The “Great Wall of China” has nothing on the wall a man can surround himself with.
Nor does a brick wall, impenetrable fortress or even the great Mount Kilimanjaro…
Why is it so difficult to communicate and connect with a man in a relationship… on a psychological, emotional and even physical level?
Why is it so difficult to have him listen to how you feel, and have him tell you how he feels and connect on a deeper, more “together” like level?
Are most men just “broken” in that department?
The answer is… not most!
But seriously most men are perfectly capable of communication with a woman.
They just decide not to.
The reason why communication stops (or never starts) has a lot to do with a man’s past, of course, but there’s a shorter answer that has to do with one very special thing most women fail to create with a man that we will talk about in a second.
Here’s the reality of a situation when a man is not communicating.
If he is not communicating and opening up with you, you’re only in half a relationship with him… and it has little, if anything, to do with something going on outside of the relationship.
It’s not because of his job, it’s not because of his friends, it’s not because of his family or anything else going on in his life.
Limited or no communication is simply a SYMPTOM of something deeper going on.
Usually when a man is not open or communicating, it’s really because of something going on INSIDE the relationship… and nine times out of ten it has to with this one special ingredient that most women don’t know how to create in a relationship with a man.
That ingredient is TRUST.
The literal translation of the word trust is reliance on the integrity, strength, ability of a person or thing (pulled from dictionary.com).
Now, let me ask you a question.
Can you really say that your man feels a deep sense of reliability in your integrity, strength and ability to handle him?
Does HE feel that you would put your life on the line for him? Does he trust that you can fulfill his needs on all levels: his mind, heart, body and emotions?
Does he honestly believe that he could reveal his deepest darkest secrets to you and nothing would happen to the relationship except that a deeper connection w
We both know that you would absolutely without thought do everyone of these things for him, but does HE believe that?
Chances are, if he’s not communicating with you, then the answer to these questions is “no”.
Where most women go wrong is assuming that he “should” know because she loves him. But more often than not, men are not what you would call mind readers… In fact most men can be a little more then dense…
But the truth is most women never learn the right way HOW to communicate their trustworthiness to a man so that he gets it and opens up.
You have to treat a man like a man, or else he won’t understand the messages you’re trying to deliver.
If your man isn’t communicating with you, then it’s time to start building more trust with your man before it’s too late.
A distant, non-communicative man is a sure sign that a relationship is in danger.
So the real question is how do you make a man trust you so much so that he’s communicating openly and even allowing himself to unleash his “inner dork” with you (a.k.a. intimacy)?
The real “trick” is to create an atmosphere of trust with him so that he feels absolutely SAFE being around you… and that has a lot to with with your level of emotional reactivity.
When your man trusts you, a DEEP level of trust for you, he will open up to you on his own.
And when he starts communicating with you, you have to be ready to talk with him the right way so that he continues to open up and even deeper… If you handle a man’s truth the wrong way like most women do, you risk slamming the door shut on his throat for good.
No matter how much both you and I know that you’re a very trustworthy person deep down inside, this is more about you communicating this to him in the RIGHT way so that he understands.
You must learn how to bridge your “female world” with his male world.
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