Hey there, it’s me—Mr. Right, the guy you’ve been waiting for.
Now, that might sound like a cocky thing to say, and it is.
But I’m only saying it because it’s true, and you’d be wise to pay attention to the gold advice I’m about to give you (completely for free btw), the way I’ve given it to countless thousands of other women in my career as a dating coach.
I’m the guy who listens, who’s calm yet fun, strong and leading, and who brings just the right balance of sweet with toxic that keeps most women I date coming back for more.
I’m tall, handsome, and my bank account doesn’t look half bad.
Now, I’m NOT bragging or trying to look like a complete d**k.
I’m simply saying how it is…. and that if you have a similar guy in your life that you are addicted to, you should probably listen to me closely.
Here’s the thing about making a relationship work with a guy like me (or any guy, really): it’s all about how you talk to us.
Communication is the key to keeping things smooth and drama-free.
So let me share some insider secrets to communicating better in a relationship—secrets that’ll keep you out of the “what did I do wrong?” zone and firmly in the “this feels amazing” territory. Ready? Here’s the playbook:
1. Listen to Understand, Not Just to Respond
One thing I love? Feeling like you actually hear me… not just planning your epic comeback.
Most women I and most guys alike date don’t really listen very well.
Most women are usually fixated on their own needs, wants desires and tend to forget that the guy they’re dating has a world of dreams himself.
Trust me, I can tell when you’re gearing up for a zinger.
But when you let me finish my thoughts, it’s like hitting a “relationship jackpot” in the communication department.
What Most Women Do:
Many women, especially when they’re super passionate (yes, we love that about you), jump in mid-sentence with a response. I get it—you’re excited! You want to be heard.
But letting me finish helps both of us. Give me a moment, truly digest what I’m saying to you and then hit me with your best insight that incorporates what I had to say.
Try This: Take a beat, and try reflecting back what I just said. It shows me you’re on the same page, and it lets me know that you’re really listening.
Reflecting back what someone says is one of the secret ways that famous authors like Dale Carnegie have described to build strong rapport and solid relationships.
2. Express Your Feelings Directly and Honestly
Listen, you might have ESPN (if you haven’t seen Mean Girls, I’m wondering if we can really be friends).
But if you’re waiting for ME to read your mind, you could be in for a long wait.
Listen, us guys are dumb sometimes. It takes us sometimes a long time figure out what a woman wants or expects from us.
To us guys, women can be an enigma, a mystery.
So instead of dropping hints, just tell me directly how you feel. This is like a relationship life hack.
What Most Women Do:
Some women believe guys should “just know” what’s going on. Spoiler: We don’t. We’re not ignoring signals; we’re just terrible at reading them. Like I said, we are dumb.
If you’re mad, let me know why instead of letting me guess.
Try This: Use “I” statements, like “I feel insulted when you don’t go down on me…” It keeps things clear and helps me focus on what’s actually wrong, not some puzzle I’m supposed to solve, and then next time, I know to go down on you with extra care!
Hey, don’t get mad at my crude humor, I already told you I was a bit toxic.
3. Take Accountability Instead of Blaming
Look, I’ll admit us guys don’t always get it right.
But constantly blaming me (or the guy) for everything is like using a sledgehammer when a gentle tap would do. Relationships work best when you’re a team, not an investigative squad.
What Most Women Do:
The blame game can be strong. Maybe we don’t always get it, but jumping straight to “it’s all his fault” shuts things down fast. I promise I’ll listen better if I don’t feel like I’m in trouble.
Try This: Instead of saying “You never listen,” go with “I sometimes feel unheard.” It helps me feel like we’re solving a problem together, not prepping for a blame-game showdown.
4. Show Appreciation For His Perspective And Lead
Believe it or not, when I’m taking the lead on things, it’s not about control; it’s about making things easy for you.
Men intuitively know that women feel happier when they’re not in the drivers seat. They’re free to enjoy life while business is getting handled by me.
And there is nothing that men want more than to make a woman happy because of his hard work and dedication.
I’m genuinely happiest when I’m contributing to our life together and making you feel relaxed, secure, happy and playful… but feeling appreciated makes a huge difference.
What Most Women Do:
Sometimes, women feel like letting a guy lead means giving up control. But letting us take the reins on some things actually feels amazing for us—it’s like a little boost of respect and trust.
Try This: Thank me when I take the lead… that’s it. If you like guys who are leaders and you want the man in your life to lead, you have to positively reinforce the behaviors you want to see more of.
Whether it’s planning a date or taking on a household task. It’s amazing how a little baby amount of appreciation can turn us into Prince Charming.
5. Choose the Right Time To Talk
Imagine this: you’re about to start a serious convo, and I’m mid-binge on my favorite show, or just walked in from a long, stressful day at the office.
Timing matters, trust me.
We love talking about the real stuff, just preferably not right after we sit down to relax.
What Most Women Do:
The instinct to tackle issues right away can feel a bit intense. But when emotions run high, sometimes we need a sec to get ready for a deep talk.
Try This: Just say, “I’d love to talk about something when you’re ready.” I’ll be prepared to listen, and it won’t feel like a surprise pop quiz.
6. Be Mindful Of Your Body Language And Tone
Non-verbal cues? They speak volumes.
Closed-off body language or a sharp tone can make us guys feel like we’re under fire.
A little warmth from you, on the other hand, keeps things calm and helps us really tune in.
This may seem insignificant, but trust me, this small point is truly important.
What Most Women Do:
Many women don’t even realize when they’re sending “stay away” vibes, but crossed arms or a sharper tone can make us feel like we’ve already lost the argument. Women are really expert at arguing and that can make us guys feel frustrated and like we’re not being heard at all.
Try This: Keep your body language open, face me directly, and make eye contact. You’d be amazed at how relaxed and ready to listen we’ll be with a welcoming vibe.
7. Set Realistic Expectations and Practice Flexibility
Sure, I’m not perfect, and I don’t expect you to be, either. But having super high expectations can make it feel like we’re constantly falling short. Relationships thrive on a bit of give and take.
What Most Women Do:
Sometimes, women can go into relationships with sky-high expectations. But reality? It’s a mix of good days and growth days. No guy’s flawless (yet).
Try This: Practice releasing minor expectations and going with the flow. Appreciate what’s working, and you might be surprised by how much smoother things feel.
8. Express Needs Constructively Rather than Demanding
Look, we love knowing how to make you happy, but please go easy on us with the demands. A constructive request goes a long way, and we’re usually thrilled to deliver when it feels collaborative.
What Most Women Do:
Sometimes, needs come out sounding like demands, which can feel like a checklist we’re destined to fail. Instead, try making it a team effort.
Try This: Frame needs as a request, like, “It would mean a lot to me if…” You’ll get your way (trust me), and we’ll feel like we’re contributing.
9. Address Insecurities Internally First
Insecurities are natural, but constantly seeking validation can start to wear on us. Managing them constructively, like through journaling or reflection, helps build confidence in both yourself and our relationship.
What Most Women Do:
Constant reassurance-seeking can feel exhausting for us. We’re here for you, but sometimes it’s helpful if you handle insecurities from within rather than placing them on us.
Try This: Next time you’re feeling insecure, take a moment to reflect or journal. You’ll feel stronger, and we’ll be grateful for the stability it brings to our relationship.
10. Let Go of Grudges Quickly
Arguments? They’re normal. But holding onto them? That’s exhausting for both of us. Letting go of minor frustrations shows a willingness to move forward together.
What Most Women Do:
Sometimes, grudges stick around longer than necessary, making us both feel stuck. We don’t love being reminded of past mistakes.
Try This: Release small annoyances quickly. Focus on the positive, and I’ll feel that much more motivated to show up as my best self.
Final Thoughts from Mr. Right: How to Communicate Better in a Relationship
Relationships are about growth, compromise, and mutual effort. When you’re aware of how to communicate and avoid common pitfalls like blame, control, or high expectations, you’re building a foundation of respect and trust that makes everything easier.
Remember, I don’t expect perfection—just small, meaningful efforts to bring us closer. But there’s also a lot more than this playbook that you need to know about to get men emotionally addicted to you, captivated and dreaming about spending all of his free time with you.
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