level, so let’s go deeper.
Many women today are independent-minded and focus on studying, working, and securing a future.
In the public eye, most men say these are good qualities for a relationship.
But the reality is, what most men SAY they want, and what men triggers men emotionally are two very different things.
This is great for women’s rights, but when it comes to triggering men’s mind to feel emotional attraction for women, this leads to the end of many potentially great relationships.
Psychology, emotions and millions of years of evolution don’t care about what society says men “should” want.
Most men split women into two categories in their male brains.
1. Women who they would consider falling in love with
2. Every other woman
That may seem harsh, but remember we’re dealing with the limited computing power of the male brain after all.
But seriously, the reality is men are psychologically attracted to specific emotional qualities that only some women have and most don’t.
But the good news is as much as men ogle women’s “physical assets”, the truth is they are far more psychologically triggered by women with specific emotional qualities.
The reason why men seem to focus on beauty is because it’s so freaking rare for men to meet women who trigger them emotionally.
If you learn to increase what I call “Yin feminine” energy, you can become addictive to men on a psychological level.
The great news is, MOST woman can learn how to do this.
It doesn’t matter how a man has seen you in the past.
With your understanding of male psychology about dating, you can change how men perceive you today and make a man fall deeply in love with you – if you start making the right changes.
I’m about to tell you a secret about male psychology in relationships and dating that flies in the face of what most women believe.
And there’s some truth in that..
Yeah, men can be dumb caveman idiots sometimes.
But we find that guys will chase women who are not particular good looking, rich or popular.
Why?
Here’s the hidden male psychology secret about love that you probably didn’t know.
Men have a subconscious “screening process” for who they stay in love with and who they don’t.
I say “subconscious” because typically it’s below his awareness… In other words, it’s not something he thinks about… it’s something he feels.
Many women fail this screening process because they trigger a man’s psychological process of losing interest and attraction. They don’t understand the psychology of how and why men fall love.
And this is a huge reason why many of today’s men choose the single life over a relationship.
Most men are looking for a specific, ongoing emotional experience with a woman.
Most women simply don’t give men this experience.
When a woman gives him this special experience, he will cross oceans slay dragons to be with her.
It doesn’t matter if he’s busy, not “ready”, not “feeling” it, has life drama… whatever.
When a woman gives him this specific emotional experience, that’s when you see men fully commit, grow warmer everyday, or give you his full attention.
If you want to learn the secret of how to give a man this ongoing emotional experience, you must sign up for my free “Men’s Psychology In Love Secrets” eLetter right now.
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Brandon
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When a man “ghosts” you after leading you to believe that he likes or even loves you, it’s an extremely confusing situation.
Sometimes men make it clear that he is very interested, and then poof… he’s gone.
He doesn’t reply to your messages, he doesn’t call, he doesn’t send anything at all.
The first thought that runs through many women’s head is, is he ok? Is his phone broken?
Did he DIE?
After these initial thoughts wear off and she gets a bit more clear headed (or sees his active status on social media), she may start wondering if there is another woman involved, or what possible reason he has to ghost her.
This is usually when the woman comes out of denial and anger sets in.
“How could he do this to me?” some women think. “How could he lead me on like this and then disappear?”
This is usually when the woman comes out of denial and anger sets in.
“How could he do this to me?” some women think. “How could he lead me on like this and then disappear?”
This is the hurt ego.
Most women in this situation can’t comprehend why a man would ghost out. It seems to make no sense at all, especially if he was showing a lot of interest or wanting to be together beforehand.
Well, after years of researching relationships between men and women and coaching thousands of women around the world, I’ve found that there are three foundational reasons we must consider why a man will “ghost” a woman.
He may have issues in his life blocking him from wanting to a relationship with you.
It could be family, work or life related… and it’s all about how HE is processing those events.
Not everyone is as mature as the Dalai Lama, and many men often handle relationships and life in immature or inefficient ways.
People are not perfect and often handle life in ineffective ways.
This is just something we must accept.
While you may feel that if you were in his life, you could make his life easier, he may not see it that way… and that’s just something we have to respect.
Why?
Because the harder you push a man to open up to you, the more likely he will dig his heals in and resist you.
Why?
Because men often need time and space to deal with issues. When they are forced to do something they’re not comfortable with (whatever the reason), it often makes men feel not understood and isolated. Not good if you want to get closer to him.
The second more likely reason why a man will ghost a woman is because of MISTAKES IN HER APPROACH to him.
Yes, even though he might have said sweet nothing to you before he ghosted, the fact is that he DID ghost you after all…. as much as the that might sting to hear.
One of the BIGGEST reasons why men are affectionate and then ghost out is when a woman interacts in a way with a guy that makes him feel TRAPPED.
Yes.
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Even though he was showing interest, many women don’t know how their energy and words truly affect men.
Men are not very open (even with themselves) about their honest feelings.
While he might THINK that he wants you, he THINK things like you are attractive, you would make a good girlfriend, mother of his children etc. his HEART is not FEELING the correct feeling… namely the insatiable desire to be with you and only you.
This is a dangerous position for a man because this can spur a little something called “commitment phobia”.
It’s this insatiable, highly emotional desire to be with a woman that I focus on teaching women how to make men feel.
This combined with how many women inadvertently come off as overly needy, talk about the future, this will push a man away fast.
Different men handle it differently. Some men will tell you to your face, other men will ghost because they don’t want to or don’t know how to deal with the situation.
It’s not that he’s a bad guy, it’s just that he doesn’t know any better and perhaps no one ever taught him how to deal with a situation like this.
The third reason is he has another woman in the picture.
In this situation, the only thing you can do is look like the BEST option for him.
This means becoming the woman who effortlessly creates an emotional bond in any man she choses.
This is something that ANY woman can learn to do if she so chooses and has the motivation to do so.
Often, the most powerful motivation for becoming our most attractive self is experiencing a situation in which we feel paralyzed emotionally and rejected by the object of our affection, perhaps the feeling you currently have.
In this situation, what you must do is look like the BEST choice for him.
Most women in this situation make the same mistakes that all the other woman make, making them look like every other woman and not special.
This means engaging in behaviors that lower a man’s attraction rather than increasing his attraction.
This means becoming the woman who effortlessly creates an emotional bond in any man she choses.
This is something that ANY woman can learn to do if she so chooses and has the motivation to do so.
Often, the most powerful motivation for becoming our most attractive self is experiencing a situation in which we feel paralyzed emotionally and rejected by the object of our affection, perhaps the feeling you currently have.
When a man ghosts you, the best thing you can possibly do is GIVE HIM AND THE SITUATION SPACE.
Most women who are ghosted, out of the fear of losing the guy, blow up a man’s phone asking him what he’s doing, where he is and what’s going on.
All this usually does is push the guy further away by demonstrating more of the behavior that were already pushing him away.
Many women either don’t get a response back or get a very excuse ridden, unsatisfying response that makes them feel even worse than before.
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This is a picture of the machine that turns a man on vs. a woman. I was forced into this by a female conspirator 🙂
(Picture courtesy of very frustrated man or woman).
By the way, if you’re humor bone has been broken, this a joke 🙂 .
Take care,
Brandon
Many women have to deal with aggressive guys who hit on them often and won't stop.
Sometimes you try to tell these guys your very best without hurting their feelings that you're not interested, they're not your type, but they STILL persist. They think they're being “persistent” and attractive but you know that they're never going to get anywhere.
And it's especially annoying when you are in a relationship already and you're content with your boyfriend.
Approaching and meeting new people/asking them out on a date shouldn't be anything to be embarrassed about and it should be as simple as walking a dog or riding a bike. It's just another thing.
But the problem is that it DOES get embarrassing. It's embarrassing when a guy comes up to you you're not interested in and you have to shut him down, and it's embarrassing when YOU go up to a guy who you want to go out with who shuts you down.
You feel guilty for standing up for yourself and telling him “No”.
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***QUESTION***
Your article is very good. It raises a question in me though: You spoke of setting a man free. It is nesessary for free flowing of love. Where do sexual relationships come in? What if you live for today, a man is facinated with you, he sleeps with you and becomes distant…you dont want to posses him or ask to commit but you also don’t want to be used for sex, you want a relationship, how to make a man understand that you are not possesing him but you are interested in a relationship, but the man sees it as commitment request. Its not. Perhaps you could write about this subject. Its on my mind alot. Thank you
MY COMMENTS:
The first thing you need to know is you're not alone.
Many women have an agonizing fear about being used for sex.
Why?
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There is a longstanding, unspoken rule for women: “I must be pretty or I don’t stand a chance being attractive to men.”
How much truth is there really that men only want women for their looks?
We all know that most men become dumb as a stump in the presence of an attractive woman, but is this all they pay attention to?
Men understand that they want a beautiful woman. Men ARE attracted to physical beauty.
Yeah, that is true… but there is also other specific criteria that if a woman posses, men will be attracted to, and men don’t necessarily understand “why”.
And I don’t mean this in that faux “fairy-tale ending” I-don’t-care-what-you-look-like kind of way…
A man, just like many women, doesn’t truly know exactly what he wants. He knows he want certain things, physical beauty, perhaps a woman with a strong career for instance, but he also doesn’t realize that physical beauty is not the only criteria that triggers men’s attraction.
There are inner qualities that a woman can posses that will blow a high quality man right over with high levels of attraction.
Many women find it hard to believe what I’m about to say, but the truth is these specific inner qualities far outweigh physical beauty.
But women who posses these quality are rare.
I know many women who dream up an ideal “perfect man” in there head only to find themselves falling in love with a man who is completely different from that image. The same thing applies to men.
I know many, many men who set out looking for a hot bombshell woman, what we can call an “average looking” woman… and not often not because he’s “settling”.
That woman sparks something special in him he has never felt from any other woman.
So, you might be wondering by now what these mysterious special qualities are that can take a man off the physical beauty conveyer belt.
These 12 things are a good start. If you haven’t read it, you gotta check it out right now.
But, there is something more to it.
What turns a man’s head to a woman even if she isn’t physically attractive to him?
What makes a man want a woman even if she isn’t his most physically attractive type (and when I say “not physically attractive”, I mean that she is at least keeping herself in shape as best as she can). “There is no such thing as an unattractive woman, only a lazy one” to quote a past girlfriend.
So, what causes a light bulb to actually flicker in his head and say “hmm, there is something about this woman… I just can’t explain it”?
The truth is it would take me a while to explain what men truly want beyond what billion dollar makeup companies want you to believe.
But we can start with one thing: your own Yin femininity.
Yin femininity is one of the most attractive quality a woman can have.
Yes, your very own natural femininity. If you think about it, physical beauty is just an extension of femininity. Femininity is the whole tree.
Personally, I have chosen to be with women who weren’t the most physically attractive to me in the past, but I could look past it because they shined, they emanated something from within.
There was a light in her eyes, and there was a specialness to her personality.
An “unattractive women” who see herself as such has lost that light. She has become hopeless and has lost touch with her femininity, her very silo of attractiveness.
She gets down on herself and worries constantly. She has the femininity there, but it gets covered up by negative thoughts and emotions.
This can eventually lead a woman to become more and more masculine as a subconscious protection device.
Many men do not find masculinity in women attractive, and this is a core problem of relationships and dating today for women.
Many of today’s women are acting more and more masculine.
In other words, they are forfeiting their softness, trusting, sensitivity, creativity, peace, light and joy in favor of strength, independence, cynicism, hard headedness, being rigid, and coldness.
I know from experience that a physically gorgeous woman with nothing else to offer can become exhausting and a burden.
Many men will break up or leave physically stunning women if this happens.
In other words, beauty alone isn’t enough to captures a man’s imagination.
I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve wanted to take this kind of woman by the hair and belt and toss her out a window (metaphorically speaking of course). And I know a few women who have wanted to do that with the men they date!
Women with nothing more to offer than looks are not interesting to most high quality men with options.
A guy will instantly be attracted to a beautiful woman, sure, and maybe even spend an evening or two with her, but soon after he will be dying to press the “eject” button if there’s nothing else within her that’s intriguing to him.
I don’t mean to sound like “if you’re beautiful, you’re not good enough”, but I’m saying this if you have been focusing of physical beauty to try to get a man.
Being beautiful truly isn’t enough for a quality guy.
Physically beauty is a small piece of the “male attraction” puzzle.
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We gravitate to a woman who has that spark of pure Yin femininity in her eye and heart… This is what polar attraction for you means. This sparks a man’s interest.
He wants someone who is going to be strong to take on the world with him and someone soft enough to give him feminine life.
Physical beauty may seem like the “be all end all”, but who you are as energy is the real be all end all… and the good news is you have complete control over it.
When you come to your confident femininity, this causes men to respond to you in a completely new way than what you are used to. He opens up to you, and he takes you under his wing.
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Brandon
Yes and no.
In the traditional sense, no.
A woman who does not meditate lets her emotions run her entire life. If she does not meditate, her life in in complete flux, 24/7, even while she is fast asleep!
She’s angry, upset, excited, elated, paranoid, jealous, afraid and loving all before the hat even hits the floor. She is so emotional that she doesn’t even have time to think about how emotional she is.
This is NOT what a man likes.
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(NOTE: This is part two of the in this series. Read the previous post here Getting a Guy to Commit.)
Here's a little story.
A feminine woman walks into a pet shop looking to buy a brand new puppy.
She takes a look around the litter and they're all cute, but she sees EXACTLY the one that she wants immediately.
She takes it home, names it “Fluffball” and falls in love with the puppy.
Now, a man walks in to the same puppy store and looks at the litter of puppies…but there's something different about the way he approaches the puppies, he's not really sure which one he wants.
In fact, he wants to take ALL of the puppies home with him and “try” them all out.
He's unsure about committing to one particular puppy so quickly.
Why is it so hard for a man just to want one woman, where as it's so easy for a woman to want just one man?
Here's a sobering fact: you will generally want love more than a man will if you don't know how to get him to “learn” to love you.
And men generally want to have more sexual partners than women.
The reason for this?
A sexual OBSESSION.
It's a well known fact that men think about sex all the time.
It has become an obsession.
Why?
Because sex is not something they shouldn't think about. It's something that's suppose to happen naturally, WITHOUT any thinking involved.
In the animal kingdom, animals mate and there is no thinking, there is only “doing” (each other).
In the human world, we have religion, society, parents and TV all condemning sex.
The absolutely natural, spontaneous event of sex has become an obsession because it has been REJECTED.
Surprisingly the world has looked down upon men enjoying sex.
You and I know that sexual energy is a very powerful energy and if it's pushed down, it has to go SOMEWHERE.
So that energy goes from the crotch to the CRANIUM.
When we reject sex as natural, we begin to think about it all the time rather than experiencing it naturally.
Sex is EVERYWHERE: advertisements, TV, Britney Spears etc. and it has such a profound effect on people because it is a condemned “taboo”.
Thing is, there is a lot guilt around sex.
It's almost unbelievable.
The point is, men are especially swamped in sexual obsession.
Why?
In general, it's more difficult for a man to get sexual partners than a woman.
Psychologists say that men throughout their lifetime will have 7 sexual partners on average and women 14.
No matter how you spin in, a girl simply has to be skinny and normal looking and she could walk down the street, ask any random guy to spend the night and nine times out of ten he will say “yes please!”
A man can't do this!
If a man were to walk down the street asking girls to spend the night, nine times out of ten he would be slapped!
We both know that women make it “difficult” for a man to get sex.
Most women have been taught all of their lives to do this from when they a little girl.
You don't know what he'll do once you say “yes”.
Once you say “yes”, you have given away all of your chips…HOPING that he will make a commitment afterwards.
And when a man doesn't need it so badly, it makes a woman crazy.
And you think by “holding out” from him it will make him want you even more too…but it never works out in the long run.
Sure it gets a man immediately interested, but as you something is missing.
It does something interesting to a man's psychology.
He becomes obsessed with “conquests”…and the problem is many women encourage it!
Women become teases.
I don't say that you are a tease, but many women are.
A woman will dress and act sexually without any intention of actually following through on it just to get a man to want her.
This drives men even deeper into their madness of their sexual obsession…which causes them to get the “wandering eye” later in a relationship.
Then when you finally DO have sex with a man, he is quick to leave…
Why?
Because he has “conquered” you.
You must approach this situation in an entirely NEW way if you would like men to stop using you for sex.
For a man to commit, you must learn how to calm his feverish obsession.
You ALLOW him to fall in love with you by becoming the woman he WANTS and WILL WANT for a long time.
A good start is by learning the 12 things that make a woman irresistible.
By the way, I'd love to hear your comments or questions, so if you have any, leave them below (make sure you read our Comments Policy beforehand).
I'll talk to you again soon.
With honor,
Brandon
