Dating in 2024 is full of new dynamics that even 10 years ago we didn’t see.

Things have changed dramatically with the rise of social media and bad advice.

While both men and women bring unique challenges to relationships, certain habits or misunderstandings tend to show up in how many women approach dating today.

Here are five common MISTAKES that can create disconnects with men and cause them to get distant and how to approach them.

1. Expecting Him To Read Your Mind

• Why It’s a Problem: Many women believe that if a man truly cares, he should know what she wants or how she feels without her saying it. This creates frustration on both sides, especially when he has no idea what’s going on.
• The Solution for Men: When you sense tension or something feels off, consider asking directly, “How can I support you?” A genuine, straightforward question can encourage her to communicate instead of expecting mind-reading.

2. Taking His Efforts for Granted

• Why It’s a Problem: When the little things a man does—like remembering details, planning dates, or even just helping out—go unnoticed, he may feel unappreciated. Men often give through actions, and feeling unappreciated can make him pull back.
• The Solution for Men: Set a tone of appreciation. Praise each other’s efforts, both small and large. A positive environment tends to encourage reciprocity and helps her notice the things that bring her closer to you.

3. Projecting Past Relationship Issues Onto Him

• Why It’s a Problem: Everyone carries emotional baggage from past relationships, but assuming your partner will act like your ex boyfriends can be damaging. If you expect him to hurt you or be unfaithful without going into the relationship in good faith, it going to put an unimaginable strain on the guy you’re dating.
• The Solution for Men: If you sense she’s responding based on past pain, gently but firmly remind her of the present: “Let’s give each other the opportunity to start fresh.” This can help ground the relationship and remind her you’re not the same as those who came before.

4. Not Acknowledging His Need for Space

• Why It’s a Problem: Many men value personal space and time to themselves. Women who take a man’s need for space as a sign of disinterest or distance may unintentionally create more tension by pushing for more time together.
• The Solution for Men: Make sure she understands why your space is important. Saying something like, “I really value my alone time; it recharges me and helps me show up better in the relationship” gives her clarity and reinforces your commitment.

5. Putting Him In the ‘Provider’ Role Only

• Why It’s a Problem: While many men are happy to provide. But constantly putting him in this role while neglecting other forms of partnership can create a one-sided dynamic. Men also want emotional connection, affection, intimacy and support beyond the traditional provider role.
• The Solution: Encourage balance. Invite him into an equal partnership where you both contribute emotionally. Simple but clear statements about what matters to you emotionally and in terms of support can open his perspective on the mutual effort required in a relationship.

Now, if you haven’t already, you need to download my eBook “Become His Goddess” and start learning exactly what men want from women to get the most commitment, affection and love possible from the guy you’re most interested in.