12 Things That Make You Irresistible To Men

Inspire heart-centered Attraction In Men

by Brandon Martin

by Brandon Martin

Author of Become His Goddess

What makes a man find a woman irresistible psychologically, emotionally and energetically speaking.

Why do so many women today experience men suddenly becoming disinterested, pulling away or shutting down… and what can you do about it?

After more than ten years coaching thousands of women…

And years researching relationship dynamics, I’ve discovered “secrets” about how to be irresistible to men, which most experts aren’t talking about.

Secrets that cause a psychic-spiritual “spark” that make men feel irresistibly attracted to a woman.

Thing is, being irresistible to men is not what most women think it is.

Almost all women believe beauty is controls if a woman is irresistible or not.

Yeah, some men are cavemen and think with the wrong head…

Other women think it’s success or being an independent woman.

The reality is, what men find irresistible is the ongoing emotional experience a man has with you.

This is virtually true for all men regardless of what they say or how they act.

If you’ve had trouble keeping a guy interested, you’re likely making one or more common mistakes that take from his emotional experience… Or, you’re not doing enough of the right things to create it.

It’s important that you learn how to be irresistible to men in today’s competitive dating world.

Being in the top 5% of women will change your love life and make men effortless to deal with.

Unless you understand how to be irresistible to men, you’ll deal with men losing interest, falling out of love or avoiding commitment. Learn about how to be irresistible to men by reading on!

1. What Men Never Tell That Sparks irresistible Attraction

I've observed this interesting little trap many women fall into...

Many women already believe they know what men find irresistible and what makes a woman desirable.

For example, many women believe men want a young, beautiful girlfriend.

But the question, why do we find so many great guys in relationships with “average” looking women? Why do men find these women irresistible and not others?

I’ve discovered that most women don’t truly understand male psychology or emotions and what men find irresistible… even when they think they do.

This can lead to frustration and not getting love or interest from men from being attached to ideas about what causes men to feel attraction that may not be true.

But who could blame women? Most men aren’t exactly “open books” about their inner world.

After years talking to guys about they want in a woman, I discovered an "odd" quality most men are instantly attracted to…

What most men secretly find irresistibly attractive in a woman is child-like energy attractive (not childish energy mind you).

Most women are told they should act like an adult, so why am I tell you to be childlike?

Most of today’s women are “burnt out” from bad past experiences with men, stress and being over worked from school, work and other obligations.

Today’s dating climate is tough on women, and this causes fear about her future and towards men.

The problem is, no matter how much you and I know this, men tend to lack or lose interest in women who are fear-based or stressed.

Listen closely to this “secret” about men.

What makes a woman irresistible to men is childlike, playful, innocent energy. This is one reason why men will choose one woman over another.

A girl playing on the playground hasn’t been used, betrayed or burdened by stress yet.

She simply plays in the sand, swings on the swings and counts the grains of sand in her hand. She is alive and lives in the now. That’s what men find to be irresistible in women.

I’m always amazed when I see 18-year-old girls who seem like they’re 48, and then when I see 48-year-old women who feel 18.

It’s a matter of learning what “energy” men emotionally respond to in women.

2. Turning His "Coldness" Into Warm Connection

After years observing thousands of women interact with men, I discovered most guys are cavemen when it comes women’s feelings.

When men do brainless things like not call/text back or acting cold, distant or not giving love and attention, many women react emotionally to a situation like this.

Most women don’t know what to do when a man want to do loving things on his own.

Many women in this situation feel hurt and end up lashing out or starting a fight.

The problem is, this causes men to pull away suddenly, act distant or cold even more because he doesn’t understand female emotions.

Then, women find themselves in frustrating situations where they:

Most men are dense don’t realize when they have hurt a woman, so these things often cause men to feel they can’t make her happy.

Most men simply see a scary and emotional woman who they don’t know how to handle.

So, what do men really want?

Men universally crave light-heartedness, humor and relaxation in women … ESPECIALLY when things get rough.

That’s what makes a woman irresistible. Unfortunately, this is very rare for men to find.

The combination of humor and light-heartedness is like a billboard mounted to a woman’s forehead that says, “I’m the one!”

This makes a woman very desirable to men.

If you lead with a sense of humor when things don’t go well, it can instantly turn a situation around and spark emotional attraction that is irresistible to men.

If you’re in a situation like this, you need to  learn how to reverse this before things gets worse.

3. If He pulls Away, You May Be Doing This

When guys act like cavemen and get distant, not call/text back or other hurtful things, most women let their emotions stack up, become negative and lash out.

Most good women don’t mean to do this, but something as simple as this makes men start to lose attraction and distance themselves emotionally.

If it’s done repeatedly, it can kill a man’s attraction altogether.


Emotions scare the hell out most men.

The reality is, men universally look for a woman who expresses positive emotions in the right way. This type of woman has the power to get a man literally addicted because there are not many women out there like this.

In fact, a woman who expresses positive emotion consistently is more attractive to men than beauty queens, models or actresses. This is why you’ll often see attractive men with “average” looking women.

Men find emotional balance incredibly irresistible in women and is often a deciding factor in choosing one woman over another.

All men secretly hope to meet a woman who adds emotional value to his life, not just physical.

This takes a meaningful readjustment of the way you approach men and relationships to be truly irresistible to men.

4. What To Do If a guy Shuts Down Emotionally

Let’s face it. Many of today’s women have a borderline A.D.D. situation going on… oh hey look a butterfly… err back on track.

But seriously, that can be cute for some guys at first. I find it hilarious and love to make light-hearted fun of women like this. But “A.D.D.” can turn into impatience, and this can turn into frustration and emotional aggression when things don’t happen fast enough.

What I’m talking about is relaxing more and being more open to going with the flow with him.

This is the same attitude that rockstars have, and rockstars, male or female, are some of the most irresistible people on the planet.

What makes a seemingly “boring” quality like patience make a woman irresistible to men?

Simply because it’s so RARE and sub-communicates confidence and desirability.

Here’s a clue to being irresistible to men that most women will never know.

Men are purpose and goal-oriented. Men value the vision they want to create in life above all else. It could be that he wants to start a family, travel the world, build a business… it could be anything.

The point is when a man meets a woman, he secretly hopes that she will relax with his path. If she does he will literally feel that she completes him.

5. Create an Instant Bond With Your Body (not like that)

Behavioral psychologists recently found that…

Body language accounts for 55% of all communication between men and women, while vocal tonality accounts for 38%.

If this is true, it means… words are only 7% of all communication.

93% of the signals we give socially are based on body language and vocal tonality alone.

So many women ask me “what do I say to him to make him want me?”

Instead of focusing on just 7% of communication, I’ll suggest that you can create more attraction and interest with men by focusing on the other 93%.

Body language is a fascinating subject to me, and I’d like to give you what I consider to be a “magic formula” for body language that subconsciously tells men you’re irresistible and you know it. Learn about body language and how to be irresistible to men:

a. Lead your body with your hips.

You may have mixed feelings about her (I’m not her biggest fan either), but Paris Hilton is a master of this and has irresistible body language.

Walking this way conveys sexuality, confidence and feminine swagger. Simply walking like this can instantly get a respectable guy’s attention.

b. Arch your lower back to allow tension off your upper-back and shoulders. 

Your shoulders can sub-communicate many things to men. When you use them correctly, you emulate what men find irresistible.

Hunching sub-communicates low self-esteem, which is not what most high-quality men look for.

Shoulders should be rolled back a bit as to not hide your chest (no matter the size) and to avoid hunching.

c. Raise your chin.

A chin up in the air conveys self-confidence instantly.

This will also help focus your body to stand straight up, as if you’re laying vertically on a bed.

d. Show those beautiful pearly whites.

What makes a woman irresistible is a winning smile.

Why? Because smiling conveys confidence and playfulness.

When you have powerful body language, it’s as close to “magic” as it gets to seeing men respond instantly with irresistible attraction.

6. Why Looking Like A Supermodel Makes Him Pull Away

Are most high-quality guys looking for “supermodel” good looks?

After interviewing thousands of guys, I’ve discovered most men are not looking for a supermodel.

Physical attraction is created simply by a man seeing that you care about your presentation.

If a man is “talking” to you, it means he’s physically attracted enough to you to be in a relationship with you.

Beauty, healthy hair, good-looking skin, well-done makeup, healthy weight; these are the superficial things men adore.

Where many women get tripped up is believing that external beauty is everything… it is not.

Have you ever stopped to think… what is beauty?

It’s a question I like thinking about.

I believe beauty is the outward expression of what I call Yin Femininity. Men are find Yin Femininity irresistible like NOTHING else.

But it’s against Yin Femininity to be obsessed with looks, or you become an insecure rollercoaster seeking approval from men. When you chase after validation, you can’t be irresistible.

Here’s what I believe makes a woman desirable:

Balance, balance, balanceee.

Fact is, inner is just as important as outer.

There is a way to become inwardly beautiful to men in a way that makes you irresistible like crazy.

7. If He Gets Distant, Avoid This That kills attraction

I know something about you…

You are a goal driven, intelligent woman.

I know because you’re seeking answers to this essential area of life called “love”.

However, many smart women get tripped up thinking too much… usually about the past or worrying about the future.

The problem is, getting stuck in your head kills attraction with men.

A woman who is “here now” and present is sharp, responsive, alive, witty and keeps a man on his toes.

A man can look into her eyes and see that she is with him here and now and not stuck in her head. This allows him to fall in love.

A woman who is in the “now” is completely attractive and irresistible to men.

Most men never find this woman, so when she does come, well, let’s just say… have you ever heard of those stories about guys proposing after dating for three months?

Every woman has the ability to cultivate this aspect of herself… you just have to learn how.

8. Using His fear of intimacy to Make An Unbreakable Connection

Many smart women fall into this tricky trap….

Confusing neediness for love.

I’ve come to discover that neediness can disguise itself as “love”.

Let me explain.

I think we can agree that true love is when we think about the other person’s happiness before our own.

Neediness is a fixation on how our own needs are not being met.

Love is courageous and feels blissful… while neediness is fear-based and feels painful.

Many guys sense neediness the more time they spend with a girl, which can cause them to slowly pull away.

When a woman starts to get emotionally attached to a guy and hopes he gives her more love and attention, men often pull away because neediness is a quality that men avoid when looking for a partner.

What most men find irresistible and is a woman who LOVES him rather than needs him.

Need is not being able to live without him, while love is wanting him to be an addition to your life.

A confident woman who can love and desire gets the love from the man she wants. Women who are overly-attached, on the other hand, find it difficult to get the love they deserve.

It is possible to develop high levels confidence with men if you know how.

If you deal with neediness everyday and want to become free of fear, anxiety, neediness, self-doubt or jealousy, then check out my emotional balancing tips.

9. If he looks "bored", do this

Most men say they want independence, which is true.

But I’ve found that men secretly want to feel taken care of as well.

To many women this comes naturally. The problem is when men do hurtful things, many women pull back this quality out of fear, insecurity or anger.

The Indian mystic Osho once said “a man’s life is a journey to find the happiness he once felt inside the womb of his mother.” Deep stuff.

Could you imagine what would happen if you were able to make him feel the happiness he once felt in his mother’s womb?

Is it even possible?

There are ways to make him feel this way that I don’t have time to get into now (you can learn more in my products and programs).

It’s a basic female, motherly instinct to nurture.

Most guys do want a tiny bit of mommy in the woman they’re spending their time with.

But because of society, “responsibilities” and the resentment they build towards men, many women have lost touch with this part of themselves.

Instead, many women reprimand, nag and even demand men give them the love and attention they want.

If you’re not nurturing him, there’s a good chance that he will distrust your ability to fulfill him emotionally.

Related: How To Make Him Chase You: 6 Brutal Mistakes Most Women Make

10. Why "Conservative" Sex Doesn't Work & What To Do

There’s no denying it…

Sex is a powerful, emotionally bonding event.

And mastering the bedroom can trigger a man’s heart to open up to you and massively change how a man feels about you.

Many magazines come out with “tricks” for the bedroom.

But there’s something simpler and more effective you can do to be irresistible to men in the bedroom.

It comes down to this…

You must know how to create a relaxed environment in the bedroom. Most women create tensed environment in the bedroom by worrying about how they look or if they’re “pleasing” him.

That all you need to start making men feel irresistibly in love and attracted to you in the bedroom.

This simple shift can cause a man to feel that you are different from other girls. It’s easier than you might think to master the bedroom with men, you just have to know how and then act.

11. How jealousy Kills love, & what to do

There are women who live in fear, and women who live in love.

In my experience, most women live in constant fear of:

The list goes on.

Fear can kill a man’s attraction because men are universally drawn to women who live in love, positivity, joy, creativity.

Unfortunately, most women live in constant worry, self-judgment, guilt or anxiety due to not knowing how to get what they want from men.

And this causes them to adopt an approach to men that utilizes games or manipulation.

Worse yet, there are many voices that encourage it and say it works.

But I believe what makes a woman absolutely irresistible and desirable is choosing love over fear. When you base your actions with men off of love-based thoughts and energy, you act in ways that attract love from men naturally without effort.

A woman who sees dance, celebration and music wherever she goes is one of the most desirable qualities a woman can have.

Love is, in fact, the most powerful energy in the universe and is the core of Yin Feminine energy, which is the most irresistibly attractive energy there is to men.

12. Make him want to wrap you in his arms Forever

I’d like to ask you an obvious yet powerful question…

Why do so many women fail to make men irresistibly attracted to them?

Some women would say a lack of confidence or not being pretty enough.

Well, the truth I’ve found after coaching women around the world for over 10 years is most women aren’t irresistible to guys because they lack integrity.

Unfortunately, many women simply do whatever they think will get them the results they want… even if that means dishonest behavior or games.

Ironically, this is exactly what robs women of their power with men.

Some women feel “entitled” to act this way because of how they have been badly and unfairly treated by men in the past.

What makes a woman desirable is having admirable love-centered values.

When a man knows a woman can be swayed to dishonesty to get what she wants, he will lose trust and may leave because he knows one day, it may be him at the business end of her sword.

A woman who stands up for love and won’t play games is a beacon of light to men.

This can and often does inspire men out of their own B.S.

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